I think for me it is realising that monogamy isn't just "never sleeping with someone else".
As such I don't view a partner stepping out as a betrayal, I view them telling me as a breaking of trust. As I have a don't ask don't tell policy. Mostly because knowing will only hurt me.

I have a casual partner, and I'd honestly never consider a serious partner until I was out of this work.

I noticed RKitten hasn’t been online for some time. So thought if I could pick some others thoughts on this matter. Regarding having a casual partner. Propositioning an open relationship to them. So as to have a relationship of some sorts without letting them get overly attached and not having to disclose you escort.

Whilst working it’s virtually impossible to maintain a typical committed relationship. As suspicions arise. Phone checking can happen. Questions asked. Answerable at times for your whereabouts. It’s too god damn stressful of an act to keep up  but also it’s not fair on them when they get hurt. And we too can ultimately get hurt from the heartache at the end. I’ve been there, done that, got the t shirt.

So how do some of you proposition an open relationship without coming across as a hussy that your wanting to sleep around. And in an open relationship still have them respect you and care for you.

I was thinking to say I’ve witnessed growing up some damaging relationships and experienced them of my own. And don’t want to be answerable to being someone’s everything. But to have a respectful casual open happy relationship. And if they ask me ever during this, why they can’t use my personal phone for example. I say phones these days are so personal. My diary and thoughts are in my phone etc.

I just would like to have a connection with someone (to recharge my batteries when not working, which I really need)  without having to disclose work life. Be able to have some secrets. But also that they treat me more than a fuck buddy that  deserves a sweet caring txt now and then and has some sort of more meaningfulness than one night stands.

It’s extremely hard isn’t it..

I wouldn't dream of telling any partner. As far as I'm concerned it's my personal thing he doesn't need to know. I'm setting up a future for myself with some goals and aspirations. No one needs to know or judge me for what I choose to do with my life. When I'm ready to settle I will quit the job and it will be a thing of the past dead and buried. I've been on a few casual dates but not seen the guys again simply because we didn't click. There is no need for any if them to know anything about this job.

I've never been the sort of person who needs to have her bf around all the time and I don't like unexpected visits. I tour mostly so as far as any fella is concerned 'im away for work' when i get back I resume to life as normal.

My ex knew what I did. He made my life difficult while I was with him and was emotionally abusive (I didn't see it at the time)

Once we ended things, he went on a smear campaign and told everyone including mutual friends, family and even my boss at my civvy job. He tried really hard to screw me over. All this is current and ongoing. He is still harassing me and sending threats via email. Miserable bastard.

Thats been my experience. Would I have a relationship while escorting? Personally, no. Why bother with all the complexities when I can be single and simple?

I could have written this myself - this was my situation too!

Quite a few people are polyamorous now (dating more than one person at a time) or want to be. I think those type of people might be more open minded about his work. There is a local polyamorous meet up group near me.

Reading this thread is just what I needed to try and get things in prospective.
I’ve had to return for financial reasons (lost civvie job) and wanted to be honest with bf of 7 months as in the past I’ve been so deceitful with guys in the past and can’t lie to him, he is the sweetest guy I’ve ever met. He was not happy and I completely get that, I’m actually surprised that there are so many men out there that do accept it. He is also concerned about STIs which I think is the least of his worries, us SW are more clued up and aware of sexual health than your average girl.
So where we are at now I’m more or less waiting for him to make a decision really I know what’s coming just feeling a bit heartbroken.
I hope you don’t mind me sharing as no one else to tell.

I haven't been able to make it work, unfortunately. I don't obsess over it bc I'm not in a place where I need a guy, but yeah, it's a drag. With the exception of 3/4 ppl, everyone thinks I'm in health insurance & that's why I travel the East Coast so much.

Sidebar: I'm amazed what ppl simply believe when you feed it to them. No one's batted an eye, but to be fair, I spent 20 years in that industry, so it's a perfectly plausible lie.

I have a cpl guys here in Atlanta I date in the most casual way; dinner, movies, art shows, museums, roll in the hay lol. As I say to them, "I'm the best kind of GF to have: 1 that's not around too much."😆😂

I met someone i fell in love with when on a break from working, bizaarly turned out he worked in the sex trade himself decades ago. Stupidly i told him I had to and as soon as that happened he completely changed, started gas lighting me and went from someone who was lovely to me to negative, mean and cruel emotionally.  I will never tell any man ever again after that experience it left me completely broken.  I'm still hurt over it now to be honest and won't allow myself exposed to being in love again whilst I am back working.