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Jessiegirl

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Re: Relationships whilst escorting?
« Reply #480 on: 16 February 2021, 03:10:35 pm »
I think you've just met the wrong guys. What you earn is your business and they should respect that. Also anyone putting you down is just a form of control.

Don't give up though there are lots of lovely guys out there.

I get a lot of enjoyment sexually with my job too and doubt I'd ever have a one night stand again.

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« Reply #481 on: 16 February 2021, 04:06:35 pm »
I think you've just met the wrong guys. What you earn is your business and they should respect that. Also anyone putting you down is just a form of control.

Don't give up though there are lots of lovely guys out there.

I get a lot of enjoyment sexually with my job too and doubt I'd ever have a one night stand again.

I hear what you are saying but there are risks and benefits, and to me the potential risks outweigh any potential benefits. Being with men, either full time or casually, just has never been worth the heartache and disappointments, there are so many other things to enjoy in life that have been more fulfilling.

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« Reply #482 on: 16 February 2021, 04:47:11 pm »
Sorry to hear that. I think in time you will meet someone.

However like you say there are so many other things in life to enjoy so don't focus on men and relationships right now. I always find when you focus too much on finding someone it never happens.

But keep positive.

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« Reply #483 on: 16 February 2021, 05:13:27 pm »
I think mostly it is very hard having relationships while escorting. You are right if a lot of guys are ok with you doing this job i do question why are they? I have had plenty of past friends that do this and there boyfriends/husbands knew what they did and they just sponged off them and had no respect for them they encouraged them to work the boyfriends became more lazy as well, i felt very sad that some of the women were putting up with it. I myself could never put up with a man treating me this way but sometimes they do it in a very brainwashing way over time and you do not always see it straight away.

There could be some that have a different experience and find it works with the boyfriend they have and they are both very open minded to this. I suppose it depends what type of man you meet and how you also feel about the sex work too. I think there is some women on here where the arrangement works for them well but yet again depends on the man.

For me but this is only my opinion for myself and how i feel, i would not want to be with a man that was really cool with me doing sex work and happy for me to do it long term i would find that hard. I only do sex work for me.



 



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« Reply #484 on: 16 February 2021, 05:17:44 pm »
What i will say though if you have a boyfriend that has accepted your job just make sure he has a full time job and will never expect money off you or to keep him that is when you know you are being badly used.

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« Reply #485 on: 16 February 2021, 05:47:06 pm »
I think mostly it is very hard having relationships while escorting. You are right if a lot of guys are ok with you doing this job i do question why are they? I have had plenty of past friends that do this and there boyfriends/husbands knew what they did and they just sponged off them and had no respect for them they encouraged them to work the boyfriends became more lazy as well, i felt very sad that some of the women were putting up with it. I myself could never put up with a man treating me this way but sometimes they do it in a very brainwashing way over time and you do not always see it straight away.

It shouldn't be that way at all. I know plenty of civvie couples where she has a very high earning job he doesn't and there's no sponging or mistreatment of the missus because of it, why should this be different because she's a sex worker?
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« Reply #486 on: 16 February 2021, 06:03:49 pm »
It shouldn't be that way at all. I know plenty of civvie couples where she has a very high earning job he doesn't and there's no sponging or mistreatment of the missus because of it, why should this be different because she's a sex worker?

Because it happens and you should ask the men who treat them this way rather then asking me as i am not the one abusing any sex workers. Burlesque has said her experiences with her boyfriends were bad that is what i was discussing.

Saafe is about sex work and sex workers that is why we are talking about that, the chat was not about non sex worker relationships so that is why i never started talking about that.
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« Reply #487 on: 16 February 2021, 09:05:36 pm »
In my experience, civvy men have always been FAR worse than clients. And during the 5 years I've been doing this, there's only a small percentage who I'd refuse to see again.

For me to put up with men I want paying for it  :)

Some clients have turned out to be really good friends. I've never had a straight civvy male who I've had a decent friendship with. Ever.
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« Reply #488 on: 16 February 2021, 09:25:37 pm »
In my experience, civvy men have always been FAR worse than clients. And during the 5 years I've been doing this, there's only a small percentage who I'd refuse to see again.

For me to put up with men I want paying for it  :)

Some clients have turned out to be really good friends. I've never had a straight civvy male who I've had a decent friendship with. Ever.

Yes there is some decent clients out there i have met a few nice ones that are genuine and been kind to me not just after free sex but if i had to put a percentage on it i would say there is more bad clients then good unfortunately for me anyway.

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« Reply #489 on: 17 February 2021, 09:58:36 am »
It shouldn't be that way at all. I know plenty of civvie couples where she has a very high earning job he doesn't and there's no sponging or mistreatment of the missus because of it, why should this be different because she's a sex worker?

We live in a society that has forever hated prostitutes and seen women who do this as at best hapless victims and at worst lazy, lowlifes who manipulate 'poor innocent' men with our sexual antics.  It makes sense that it would not be uncommon to be used for money as English Green says (the couple of guys who've tried this on with me think that I'm just 'lying on my back' and therefore I don't deserve my money and so why can't they have a piece of my pie??) or otherwise disrespected. And maybe there are men out there who would be loving and respectful to a sex worker but I've kissed enough frogs at this point.


 

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« Reply #490 on: 17 February 2021, 10:02:33 am »
Sorry to hear that. I think in time you will meet someone.

However like you say there are so many other things in life to enjoy so don't focus on men and relationships right now. I always find when you focus too much on finding someone it never happens.

But keep positive.

I don't mean to badger on about this but if a woman says she simply doesn't want a man (whether because of sex work or otherwise) I think its just cool to accept that as is, however alien that may seem. To me men are best met in one hour slots  ;D with a very definable Use Before date.

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« Reply #491 on: 17 February 2021, 12:20:08 pm »
We live in a society that has forever hated prostitutes and seen women who do this as at best hapless victims and at worst lazy, lowlifes who manipulate 'poor innocent' men with our sexual antics.  It makes sense that it would not be uncommon to be used for money as English Green says (the couple of guys who've tried this on with me think that I'm just 'lying on my back' and therefore I don't deserve my money and so why can't they have a piece of my pie??) or otherwise disrespected. And maybe there are men out there who would be loving and respectful to a sex worker but I've kissed enough frogs at this point.


 

Exactly this. There is a small percentage of people that don't judge us but a lot do. This is why a lot of us hide our faces on photos, lie about our occupation and try to keep it hidden.

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« Reply #492 on: 17 February 2021, 02:21:51 pm »
To me men are best met in one hour slots  ;D with a very definable Use Before date.

Haha that is very much how I view relationships with men too at present but who knows, it may change.

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« Reply #493 on: 17 February 2021, 06:38:01 pm »
To me men are best met in one hour slots  ;D with a very definable Use Before date.

This is my quote of the year already!
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Jessiegirl

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« Reply #494 on: 18 July 2021, 03:51:05 pm »
I've just starting seeing someone new who I've know a while and always known my job but never been happy about it. This is my only source of income and I make more than I would in civvy life.

First thing my new fella has quite a big cock and although I really enjoy sex with him I get rather sore after even the next day. We both have quite a high sex drive and were in our so called honeymoon period so endless shagging at the moment.

So last week we had sex a few times which left me sore the next day when I had a booking. Sex with my client was taking longer than normal but had to stop due to the soreness. Luckily he was ok finishing with a hj. I'm wondering if this might cause a problem with my work now so trying to figure a way to get the balance right with my fella.

Because he doesn't like me doing this job, my last booking ran over by ten mins and he kept texting me giving me hassle as he knew what time the booking was and that I was seeing a regular who I'm fond of and know he has feelings for me. I reassured him he's just a client and that's it.

I've always been very open with my new fella about my job and my clients but now thinking maybe I shouldn't tell him so much. I can't deal with the stress of him interfering with my work.

Just wondered if anyone has had similar experiences and how to deal with this.