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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: JulietJames on 29 August 2016, 09:41:00 am
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How do any of you mature ladies deal with the onset of menopause an working. Im only very part time anyway but definitely lost my mojo for sex ???.
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One cup of parsley tea a day will work wonders.
I stopped taking it for a while and then got so put off sex I started taking it again it is also very good for high blood pressure and general health so I took it for that too. Just a small palmful of parsley from a packet found at the supermarket. 70 p. a week in Tescos etc. Steep for 5 mins. Sometimes the packet doesn't stay fresh long so renew weekly even if you haven't used it all up.
I wouldn't have more than one a day as it can bring on periods. I am 52 so know how you feel. Hope this helps!
I just wish my periods would bugger off for good. They have been erratic for the first time ever this year but no other symptoms other than off sex more than usual....
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One cup of parsley tea a day will work wonders.
I stopped taking it for a while and then got so put off sex I started taking it again it is also very good for high blood pressure and general health so I took it for that too. Just a small palmful of parsley from a packet found at the supermarket. 70 p. a week in Tescos etc. Steep for 5 mins. Sometimes the packet doesn't stay fresh long so renew weekly even if you haven't used it all up.
I wouldn't have more than one a day as it can bring on periods. I am 52 so know how you feel. Hope this helps!
I just wish my periods would bugger off for good. They have been erratic for the first time ever this year but no other symptoms other than off sex more than usual....
Lush is that dried parsley or the fresh packets?
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Fresh parsley I use the non continental type too but it is personal preference. I expect the dried would still work but the packet of fresh is a nice flavour, much better than many herbal teas!
I wouldn't brew it longer than 5 mins or so. It can make you a bit more thirsty and slightly loosen the bowels but these are the only side effects, other than bringing on periods but for that you have to drink 4 cups a day.
It is something an old neighbour told me once in London, she took it for her blood pressure. I researched it and found it helped the libido too.
The first time I started to take it I was younger and my libido came back in three days. It might take longer though if you are in the menopause. Give it a good couple of weeks it is sure to help!
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Thank you ladies will give it a go x
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Loss of libido isn't just a sex work issue. You might benefit from wider experience if you just Google menopause and libido
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Loss of libido isn't just a sex work issue. You might benefit from wider experience if you just Google menopause and libido
Yes, I'm only 31 and I went off sex agggggges ago. Not sure why, maybe a blood test would help.
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I would just like to add one more thing perhaps leave the parsley tea alone for the few days you menstruate as it may lengthen the period if you are sensitive. Who on earth wants more periods surely we prefer less or even none! Also don't make the parsley tea too strong (for those of you willing to try this out) in case it brings on a period. The tea helps mine come slightly more often possibly but they were taking weeks to show up before.... It is all trial and error with most things it would seem. It definitely helps the libido though!
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Hi everyone majorly sorry for ridiculously long post , but I don't know who to talk to or just vent my feelings too.
I'm in bed majorly stressed out I've been having problems with periods ,irregular etc , this year. I think I'm actually hitting the menopause or in it ? .
I've had a period , heavy now for over ten days and the one prior to that only finished with one clear week in between . I'm finding it impossible to work , plus I have bad cramping.I've been to the Doctors a couple of times and had HRT prescribed that appeared to be a stab in the dark, with my G.P just asking if I wanted the equine one that can give you excess hair ( he said face etc) or one of the synthetic ones that he said could affect my libido...it did ( killed it couldn't even muster up a sexy thought )plus bled non stop and got bad fluid retention.
Now I've put myself on Yasmin birth control ( it's being used as HRT in older women now), my G.P mentioned it ages ago as an option to control bleeding. I've been taking it a week now and still no let up, and I'm panicking re work . My work flat is miles away so going to the docs etc for blood tests etc is a complete nightmare on top of getting an actual appointment. The Gum clinic have been good , near where I work and have got me an ultrasound next week as I had blood in my urine and she thinks I may have a kidney stone as well .
I'm just feeling pretty run down , tired, worried about money( can't see how I can work I'm white as a sheet) etc. Just really wondered if anyone knows a quick fix energy wise, I'm guessing I might be a bit anaemic but iron takes quite a while to replenish , I know what to eat leafy green veg and red meat etc but didn't know if there's a tonic or something to help with that or if anyone has any experience with Yasmin ...I'm so sorry for the long post but when your GP doesn't know I can't be bleeding because of my job it's difficult , because the response is a bit " oh don't worry it's the menopause it'll ( bleeding) stop soon " :FF I understand if nobody can even answer but it's been nearly all this year I've had problems working due to medical , reasons so I'm majorly behind , plus I can't take ibrufen or mefanamic acid ( stops periods) due to a bloody gastric problem.
I'm now thinking I'm gonna have to earn so might have to take that norethisterone tablets again ..but then my cycle goes way out of wack and I seriously have a car crash period that doesn't stop ..
Really sorry just needed to rant , just feel like I need some energy, but walked around the block last night and had really bad cramping / lower back ache . ::) :FF
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Sorry to hear this. What about, when you can go to GUM clinic explaining it to them, being open about your work ( you can give a false name) and discuss everything with them, if you haven't done so already.
I really sympathise as I too believe I'm heading for the big M since my periods have been totally erratic for a couple of years - I will have a couple then skip 1 or 2, then have one. Sometimes they are longer and heavier/more painful. Its horrible as you never know when its occurring to plan work etc. I also am at a full stop with regard to the pill since I get migraines.
I would say you definitely need to up your iron intake in the meantime.
Sorry I can't be of more help practically, but do feel free to PM if you wish.
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The easiest iron supplement to digest, although it is quite mild, is Spatone. I find it most palatable in cranberry juice, and it will help on top of a good diet.
Sorry you're going through a rough patch! I'm probably peri-menopausal so my cycle is erratic and periods very changeable, but not major so far...
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Well Done Kay , I remember Spatone now it's in a sachet , right I'm still in bed , lol ( only because it's this or the sofa and my lower backs caning but I'm phoning my friend ( ex lol) to pick me up some now ...yes ! Thank you so much x
LOTN thank you too , I'm quite , well totally upfront at the gum clinic so they're being really helpful and that's who's organised the ultrasound for me, because she knows it's my work, first ( might help someone else) she said go to your GP , but when I explained it was difficult as miles away , plus I can never just prebook an appointment etc..she said " oh well not sure if I can " then " oh of course I can , I'll organise it myself then if you need an MRI after we can get that done "
I find it much easier to be upfront with them , everyone's so nice , never met anyone with an attitude at all , thanks again
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The tiredness is PROBABLY down to excessive bleeding, but in the meantime you could also try taking B12 supplement. Great for energy.
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I will be on Tesco doorstep at 10am buying parsley and trying the tea. So helpful to be able to ask and receive advice like this :)
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The tiredness is PROBABLY down to excessive bleeding, but in the meantime you could also try taking B12 supplement. Great for energy.
Yep that's what I thought ,from the flow and sitting about but everything's achey , but now I've eaten a ton of greens, broccoli and a steak plus had the iron sachets and vit c and a berrocca so prob have lots of energy to sprint to the loo lol , thanks I'm totally going crazy and bored , don't even want to switch work phone on...I've got bookings next week and Lost loads , going quietly nuts :FF but I so appreciate the comments thanks x
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I will be on Tesco doorstep at 10am buying parsley and trying the tea. So helpful to be able to ask and receive advice like this :)
Ha ha I've got Parsley in my fridge ( about the only thing ) but I daren't drink a cup of that now even though my libido's run off and left me , I do like to be able to at least think sexy thoughts to get in the mood , but it'll prob start off nagar falls ...hope it works let us know how you get on :)
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How do any of you mature ladies deal with the onset of menopause an working. Im only very part time anyway but definitely lost my mojo for sex ???.
(low dose) HRT, Nuvelle Continuous is REALLY good! If anything makes me too frisky!:P
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I take a daily spirulina drink every morning when I wash down my vitamins and minerals and that contains iron. Every 3 months I also have two weeks worth of Floradix tablets and diary it every 3 months too. As I don't eat much meat as it is expensive and bad for you and as I drink tea, I can lack iron. I think tiredness is a symptom of menopause too isn't it.
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(low dose) HRT, Nuvelle Continuous is REALLY good! If anything makes me too frisky!:P
Hi Bexy I've just looked at that HRT as it sounded good but it's only recommended for women who are one year period free , so you have to have actually been through the menopause , It sounded good but I'm still getting bleeds so it's no good for me , shame I need some oomph lol
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This sounds exactly the same as my story a whole year with erratic bleeding and not knowing when it was going to happen has really taken a toll on working, I had to take three different kinds of HRT until it all calmed down, now it's only once a month for three days, heavy for the first two day's then just dies down, the only thing is it still doesn't happen on a regular day of the month which can be a pain ::) but still better than before, the one I take now is called Elleste Duet 1mg, if that helps :).
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I think I'm going to have a chat about this at my next clinic visit. Also to find put if the reason I can't take most pills (migraines) also applies to HRT.
I'm so sick of never knowing if/when I will get a period! It literally plays havoc with everything, not just my working life.
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This sounds exactly the same as my story a whole year with erratic bleeding and not knowing when it was going to happen has really taken a toll on working, I had to take three different kinds of HRT until it all calmed down, now it's only once a month for three days, heavy for the first two day's then just dies down, the only thing is it still doesn't happen on a regular day of the month which can be a pain ::) but still better than before, the one I take now is called Elleste Duet 1mg, if that helps :).
Thanks LB , I'm stopping the Yasmin today , It's just running out of me today , plus even if I could stop it , I'm so uncomfortable even with the strongest co- codamol , seriously considering the hospital today although I have the scan booked for the end of the week don't know if I can last that long, but it's reassuring ( and not at all nice for you so I don't mean it that way) to know it's not just me .Im really panicking financially which is definitely not helping .
I keep thinking if only it would ease off I could do something , and I have some totally lovely clients who say they'll still see me ( even just for company and a bit of fun and still give me my fee) but I can't even manage that , apart from that I think they'd run off if they actually set eyes on me!
Did you have a lot of pain with it ? Because I'm used to bad period pain but this is something else lol ! X
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I think I'm going to have a chat about this at my next clinic visit. Also to find put if the reason I can't take most pills (migraines) also applies to HRT.
I'm so sick of never knowing if/when I will get a period! It literally plays havoc with everything, not just my working life.
Hi LOTN , I just googled ( exact words) ' can you take HRT if you have migraines ' and it said ( first article ) HRT can be used to control migraines , so if you took a look you might be able to ask the clinic for one that'll actually help with that x
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Your welcome and I would say just the normal period cramps, BUT what your describing sounds to me like you could possibly have endometreisis (probably spelt wrong) it comes with PI disease, I have had that for years, so I used to take the pill to control it but then the doctors suggested I should take HRT as was getting some signs of the menopause, or it could be a cyst, I would suggest you go to the hospital today xx.
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I would recommend ibuprofen more for period type pain, cocodamol I find doesn't help with that type of pain ( unfortunately I cannot tolerate ibuprofen grr)
It sounds really bad however and if it's still as bad or worse by tomorrow (or even today) I'd recommend you seek some kind of medical attention, as the end of the week probably seems a long way off for you.
Edit just saw your other post Very interesting I will have to ask them about that. ATM my migraines are infrequent, I'm betting HRT would be used as a preventative treatment for those with X migraines a month or something
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Your welcome and I would say just the normal period cramps, BUT what your describing sounds to me like you could possibly have endometreisis (probably spelt wrong) it comes with PI disease, I have had that for years, so I used to take the pill to control it but then the doctors suggested I should take HRT as was getting some signs of the menopause, or it could be a cyst, I would suggest you go to the hospital today xx.
oh bloody hell, my hospitals crap , had similar a while ago , unfortunately I can't take ibrufen or transamic acid or mefanamic acid ( they were given to me by a consultant) because I got an ulcer from them, sounds like I'm falling to bits lol !
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Insist they do something as they have a job to do and GL :)
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Thanks I'm going to get a bath and go :FF
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Thanks I'm going to get a bath and go :FF
Well that was good ! Got seen couldn't even lay flat to have my tummy poked, no internal , just" this isn't what A&E is for , you need to go to your GP and be referred to a Gynaecologist" I basically could hardly stand , got cross and said " well I can't work I've got 'business deals this week totalling a lot of money , which my competitors will now get , I need to stop the bleeding what can I take and what pain relief " he just gave me some Buscopan to stop cramps and told me to take co- codamol as well .
So now I have to call my GP tomorrow at 8 am and go see her or ( I asked a staff nurse ) if I should just hold on and stick with the GUM Clinic ..she said " if you can it might be best , so don't know what to do as like I said my work place is a fair way away from where I live, but that's where the scan is ??? Lord !
I could afford a private consultation with a gynaecologist but not the treatment unless I'm working :FF :FF
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Did you have a lot of pain with it ? Because I'm used to bad period pain but this is something else lol ! X
I did when I was having similar problems a few years ago... lots of pain together with the inconvenience of the other stuff :( For pain relief have you tried tramadol and/or a mixture of those with diazepam taken during the worst times (off your doctor of course) These really do knock the pain on the head. The important thing is not to get too anxious about it as that in itself can make it worse, a scan and other investigations will hopefully diagnose the problem. I ended up having the Mirena coil which is not without its own problems but it cut the pain down to less than half and the bleeding is now non existent. Hope this helps :)
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The easiest iron supplement to digest, although it is quite mild, is Spatone. I find it most palatable in cranberry juice, and it will help on top of a good diet.
Sorry you're going through a rough patch! I'm probably peri-menopausal so my cycle is erratic and periods very changeable, but not major so far...
Yep, I used spatone throughout my twin pregnancy, as they ate all my iron stores!! It's probably the fastest working iron supp
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Yep, I used spatone throughout my twin pregnancy, as they ate all my iron stores!! It's probably the fastest working iron supp
I take one teaspoon of feroglobin liquid every day, it contains folic acid vitamin B12 and about 15 other supplements with nothing else, no sugary fruit juices etc to 'bulk it up'.
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Hope you get it sorted soon, bloody NHS :(
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Thanks , yep I'm more worried about the blood loss but my bloods came back saying I'm not anaemic, but I'm still going to take the supplements because it's not stopped yet, in fact it's getting worse , Thanks everyone :)
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I did when I was having similar problems a few years ago... lots of pain together with the inconvenience of the other stuff :( For pain relief have you tried tramadol and/or a mixture of those with diazepam taken during the worst times (off your doctor of course) These really do knock the pain on the head. The important thing is not to get too anxious about it as that in itself can make it worse, a scan and other investigations will hopefully diagnose the problem. I ended up having the Mirena coil which is not without its own problems but it cut the pain down to less than half and the bleeding is now non existent. Hope this helps :)
Hi Katrina I missed your post , still laid up, yep on tramadol, and diazepam, Buscopan and now Provera tabs 10mg twice daily tabs to stop the bleeding ( been taking since Monday).
I take the other tablets because I'm under a consultant for other problems( gastric and reasonably serious ) that I can usually manage .
The bleeding keeps slowing a little then just flooding , I'm really panicking now, financially, I've only had one bleed free week in nearly a month and have had to cancel lots of bookings and feel terrible about it.( due to appearing unreliable ).
If the bleeding would let up I could try and get the pain under control.
I've seen a consultant now ( who I had when things blew up before( gastric) and he swore about casualty he said my bloods were 3 times the levels they should be , he took some more yesterday and said if it's higher he's admitting me .
Try not to panic , try not to panic, try not to panic ! Might have this as my signature lol thanks Katrina :) :)
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That sounds awful. I bet you can't wait for your scan. It sounds as if the gastro and gynae problems are bouncing off each other, which is making things worse.
I really hope things improve for you soon.
Xx
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I really don't think I can work because everyone I've seen ( not many ) but other ( v part time) half is saying ( nicely) I look terrible, plus I always wear really high stilettos ..I just can't handle the thought of even bending over to give a massage . Totally Rubbish at that anyway.
Also because I have a 'style ' of dress I don't want to change....plus I'm worried about bad feedback just because I'm sick . I'm not breaking down the medicine I'm taking so I'm all puffy etc . But I've lost so much already this year due to a big injury that required 3 months off , I'd only just got straight ish
I really , really appreciate everybody's kindness and their own situations too, I'm interested to see if the Provera works ( it's a weird one because it's used to stop and start periods ( bleeding) if anyone has tried the tablet at all ( I'm on 10mg twice a day ) feedback would be great ;)
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That sounds awful. I bet you can't wait for your scan. It sounds as if the gastro and gynae problems are bouncing off each other, which is making things worse.
I really hope things improve for you soon.
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Thanks LOTN , that's the problem different Drs for different things , got scan by another dr miles away end of the week , did you take a look at HRT And Migraines ? Xx
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I did when I was having similar problems a few years ago... lots of pain together with the inconvenience of the other stuff :( For pain relief have you tried tramadol and/or a mixture of those with diazepam taken during the worst times (off your doctor of course) These really do knock the pain on the head. The important thing is not to get too anxious about it as that in itself can make it worse, a scan and other investigations will hopefully diagnose the problem. I ended up having the Mirena coil which is not without its own problems but it cut the pain down to less than half and the bleeding is now non existent. Hope this helps :)
Ooh can't have a Mirena as I haven't a cervix so it's too difficult but obviously not enough to stop the blooming blood
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Thanks LOTN , that's the problem different Drs for different things , got scan by another dr miles away end of the week , did you take a look at HRT And Migraines ? Xx
According to the Migraine Trust there's no evidence either way. I can't see any sites where its recc as treatment. I found something interesting out which might explain my having 30 migraines in 2014 tho,(namely reducing a necc drug I take which it turns out helps migraines in some!). Ah well have only had 2/3 this year touch wood. As far as I can ascertain they're not linked to my cycle either.
The blood loss alone must be really draining for you. And even tho mine are nothing as bad they take away part of my working month (tho I can work on lighter days); I've also had a substantial injury which necessitated significant time out so I totally understand it's tough and stressful this happening when you've just recovered from one yourself.
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According to the Migraine Trust there's no evidence either way. I can't see any sites where its recc as treatment. I found something interesting out which might explain my having 30 migraines in 2014 tho,(namely reducing a necc drug I take which it turns out helps migraines in some!). Ah well have only had 2/3 this year touch wood. As far as I can ascertain they're not linked to my cycle either.
The blood loss alone must be really draining for you. And even tho mine are nothing as bad they take away part of my working month (tho I can work on lighter days); I've also had a substantial injury which necessitated significant time out so I totally understand it's tough and stressful this happening when you've just recovered from one yourself.
Ah thanks , I've pm'd you also , just out of interest Blue eyes are more susceptible to Migraines ( don't know if this applies to you) because they tend to filter light less effectively , the lighter the shade the more susceptible, an optician told me re someone else but I know some close family members who get them v bad and they all are blue eyed .
More so when the sun is very low / bright early spring / bright winters days etc . If I lose much more blood I'll have to buy new foundation and try a peaches and cream look lol!
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There is a link between amalgam fillings and migraines. But who on earth can afford to have all their fillings replaced! I grew up in the 1960's/1970's and have zillions of fillings ....
Regular juicing and staying away from junk food and too much caffeine helps me not get too many migraines they are buggers.
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There is a link between amalgam fillings and migraines. But who on earth can afford to have all their fillings replaced! I grew up in the 1960's/1970's and have zillions of fillings ....
Regular juicing and staying away from junk food and too much caffeine helps me not get too many migraines they are buggers.
I'd heard this could be the case. With regard to caffeine its more about what levels of caffeine you are used to. If you suddenly start drinking more or less than normal & are migraine prone then that can be a trigger. This looking back was defo one of the things (I tried drinking way less) triggering my huge number of migraines in 2014.
For those whose migraines are hormonally related definitely PMS and the menopause can increase or decrease the level of migraines you can get.
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Can we please try to maintain a link to sex work, folks? It's not as if there's a dearth of health forums covering every possible condition on the internet :).
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Can we please try to maintain a link to sex work, folks? It's not as if there's a dearth of health forums covering every possible condition on the internet :).
Ah thought I had (well a little bit) my apols
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Update after ultrasound and being told nothing wrong with am apart from trapped wind and bleeding.
Massive cysts on both ovaries, huge fibroids , 2 v large with multiple others .
norethisterone to stop bleeding started yesterday.
Now on rapid pathway to get biospsy and hysteroscopy and whatever else so seeing consultant ( has to be within two weeks) hopefully this week.
Bleeding has nearly stopped, well it's gone brown sorry to be graphic. ( can cope deal with pain sort of) so I'm going to hopefully get back to work tomorrow to earn some dough in case I have a hysterectomy .
So it's going to be a case of ' fuck the neighbours' literally if they've got cash lol ! And work as if I'm on tour ( I do anyway when I've been there a while not usually when I first get back).
Just like LOTN ( wardrobe rejig) need to take some warm clothes so I can go to the bank etc .
Feeling happier at the moment xxx
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Update after ultrasound and being told nothing wrong with am apart from trapped wind and bleeding.
Massive cysts on both ovaries, huge fibroids , 2 v large with multiple others .
norethisterone to stop bleeding started yesterday.
Now on rapid pathway to get biospsy and hysteroscopy and whatever else so seeing consultant ( has to be within two weeks) hopefully this week.
Bleeding has nearly stopped, well it's gone brown sorry to be graphic. ( can cope deal with pain sort of) so I'm going to hopefully get back to work tomorrow to earn some dough in case I have a hysterectomy .
So it's going to be a case of ' fuck the neighbours' literally if they've got cash lol ! And work as if I'm on tour ( I do anyway when I've been there a while not usually when I first get back).
Just like LOTN ( wardrobe rejig) need to take some warm clothes so I can go to the bank etc .
Feeling happier at the moment xxx
Glad its all calmed down for you for now GP, the medical profession seem to like to blame any stomach problems on trapped wind when its clearly not just that!!!
What I used to say to clients when I had to cancel them was offer an extra half hour on the next booking time as a little gesture to compensate for the inconvenience....out of all of them only 2 ever took me up on it but the offer was there and I didn't lose any good regular clients. :-)
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Thanks Kat , I've tried to avoid mentioning the bleeding , said a kidney stone which is also true , but I may , probably will need to use a sponge when back so didn't want to draw attention to any possible ' accidents' .
Irritable bowel my arse lol !!!!!
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Thanks Kat , I've tried to avoid mentioning the bleeding , said a kidney stone which is also true , but I may , probably will need to use a sponge when back so didn't want to draw attention to any possible ' accidents' .
Irritable bowel my arse lol !!!!!
Oh yeah forgot to say I never mentioned any bleeding or specific health problems to clients when having to cancel (most of them wouldn't understand women problems)
IBS is an excuse used far too often by doctors!!
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Oh yeah forgot to say I never mentioned any bleeding or specific health problems to clients when having to cancel (most of them wouldn't understand women problems)
IBS is an excuse used far too often by doctors!!
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It's because we don't know it but really it stand for Instant Bull Shit ! Lol
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Huge thanks to everyone for keeping me sane, really you have no idea ( well actually you do which is so kind and thoughtful)
Bleedings stopped painkillers dulling it down.
Back at work.
Answered mails , booked tomorrow and most of the week after answering my mail ( got bookings while answering ).
Chuffed to bits and 'in the zone'
OMG thank you I thought I was losing the plot completely . Got a head to toe massage early tomorrow, So that's my first hour organised ! Two v nice bookings ( soft/ chatty) after that and one evening I think .
All know I'm just back and gently does it ( lord I hope)
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Huge thanks to everyone for keeping me sane, really you have no idea ( well actually you do which is so kind and thoughtful)
Bleedings stopped painkillers dulling it down.
Back at work.
Answered mails , booked tomorrow and most of the week after answering my mail ( got bookings while answering ).
Chuffed to bits and 'in the zone'
OMG thank you I thought I was losing the plot completely . Got a head to toe massage early tomorrow, So that's my first hour organised ! Two v nice bookings ( soft/ chatty) after that and one evening I think .
All know I'm just back and gently does it ( lord I hope)
Brilliant news! Wishing you all the best :-)
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Huge thanks to everyone for keeping me sane, really you have no idea ( well actually you do which is so kind and thoughtful)
Bleedings stopped painkillers dulling it down.
Back at work.
Answered mails , booked tomorrow and most of the week after answering my mail ( got bookings while answering ).
Chuffed to bits and 'in the zone'
I really need to speak to a doctor/at clinic about mine. I never know when to expect one so hellish trying to plan bookings sometimes. I'm starting to actually call it 'the curse' there's days its so heavy and painful not to mention utterly draining...
Right now in fact and sod's law I have an advance booking tomorrow morning. :FF
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I really need to speak to a doctor/at clinic about mine. I never know when to expect one so hellish trying to plan bookings sometimes. I'm starting to actually call it 'the curse' there's days its so heavy and painful not to mention utterly draining...
Right now in fact and sod's law I have an advance booking tomorrow morning. :FF
LOTN I'm on norethisterone ( could of given that to myself weeks ago as bought some from superdrug online) and although it's a nightmare it's stopped the bleeding within 24 hrs , and it was profuse !
I'm in bed exhausted now 4 bookings today and one a 3 hour , but I'm worried about my op so working arse off , booked every day this week and tonight's guy booked for an all nighter Thursday , I've been farting in his face ( squatting on it)for the last three hours !
On the plus side norethisterone makes you / or me windy so hey ho lol , hope it's better LOTN I'm having trouble pre planning too , total nightmare.
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LOTN I'm on norethisterone ( could of given that to myself weeks ago as bought some from superdrug online) and although it's a nightmare it's stopped the bleeding within 24 hrs , and it was profuse !
I'm in bed exhausted now 4 bookings today and one a 3 hour , but I'm worried about my op so working arse off , booked every day this week and tonight's guy booked for an all nighter Thursday , I've been farting in his face ( squatting on it)for the last three hours !
On the plus side norethisterone makes you / or me windy so hey ho lol , hope it's better LOTN I'm having trouble pre planning too , total nightmare.
I got mixed up the booking is this afternoon. I managed a half hr booking with a reg just now but I worried constantly throughout. I know by tomorrow it won't be so bad, and certainly nothing like as bad as you are experiencing.
I'm on tour soon so it'll have to wait till early November. I have a new doctors' surgery and seeing someone Thursday but have a big long list to talk about already!
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You can buy that norethisterone online legitametly through superdrug oh maybe not with your leg because of risk of clots and although it's nasty when you come of it's stopped my bleeding in it's tracks in it's tracks ( 5 bookings today am exhausted in bed ). Ask though because it might help on your tour x
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Glad to hear your getting it sorted :)
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Glad to hear your getting it sorted :)
Thanks LB everyone's been so kind even with their own issues going on x
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:)xx
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Sorry not been online or answered messages , they came on my phone and I read but when I logged in I thought they'd still be there , but they weren't .
Apologies but by the time I got to hospital again , bleeding had started up again and pain incredible but basically my cysts and one ovary exploded and had to stay in hosp until my body had absorbed all the junk .
Have been v sick but back at work and doing well but taking painkillers like mad , also on emlya to shrink fibroids and whilst waiting for biopsy .
Anyway I'm able to work and I've not been graphic at all but my bookings have been absolute diamonds , so thoughtful and kind .
I'm hoping nothing happens before Christmas and I can earn enough for my time off ( have to have hysterectomy whatever the outcome due to mini explosion and bleeding).
V glad to be back at work phew ...have been panic stricken to say the least ! Lol :)
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I am getting the hot flushes+ night sweats and mood swings I have no desire for a relationship and just manage clients part time I quite enjoy the physical experience and excitement of sex work plus I need the money . Quite happy to see guys and not commit to anyone just bookings only twice a week.
Many ladies go off sex with menopause but fortunately I've not yet .
I am taking only evening primrose Oil capsules can any ladies in a similar position recommend anything else as it's getting a bit much .I've not been offered HRT and have never had kids or a historectomy . There is a produxt for night sweats that's herbal sold in Holland and Barrett but I'm on thyroxine for hypothyroidism so it won't agree with me sadly not sure what ekse is available to try
How do you find working and the change ? :-\
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Thank you xx
I have no period sincr January so there's the only plus for me .
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I started the menapause 2 years ago. Like you I on levothyroxine (I have no thyroid gland) and I have kidney issues. I was offered HRT but declined it due to the risks that brings. I was offered Gabbapentin, it's an alternative to HRT but Drs don't like you being on it too long as it's addictive. I declined that too on the basis that it's addictive.
I have zero sex drive, but can manage bookings. But I do massage HR a lot as well as escort.
What I have found helps is wearing clothes in light layers, so when I feel the flush start, I literally strip layers off, especially upper body. I basically have nothing on my shoulders or top back area. Sipping water when the hot flush starts helps too. Flushes come hard and fast for me a few weeks at a time, then go away then come back.
Exercising helped with my mindset. As I get moody, depressed, angry. It really does help. It also keeps the weight down. I found I gained a stone with menapause, but I am have got that off now and my figure is very very good now, all down to weights and exercise.
The broken sleep, I have been using meditation apps with headphones to help me get back off to sleep. I still wake up at stupid o'clock and fall asleep early in the evening. I not found anything helpful for this, but if anyone else has please say, as I really struggle with this. And if I honest I have been smoking a joint every night to knock me to sleep but I don't want to keep doing that.
When I am on a "angry" day, I can't work. When I am on a "fatigue" day I don't even get dressed. These days there is no point even trying as I would put myself in a very bad mood and even the slightest misdemeanours from clients I want to physically hurt them lol. So listen to your body.
I also take Well Woman Menapause Vitiams daily, which I buy from the local supermarket, probably just an angle at selling us higher priced Vitiams but as my appetite has gone it helps put back in my body what my body needs. I haven't noticed any difference to be honest but I still take them.
I found Drs attitudes crap, it's either take HRT or get on with it.
Sex work whilst going through the change can be difficult, as some days I feel as sexy as a bag of spuds.
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I take vitamin B3 at night for sleep it is great. The daily recommended dose on the Holland & Barrett bottle states 100 mg but I take 300 mg daily since online it does state you can have up to 500 mg daily dose.
It has done wonders for my broken sleep since spring of this year. Prior to that I had had six months of really interrupted sleep and worse still waking up at 3 am sometimes and not being able to return to sleep!
For hot flushes people swear by sage tablets. I don't get much else.
For libido issues there is a homoeopathic that seems to help if anybody wishes to privately message me I can let them know.
Parsley tea also helps libido. Don't make it too strong or it can induce menstruation and also make the bowels a bit loose!
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Vitamin B is one of the few vitamins you can take that don't get stored in the body , you just pass it out , it makes your urine bright yellow almost luminous , then you know you've had enough ;D
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It sounds really difficult, Nora. :-[ There are quite a few posters on this site who have thyroid issues.
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I've been checking this out myself and prenatal vits are supposed to be really good ;D
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I am going through the peri menopause. The last 2/3 years my periods have gotten more and more irregular, from missing every second one last year, the last maybe 9 months I?ve been skipping a couple then getting one.
I haven?t had too much of a problem until recently except for never knowing when to expect a period. I had one a month ago, it didn?t get going properly so I was surprised when a few weeks later I got another one.
All of a sudden I started getting full on night sweats (starting 2 nights prior to the period, actually thought I was getting ill), then my actual period was intolerably painful to a level I?ve never known before.
I can normally manage to work on my period, but from day 2 the flow was so heavy, it was so painful I couldn?t. I also felt physically ill.
I don?t want to go on HRT if I can help it, I also get migraines so my options are limited there anyway. I don?t like my current GP (last summer my GP practice shut down and had to move), he?s an unsympathetic guy and I don?t want to see him for normal stuff let alone this. For some reason (and I?ve tried 3 times) they won?t let me see a different doctor, they fobbed me off with a nurse 6 months ago, she was very blas? and unhelpful, and this was before things worsened with my periods.
So until I can change doctors I?m not sure what to do. I suppose when I go for my next check up at clinic I could bring it up.
In the meantime dreading my next period if its going to be like this last one. It meant I wasn?t able to work for a full week.
Any ideas?
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I've been going through this for the last two years I've had to cancel loads of tours including the one I'm supposed to be on now !
It's a complete nightmare , I've lost more money than I've made it's crazy and I'm starting to feel I am now too !
I'm happy to pm if you want :)
I've also had the mirena in to stop bleeding and had pretty much 4 months of bleeding prior , they convinced me it would stop it but nope , the Mirena made me ill and continued to bleed or a further eight months on and off .
I took that out myself in the hope it would stop , it did after the initial bleed then stopped , I booked and paid , again upfront as convinced it was definately ok , only to end up in hospital on the day I should of left .
I have posted in a menopause thread but can't use the search facility at the moment due to the server issues, I've also posted in the mirena one .
Best wishes
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Thanks I?m a little bit at my wits end. The pain was out of this world bad.
I kept waking up in the dead of night or early hours with horrendous cramps where I was in tears :'(. I?m a poor sleeper anyway but found out this is yet another effect of the peri menopause...
I heard that about the Mirena so decided that wasn?t an option.
If my periods suddenly start being more frequent (has happened) then I may have a week or 10 days each month where I can?t work
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Yep exactly the same , never have I been in bed with cramps like it , then knackered in the day and really tired .
Also I've never ever had a migraine ( not even from a hangover just a Muzzy head) but these are untrue .
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I have been working as a service provider since way before my menopause which happened around 5 years ago. Several of my civvy friends and family have suffered or are suffering in varying degrees with the sweats and all the other side effects mentioned by others. I almost feel guilty as my own menopause passed by with hardly a whimper. Periods which had always been pretty much regular and reliable and not heavy, just stopped. One or two over the next few months but after that nothing at all. Hot flushes I can count on one hand and no other significant side effects I can think of, I know how lucky I am because for many women in whatever job have horrendous times with menopausal symptoms which can drag on for years.
No HRT was ever suggested to me as I had no need to visit a doctor during my change, but I know one lady who is suffering badly with general tiredness and aches and pains but will not seek help as she is afraid she will be prescribed HRT and is fearful of it due to all the scare stories.
As a service provider it must be very stressful to want to take bookings but not risk having to cancel and/or go through with the bookings while feeling physically awful.
I wish I could wave that magic wand over others that was waived over me but there is one little thing which still nags me, I was told that the menopause is with us when once it starts and never actually finishes, there for new symptoms can appear at any time and I am still waiting for mine to show, how can I have felt almost nothing? Is that normal?
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Yep exactly the same , never have I been in bed with cramps like it , then knackered in the day and really tired .
Also I've never ever had a migraine ( not even from a hangover just a Muzzy head) but these are untrue .
Strangely enough I?ve had virtually zero migraines this year. I could not cope with an increase in them as well!
I am praying this one was a once off so it won?t affect work too much...
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I wish I could wave that magic wand over others that was waived over me but there is one little thing which still nags me, I was told that the menopause is with us when once it starts and never actually finishes, there for new symptoms can appear at any time and I am still waiting for mine to show, how can I have felt almost nothing? Is that normal?
I think there the general medical line is, once you haven?t had a period for a year you have officially reached the menopause, average time to get to that stage is 4 years...
I don?t think there is a normal way to experience the menopause. The nurse I saw 6 months ago before things got bad just didn?t take my worries seriously at all, she was so blas? she was horizontal, and it was pointless to have seen her. She just told me I was having it easy...
Thanks nursie! How about some constructive advice. And one things for sure I?m not seeing her again.
Of course she has no idea about the sexwork. Which is why it?s probably a good idea to make a clinic appt. asap.
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Looking for a bit of advice and help.
I?m in my mid 40s and I?m already showing some other menopause symptoms, but in recent weeks I?ve noticed I?m getting drier and drier, to the point where I?ve noticed it when I was walking the dog and doing other normal every day stuff.
I don?t want to spend my entire life with KY smeared inside me, and a lot of the vaginal moisturisers I?ve looked at seem to be oil based or creamy, which is a bit of a no-no with our line of work.
Anybody got any tips and recommendations for products they have used?
Many thanks in advance,
Katie x
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I'm not menopausal but I have always had a dryness problem. I have tried many things, some work, some don't. I find that the gel types are best and creams are not as good.
The best is Yes VM and the disposable applicators are really good. I have not seen it in stores and I buy it online from their website. It is condom and sex toy friendly.
Replens is very similar but I find thinner and tends to dribble out too much, so I don't use it anymore.
I use Yes VM as a treatment every 3 days when I'm not working and daily when I do sex work.
It is not really a lube as such and I use Boots Silky for full on penetration activities. I used to secretly apply before bookings but I've stopped being shay about it and slap it on in front of clients.
Sometimes I get soreness if I have simply done too much sex work (vaginal or anal) - the only cure for that is 2 or 3 days off the job or restriction to maybe one penetration session a day.
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Now I have no periods (this is a huge plus with the menopause )
I have night sweats and hot flushes , dryness and loosing sexual desire now.
I have to use lube each time and rarely orgasm with clients .
I'm starting to act and pretend more !!
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It's not affecting me yet (I'm 50 and a half) but a friend recommends coconut oil. Obviously not just before a booking re. condom safety, but perhaps insert a pea-sized dab before you go to sleep at night?
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I am the other side of the menopause and I used Replens during the symptoms but if anything it made me more horny than I was before. I am now at the other side of the symptoms and I cannot say I am any drier than I was and I have no worries about accidentally falling pregnant and can work any day of the month. It is a pain while you are going through the symptoms but once you get through them you will feel so much more relaxed but maybe I was lucky
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Thanks :)
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I believe vaginal estrogen gel/cream can help with dryness from your GP
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It's not knowing when the periods are coming that's the issue for me , I've posted a lot in another menopause thread.
My hormones are pretty stable and I'm the only one left out of my friends that still gets them , but ( I think they always have ) it's the stop / starting that drives me totally mental , never know if it's actually starting or just spotting ...but if that f***er starts I'm done for a couple of days minimum , chainsaw massacre here we come , I've lost so much money this last year due to it , but what can you do ? I've just booked from tomorrow and now started spotting.
The plan is get a couple of days in , then get the weekend over and work next week !!! Seem to have de je vue !!! Bad spelling probably !
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I had the menopause at 36 after a bone marrow transplant but 13 years on the dryness just starting now. Wonder if I?m having a second menopause.
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Looking for a bit of advice and help.
I?m in my mid 40s and I?m already showing some other menopause symptoms, but in recent weeks I?ve noticed I?m getting drier and drier, to the point where I?ve noticed it when I was walking the dog and doing other normal every day stuff.
I don?t want to spend my entire life with KY smeared inside me, and a lot of the vaginal moisturisers I?ve looked at seem to be oil based or creamy, which is a bit of a no-no with our line of work.
Anybody got any tips and recommendations for products they have used?
Many thanks in advance,
Katie x
You will need to try a lot of different options until you find what's best for you. Our bodies are all different.
Personally I do great with a depo-provera injection every 12 weeks and copious amounts of Liquid Silk during a booking. Yes, even when he's gone down on me and given me the best orgasm in the history of the world, he still gets LS smeared on the condom.
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I'm liquid silk but do like the skyns one as well, free in 12 packs you get a couple if free sachets so can try .
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I am currently on tour accompanied by the chain saw massacre who today I have somehow managed to keep in check and have put the git on a star chart ( literally) in my diary today it was a two slash three star but I have a heap of bookings tomorrow so I'll see but I'm working whatever !
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I believe vaginal estrogen gel/cream can help with dryness from your GP
Yes I'm glad it don't have that issue , apart from when they put me on the Mirena , then I did , it was also like I'd had Bromide put in my tea , but I think you can buy it online through superdrug .
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I changed my pill Hrt yesterday! how crazy is to be a woman? i cried without reason! from elleste conti to femoston 1 5.
i can not believe it...i would like to stop it...the list of side effects is so long! i can not understand...
how i can live/work like this! :FF :FF if somebody have a light for me, please!
why i should be depress for a pill! i hate be a woman! :FF :FF
i m going to my gp again..i ll cry with her! :'( :'( why? ::) ::) ::) ??? ??? :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(
i destroy my life and my job!
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I changed my pill Hrt yesterday! how crazy is to be a woman? i cried without reason! from elleste conti to femoston 1 5.
i can not believe it...i would like to stop it...the list of side effects is so long! i can not understand...
how i can live/work like this! :FF :FF if somebody have a light for me, please!
why i should be depress for a pill! i hate be a woman! :FF :FF
i m going to my gp again..i ll cry with her! :'( :'( why? ::) ::) ::) ??? ??? :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(
i destroy my life and my job!
Yep I kept crying even if I saw a cute cat on tv and I don't even like cats that much ! ( I don't dislike them ) I turned into a complete nervous wreck , a personality transplant for 3/4 weeks of the month and approx one week feeling ok , plus I was either spotting or had mega heavy bleeding for 8 months because they kept persuading me it would settle down .
It was only when half my hair fell out in a week that I decided to stop it ( it's now come back in) but I had really bald bits and it's fine anyway but this was see through .
All I kept thinking was guys just wake up everyday feeling the same , no hormone fluctuations ever.
Good luck with it and it may settle down , I'm on nothing now and much happier , more stable mentally and just putting up with the periods !
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I am currently on tour accompanied by the chain saw massacre who today I have somehow managed to keep in check and have put the git on a star chart ( literally) in my diary today it was a two slash three star but I have a heap of bookings tomorrow so I'll see but I'm working whatever !
I had very very very heavy periods like you for about a year before they completely stopped. Literally it was like turning a tap on and the blood was thick, dark dark red and full of clots. It was so painful. I couldn't predict when they would arrive and they made me physically sick. Sex seem d to bring them on if the guy was normal to large.
It was an amazing relief when they stopped and I not had one for a year now. My DR said the heavy bleed was peri menapause and wouldn't last long.
Dryness is not an issue for me, in fact I am always wet, even when not having sex. Hope that's not my bladder lol (no smell so prob not).
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Oh lord I hope so I'm currently upgraded to a five star now as it's exactly like the ones your on about Nora , taken two co-codamol and been to gym to just try and get that shit out now !
I've lost so much money on tour due to booking and literally being in bed ! I've got more tablets than superdrug in my kitchen cupboard , tried everything going , now I'm sticking with tanexamic acid , stops the clots at least , but I'm going to bloody have to risk it today with two sponges and a patterned throw FFS !
I don't cam either so can't make it up there and my massages are shite lol
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Reading through some of these posts makes me feel so grateful I suffered none of the above, I know from other family members and friends that the menopause can be awful for many women but in this job it must be a nightmare not knowing when to expect a bleed or feeling unwell etc. My periods just stopped dead a couple of years ago with no other symptoms other than a few hot flushes which didn't really bother me as they lasted only a minute. I had no need of medication and my work did not suffer at all.
Men who mock the menopause are shits. If they had to go through half of what the ladies do they would think they were dying.
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Yep I kept crying even if I saw a cute cat on tv and I don't even like cats that much ! ( I don't dislike them ) I turned into a complete nervous wreck , a personality transplant for 3/4 weeks of the month and approx one week feeling ok , plus I was either spotting or had mega heavy bleeding for 8 months because they kept persuading me it would settle down .
It was only when half my hair fell out in a week that I decided to stop it ( it's now come back in) but I had really bald bits and it's fine anyway but this was see through .
All I kept thinking was guys just wake up everyday feeling the same , no hormone fluctuations ever.
Good luck with it and it may settle down , I'm on nothing now and much happier , more stable mentally and just putting up with the periods !
so, you stopped! but apparently is not good to stop..as we became more older quickly, our skin became sh**, etc.
i am not in meno, actually i never had my period! so to fight osteoporosis they give me that!
i think to come back to older one...yesterday i tried the new one and i was horrible.
i am going to mess up a bit! i know if i am going to my gp, she ll say to keep taking and wait that became stable!
i can not understand why the medecine didn t found out a solution without all bad side!
i am very ignorant about hormones, i was period free all my life and i was so happy!
i am single, no baby dream....just to save my bones...
:o need to call now my gp, become a nightmare!
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I do get to read that people who have her feminine curves are much better off than women, who are very thin and suffer more from the menopausal effects.
MySecret, were you told as to why you never had any period? Do you have ovaries? Sorry, I don't mean to be "nosey". My hormones aren't good at all, either. It does affect me and hence, affects escorting.
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I do get to read that people who have her feminine curves are much better off than women, who are very thin and suffer more from the menopausal effects.
MySecret, were you told as to why you never had any period? Do you have ovaries? Sorry, I don't mean to be "nosey". My hormones aren't good at all, either. It does affect me and hence, affects escorting.
i never add Estrogens...so i have osteoporosis! but i am healing from it with calcium supplement, vit D, weight training
i need to add some weight as my body fat was really low when i was fit! to be slim is not so good for osteoporosis! now i am ok in a good range, still have some abs but now my goal is more health than apparence.
it is not mandatory that thin people will have osteop but depend...
i never had my period, so i lost it since 14 years ago. it was good not to have period ...pratical but we need of it! to be balanced!
we need a hormones balance..in long term we need for our health! ...i still not have but i know that now i am well (a part for my hormones remplacement therapy). the problem that i never deal with abdominal pain, be moody, nervous for the period..so for me is shocking to cry without reason, be nervous for nothing, etc...
then you have a cancer as well if you miss hormones, hopefully i do not have it.
i suggest you to check it..i am young to have osteopo! i ll have a body scan again this year soon, but i know that my muscle mass is increased so will be much better!
Check your hormones levels, they are very important for metabolism, bones density, mood, skin care, hair care, etc...
just ask to your gp!
today i taken my older pill and i taken another appoint with my gp to solve mood problem, and other small things. Always try to be better!
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That's all sorted out then! Back to sex work now, please :).
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Thank you, MySecret. :) You're such a caring, lovely lady, who looks out for other women on Saafe whilst you got so much going on. It's good to hear that your GP is supportive. No health or if health isn't too great, no happy escorting.
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Oh lord I hope so I'm currently upgraded to a five star now as it's exactly like the ones your on about Nora , taken two co-codamol and been to gym to just try and get that shit out now !
I've lost so much money on tour due to booking and literally being in bed ! I've got more tablets than superdrug in my kitchen cupboard , tried everything going , now I'm sticking with tanexamic acid , stops the clots at least , but I'm going to bloody have to risk it today with two sponges and a patterned throw FFS !
I don't cam either so can't make it up there and my massages are shite lol
I had used Ibuprofen to lighten the blood flow, it's does work a treat. I only did this when working and when you stop the ibuprofen the flow kicks back in.
It's not healthy to do this long term, but when needs must. Made me very ill though afterwards as with kidney issues nephrotic drugs like ibuprofen are poison to me. But I couldn't do sex work without it.
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I had used Ibuprofen to lighten the blood flow, it's does work a treat. I only did this when working and when you stop the ibuprofen the flow kicks back in.
It's not healthy to do this long term, but when needs must. Made me very ill though afterwards as with kidney issues nephrotic drugs like ibuprofen are poison to me. But I couldn't do sex work without it.
Yes that's similar to how tranexamic acid work , but I worked mainly half hours tues and wed this week but it decided to go premiership yesterday and I couldn't even hold it back for half hour with a super plus tampax , so no sex work for me , got money back on room though plus discount , and at least at this rate I'll be ok for next week .
It makes it so hard tp plan ahead though although their still pretty much monthly , but can be a week or so out either way and that's my problem trying to get advance deals. I know I can cancel them but it's more people booking and me appearing bloody flaky I don't like , unreliable because i can't bear being late or disorganised so it goes against the grain !
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I have had erratic periods for the past two years and I am 54. My mum was 56 when hers stopped so I imagine I will unfortunately be the same. I tend to feel especially fragile in winters when my anxiety levels shoot up. I am on the spectrum and borderline Asperger's. Being perimenopausal alongside ongoing SAD triggered Asperger's ain't pretty!
I take Bach flower remedies e.g. Rescue Remedy/Gentian/Gorse and when I am menstruating I take a mild homoeopathic dose to lessen the flow. It all helps but it bores the pants off me and my financial worry that I have this to cope with for up to two more years. I don't like to take too many conventional tablets and am already on two different ones for being on the spectrum.... Hey ho. :FF
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I am going through the peri menopause. The last 2/3 years my periods have gotten more and more irregular, from missing every second one last year, the last maybe 9 months I?ve been skipping a couple then getting one.
I haven?t had too much of a problem until recently except for never knowing when to expect a period. I had one a month ago, it didn?t get going properly so I was surprised when a few weeks later I got another one.
All of a sudden I started getting full on night sweats (starting 2 nights prior to the period, actually thought I was getting ill), then my actual period was intolerably painful to a level I?ve never known before.
I can normally manage to work on my period, but from day 2 the flow was so heavy, it was so painful I couldn?t. I also felt physically ill.
I don?t want to go on HRT if I can help it, I also get migraines so my options are limited there anyway.
So folks I haven?t had a proper period since that awful one in Nov; I?ve had every month faint spotting and it never gets fully started.
Now just this last one I feel I may have developed hot flushes, but since I?ve also had a nasty virus unsure if it might be to do with that too.
Anyway its like I get hot for no reason, it comes over me, often when I?m just sitting down doing nothing physical, then it goes, am I describing a classic hot flush?
During my first couple of bookings since being sick its happened as well which hasn?t helped my comeback! I suppose I?m concerned its going to affect work more and more, I never know if I?m going to get a period, and I dread another really painful one which incapacitated me for a week basically.
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Anyway its like I get hot for no reason, it comes over me, often when I?m just sitting down doing nothing physical, then it goes, am I describing a classic hot flush?
You could be - but the problem is, it could also be some sort of infection (tonsillitis etc.)
Are you on any sort of hormonal contraception? If not, you can see your GP and discuss HRT etc.
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With my hot flushes, it's the top half of my body only. They last for a few minutes each and come and go every few weeks for a few weeks at a time.
Skin can get very clammy. I pore sweat, but clients think it's from all the effort I put in 😎
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You could be - but the problem is, it could also be some sort of infection (tonsillitis etc.)
Are you on any sort of hormonal contraception? If not, you can see your GP and discuss HRT etc.
Yes it could be the tail end of this current virus, or god forbid another one...I?m not on hormonal contraception, most pills I can?t take due to migraines, and I don?t want to do HRT unless I have to (my current surgery is really anti anyway).
With my hot flushes, it's the top half of my body only. They last for a few minutes each and come and go every few weeks for a few weeks at a time.
Skin can get very clammy. I pore sweat, but clients think it's from all the effort I put in 😎
Yes that?s exactly it! Also the clammy skin after, workwise for some time now I got really hot easily, and I guess this is the next step towards the big M.
Luckily for work, I still lubricate as well as I ever did (phew)
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So folks I haven?t had a proper period since that awful one in Nov; I?ve had every month faint spotting and it never gets fully started.
Now just this last one I feel I may have developed hot flushes, but since I?ve also had a nasty virus unsure if it might be to do with that too.
Anyway its like I get hot for no reason, it comes over me, often when I?m just sitting down doing nothing physical, then it goes, am I describing a classic hot flush?
During my first couple of bookings since being sick its happened as well which hasn?t helped my comeback! I suppose I?m concerned its going to affect work more and more, I never know if I?m going to get a period, and I dread another really painful one which incapacitated me for a week basically.
I have gone through a nightmare of peri menopause last 3 years. If you want to get the cycle going again and speed up the full menopause you do not need drugs - just acupuncture. (in lower back) With me it seemed to unblock everything that was blocked, so am hoping am near the end as lost a lot money through unexpected times of the month happening. When you are younger you recognise pmt and the onset of a period but with peri menopause you do not - one minute you are ok - next minute it starts out of nowhere - and with me can last 3 days or 12 days - hence loss of bookings and income. But work hard during the good days where my hormones are normal again!
Try to explain that to a man! They look confused and embarrassed.
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I have gone through a nightmare of peri menopause last 3 years. If you want to get the cycle going again and speed up the full menopause you do not need drugs - just acupuncture. (in lower back) With me it seemed to unblock everything that was blocked, so am hoping am near the end as lost a lot money through unexpected times of the month happening. When you are younger you recognise pmt and the onset of a period but with peri menopause you do not - one minute you are ok - next minute it starts out of nowhere - and with me can last 3 days or 12 days - hence loss of bookings and income. But work hard during the good days where my hormones are normal again!
Try to explain that to a man! They look confused and embarrassed.
It?s so frustrating. I had acupuncture a couple of years ago for something totally different. I am allergic to nickel which is in the needles in small quantities. Even tho she used special coated needles I came out in hives all over my body!
I just don?t know whether I?m coming or going, its difficult to schedule appointments as I never know if or when I will get my period; and I dread another one like Novembers which put me totally out of action for bookings.
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Well I'm supposed to be away but am literally sitting waiting on one , sore boobs etc , daren't book as last time ( they do come roughly the same time ish but they're not predictable) it ended up pouring in the first couple of days from the start , where usually they start slow and build up !
Plus it always first week of the month because I have long cycle, but it's so frustrating if I book it'll start if I don't it could be next bloody week , especially as had spotting two days ago , now nada Rrrrrr
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Finally something has worked I started taking sage leaf capsules from Holland & Barrett I can't believe the hot flushes have reduced . :)
Now just got to keep on using lube to stay wet for these clients as that passed in my late 30 s lol
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Finally something has worked I started taking sage leaf capsules from Holland & Barrett I can't believe the hot flushes have reduced . :)
Now just got to keep on using lube to stay wet for these clients as that passed in my late 30 s lol
I suffer badly from hot flushes. It?s awful in bookings. In fact it?s just awful full stop! No point in wearing make up as it just slides off. My hair gets soaking wet I look like a drowned rat then I get embarrassed so I take an even bigger redner. I had heard about sage and tried the tea but I could not drink it so I?m definitely going to try the tablets thanks xx
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Good luck hope they help too Gina
It is apparently for many things as well as perspiration .excessive sweating .
I did get a big 3 speed oscilsting fan for the summer just this week in preperation for a summer to keep clients and I cool at my in call flat as last year was unbearable .
Get fan b4 they sell out in summer lol
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Finally something has worked I started taking sage leaf capsules from Holland & Barrett I can't believe the hot flushes have reduced . :)
Now just got to keep on using lube to stay wet for these clients as that passed in my late 30 s lol
Damm I?ve just been in there. I am going to try this as the hot flushes are getting worse. It also makes me feel self conscious in bookings as I go really red!
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It gets. Unbearable with clients I get too hot and can't wait to jump in a cool bath .
Hope you find it works for you its two capsules morning with fluid and also in evening too.
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Good luck hope they help too Gina
It is apparently for many things as well as perspiration .excessive sweating .
I did get a big 3 speed oscilsting fan for the summer just this week in preperation for a summer to keep clients and I cool at my in call flat as last year was unbearable .
Get fan b4 they sell out in summer lol
Ive already got one and I would be using it now if I could get away with it unfortunately I am having to put the heater on for the men :( ;D
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i have severe bad effect being in menopause...chronic insomnia , sweaty night, tired all time and i am just confused mentally because i do not sleep.
these symptom do not allow me to work more harder and i am not happy with my self! so i really need to find a solution!
I am feel so tired..that i am able only to work in daytime as i m waking up at 430am...so actually i do not accept booking at 8pm and i really regret it as i need to make money to reach my goal. I would like to work more but i can not control it!
if i take a nap between booking is worst, then i do not sleep at all.
i am not stressed, depress...just tired because i do not sleep! i am a happy early bird and i enjoy to wake up at 430am but i am not happy to refuse evening booking as i m having requests.
i have 36y old, i feel so much older in this moment...in the same time i feel that i am lazy so guilty and absolutely not happy what i am doing about work. i am not able to be a hardworker anymore and i was so work alcoholic before!
if i am taking a booking late...i tried..i am feel so hyperactive afterwards that i do not sleep! even i go to sleep at 1 or 2am i am still waking up at 430am.
so, i m wondering if somebody is taking ST john wort....i started since 3 days to take magnesium but seems need to wait to work!
i writing on here because i really need help! i went to my GP but seems that can not help with insomnia!
i stopped to take melatonin as after 3 days i cry without reason! i am eating a healthy diet, drink lot of water, do sport 3/4 time a week for 1hr each time. do you think that hormones remplacement could be the cause?
if somebody can help or let me know how i can try to deal with these issues above i will be grateful.
thank you so much!
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i have severe bad effect being in menopause...chronic insomnia , sweaty night, tired all time and i am just confused mentally because i do not sleep.
these symptom do not allow me to work more harder and i am not happy with my self! so i really need to find a solution!
I am feel so tired..that i am able only to work in daytime as i m waking up at 430am...so actually i do not accept booking at 8pm and i really regret it as i need to make money to reach my goal. I would like to work more but i can not control it!
if i take a nap between booking is worst, then i do not sleep at all.
i am not stressed, depress...just tired because i do not sleep! i am a happy early bird and i enjoy to wake up at 430am but i am not happy to refuse evening booking as i m having requests.
i have 36y old, i feel so much older in this moment...in the same time i feel that i am lazy so guilty and absolutely not happy what i am doing about work. i am not able to be a hardworker anymore and i was so work alcoholic before!
if i am taking a booking late...i tried..i am feel so hyperactive afterwards that i do not sleep! even i go to sleep at 1 or 2am i am still waking up at 430am.
so, i m wondering if somebody is taking ST john wort....i started since 3 days to take magnesium but seems need to wait to work!
i writing on here because i really need help! i went to my GP but seems that can not help with insomnia!
i stopped to take melatonin as after 3 days i cry without reason! i am eating a healthy diet, drink lot of water, do sport 3/4 time a week for 1hr each time. do you think that hormones remplacement could be the cause?
if somebody can help or let me know how i can try to deal with these issues above i will be grateful.
thank you so much!
Just a note about magnesium.. Its actually absorbed much more easily through the skin than by taking via mouth. Magnesium flakes in the bath work really well, and you can make a spray to rub on your skin using the flakes mixed with water in a bottle
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So I have been trying CBD oil to help with my menapause whilst working. It's amazing, I have only had 1 hot flush so far, the night sweats have stopped. My anxiety has vanished. I feel kind of "normal".
Now I only been using it about 10 days but I am impressed.
There are lots of different brands but I was told not to use the Holland &Barret one as that's so diluted it's not worth using. So I went for a mid strength legal one I got online.
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thank you for replies.
Yesterday i was really frustrated about that.
I find out my mistake and today i wake up at 6am, so happy!
dinner at 830pm with spinach, magnesium tablet and i hidden my phone, all technologies.
2 camomila tea with peppermint!
wow, i came back to normal life! i hope that going to work every night it!
feel refreshed!
Thank you so much
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So I have been trying CBD oil to help with my menapause whilst working. It's amazing, I have only had 1 hot flush so far, the night sweats have stopped. My anxiety has vanished. I feel kind of "normal".
Now I only been using it about 10 days but I am impressed.
There are lots of different brands but I was told not to use the Holland &Barret one as that's so diluted it's not worth using. So I went for a mid strength legal one I got online.
Forgive my ignorance but what is CBD oil? I need something to help me.
Time of the month and peri menopause has caused me so much grief and a massive loss of income - I sometimes feel helpless. Have a couple of regulars that have been ok with unexpected hormones and effects of menopause on my body and mind but the rest have just disappeared. They were my regular income and now they are not! Any advice much appreciated.
E x
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Oh have googled CBD oil now so know what it is. Does Holland & Barrett sell it? what is the best strength to use and how? How long does it take to work?
My GP is useless with anything menopause/sleep deprivation related.
The advice above about magnesium flakes is very useful - thank you!
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thank you for replies.
Yesterday i was really frustrated about that.
I find out my mistake and today i wake up at 6am, so happy!
dinner at 830pm with spinach, magnesium tablet and i hidden my phone, all technologies.
2 camomila tea with peppermint!
wow, i came back to normal life! i hope that going to work every night it!
feel refreshed!
Thank you so much
Hope your body clock adjusts and you feel better with working :)
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Thank you so much Sugar! sleep is so important! i need to improve even all the side effects of menopause! i didn t have before them..
hot and sweaty night don t bother me too much but lack of sleep so lack of energy are affecting my job! i think that i can find a natural way to feel better and have more energy so to work more!
in this moment i m changing my belief about medicine of synthese, i just prefer natural remedies!
have a great day!
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So I have been trying CBD oil to help with my menapause whilst working. It's amazing,
There are lots of different brands but I was told not to use the Holland &Barret one as that's so diluted it's not worth using. So I went for a mid strength legal one I got online.
I was considering purchasing this one but read somewhere too about some of them being so diluted you might as well be purchasing cooking/salad oil! Is it possible to share which one you bought & from where (if poss).
If not what is the ingredient/strength we need to look out for on the label.
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I was considering purchasing this one but read somewhere too about some of them being so diluted you might as well be purchasing cooking/salad oil! Is it possible to share which one you bought & from where (if poss).
If not what is the ingredient/strength we need to look out for on the label.
If you Google CBD Brothers, it's a legal site. Has every strength and different types from capsules to oils and chocolate, all have a different impact. Some are for day time and some for night time. I like this site and you can get freebies to try. I use a mid strength and am still very happy with it.
There ar shops scattered around the country. My nearest is Bolton but I not been in yet.
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Vogel's Menopause Support tablets really helped my increased anxiety. I have been on them since spring and felt calmer within 5 days.
I will be intrigued to see how much they do/don't help me now we are in the wretched SAD season.
I wouldn't be without them though as my energy was appalling for ages prior to taking them and once I had been on them for two months my energy improved. In my case it did take a long while.
For sex drive it isn't what it could be but I take four avocados a week which help somewhat.
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If you Google CBD Brothers, it's a legal site. Has every strength and different types from capsules to oils and chocolate, all have a different impact. Some are for day time and some for night time. I like this site and you can get freebies to try. I use a mid strength and am still very happy with it.
There ar shops scattered around the country. My nearest is Bolton but I not been in yet.
Thank you NB, I will take a more in depth look, every little helps!
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I haven't read the full thread but did read somewhere that women suffering the menopause and lack of drive, could privately purchase testosterone patches. They lasted a year and were at the time £500. I am not sure where you'd go but is something you could talk to your GP about.
I'm 43 now and know it is coming so thankfully changed my Mirena coil this year and will change it in five years time so will get away with the periods side of things.
I have found already that getting naturally wet isn't happening so found that the durex lube in a clear and green tube £12 a time works well and you only need a tiny amount.
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I haven't read the full thread but did read somewhere that women suffering the menopause and lack of drive, could privately purchase testosterone patches. They lasted a year and were at the time £500. I am not sure where you'd go but is something you could talk to your GP about.
I'm 43 now and know it is coming so thankfully changed my Mirena coil this year and will change it in five years time so will get away with the periods side of things.
I have found already that getting naturally wet isn't happening so found that the durex lube in a clear and green tube £12 a time works well and you only need a tiny amount.
I wouldn't recommend that. It might boost your libido, but also give you a moustache! :o
I think I can now officially say I'm menopausal, as it's five months since I've had a period. I still enjoy sex, everything works fine (including natural lubrication), but my libido, as in urge (which was often raging pre- and post-period) has definitely dropped. It's actually quite good when I have a lot of civvy work to do!
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Well I am collecting various unpleasant ailments. I won't Google!!
Colder weather reduces hot sweats :)
But inflamed joints are tough to deal with too.
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I suppose this one is for the more mature escort but of course any advice is welcomed :)
I’m a while off menopause but the women in my family don’t talk about female body parts, sex or anything related so I guess I’m just curious of what’s to come as I do see myself in this job for the long haul.
Can you still have sex in pre menopause/menopause or does is get too dry down there? Do you lose all libido completely and does it come back post menopause?
When you’re in these stages, do or did you drop full services from your list and just stick to oral/hj/massage etc, and would you stick with them services for post menopause or would you bring back full service after?
In my mind I’d like to escort until I can’t physically do it anymore but I guess I’m curious if my body will keep up. I don’t want to get older and then realise after 20+ years of escorting that I actually need a civvy job as I love being self employed and the fact I run my own business.
Thank you,
PinUpGirl.
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To clarify -
Pre-menopause is known as perimenopause. This is a transitional phase which can start months or even years before your period stops.
Menopause is when your period stops.
Post menopause is when you've not had a period for 1 whole calendar year, if you're over 50. If you are under 50, it is 2 whole calendar years.
I've had an early menopause and at 42, am now post menopause. I went into peri menopause at 37. I am on HRT and intend to take HRT for as long as I am able to. It is not hyperbole to say HRT changed my quality of life immeasurably.
Tbh, it all depends on what symptoms you're experiencing as no two women will go through menopause in the same way. Some will lose their libido, others won't. Many will suffer vaginal atrophy and vaginal dryness, other won't. I completely lost my libido for a few years, but did not have to deal with vaginal dryness or atrophy, thank god. Another common symptom are recurrent UTIs. Thankfully, I bypassed this too. Also, because your hormones will be in flux for anywhere up to a decade, although typically 4-8 years, symptoms will come and go. HRT really is the only real solution to managing symptoms, particularly things like vaginal atrophy, dryness and UTIs which will definitely inhibit what services you provide. While I did not suffer any of these, I did notice that for a while, sex was painful and uncomfortable. This is no longer the case. Additionally, many women lose their sense of self, many become increasingly besieged with anxiety and these things do make going about your day to day life very very hard.
The best thing I can recommend is to educate yourself and to start reading now so you know what the symptoms are. It isn't always about your periods per se, there are 38 symptoms of the menopause, many of which such as hot flushes, night sweats and lack of sleep can severally impact your life, and for me, were the main players and debilitating. For me, my periods were the last thing to go awry.
But, as I said, some women have a painless transition through menopause with very few symptoms or side effects, and others have a terrible time. There really is no way of knowing what your experience will be.
I have no doubt any of the other women on this board who have been/are going through menopause will have their own story to add - there really is no one-size fits all experience.
I hope that helps.
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That’s really helpful Millie, thank you very much.
I’m in my mid-late 30’s and definitely felt changes in my libido compared to my 20’s where I was ravenous for sex to the point it actually consumed my life for a while with how much I needed to have sex to release the angst so sex work really helped that. But it’s definitely more on the other end of the scale now. Much more mellow!!
Like you say, every women’s experience will be different so I wont compare experiences in anticipation of what’s to come over the coming years.
I have very irregular periods anyway so maybe this is something I will speak to my GP about, but I will research any symptoms to look out for too.
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As we age, your libido will drop a little naturally anyway. About a year before I went into perimenopause, I experienced what is know as 'sex surge' and all I wanted to do was has sex. Often, this a woman's body making a last ditch attempt to have a baby! To go from this extreme to being revolted by sex was extraordinary!
As I said, periods aren't often an indicator of perimenopause, and as yours aren't regular, that is not a way to gauge things anyway, and neither are blood tests. A GP would be able to ascertain perimenopause simply by symptoms, although many only are unable to do this.
Be advised that many GPs are disinterested and/or ill-informed at best. Quite a few actually told me that 'this is what women go through and to put up with it'. Charming. In the end, I went to see a specialist privately.
I recommend websites such as Menopause Matters and NICE.
Because of my experience, menopause is pretty much my Mastermind specialist subject! If you have any further questions, feel free to drop me a message.
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Because of my experience, menopause is pretty much my Mastermind specialist subject! If you have any further questions, feel free to drop me a message.
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Thank you Millie!! I will certainly keep that in mind for the future :) :) :) x
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I'm coming up to 54, and classed myself as post-menopausal as of January 1st this year. I did have a big dip in libido from the end of 2018, but think that was linked to other factors as well, though it was definitely low in the first nine months of 2020. It's since begun to increase again - perhaps because it's so long since I've had sex!
Everything still works, but then I've always lubricated well and easily (I've never needed to use lube with clients). The vagina does 'atrophy' with age, but I don't think it's an issue before about 65, maybe nearer 60 if you're unlucky. I have bought some vaginal moisturiser just in case, and I always have lube to hand, so will see how I get on if I start work again after May 17.
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The vagina does 'atrophy' with age, but I don't think it's an issue before about 65, maybe nearer 60 if you're unlucky.
Vaginal atrophy happens due to decreasing oestrogen levels, something that happens when they are in perimenopause. Some will experience vaginal atrophy as a result of falling oestrogen levels, others will not. But to say vaginal atrophy is not an issue before 60 is incorrect and grossly misleading.
(And fwiw, there are many degrees of vaginal atrophy too, dryness is a very small part of it, but often how it manifests. There are far more serious consequences which can lead to the woman being unable to have penetrative sex.)
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So would both of you still of offered the full service when your vaginal dryness was at its highest, was lube your best friend or was it too painful to offer penetration, condoms can be drying at the best of times!
Or did you have civvy jobs to support you financially?
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Vaginal atrophy happens due to decreasing oestrogen levels, something that happens when they are in perimenopause. Some will experience vaginal atrophy as a result of falling oestrogen levels, others will not. But to say vaginal atrophy is not an issue before 60 is incorrect and grossly misleading.
(And fwiw, there are many degrees of vaginal atrophy too, dryness is a very small part of it, but often how it manifests. There are far more serious consequences which can lead to the woman being unable to have penetrative sex.)
But vaginal atrophy is a very gradual process. Dryness and thinning can start during perimenopause, but in the majority of women actual atrophy (i.e. to the point where sex is painful, or even impossible) isn't noticeable for a few years. Many women can have vaginal sex without problems into their 70s.
PinUpGirl8: I'm not sure who your question was directed to, but I had my last period in Christmas week 2019. Sex was fine over 2019 and the few times I had it in 2020. I do have another job, yes, so only did a handful of bookings in 2020, and none since the November 6th lockdown.
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It depends upon the person as to how healthy they are. If you naturally take good care of your mind body soul so to speak and have a good immune system this should all help. It will also depend upon how stressful your life circumstances are.
I get juicy no problem and am in my fifties. My periods stopped last year in August. I eat two avocados weekly which help libido and are good for us. I also drink parsley tea which is good for blood pressure and stress. The blood pressure is a separate issue and genetic.
Sensilube is good for our vagina and I also take acidophilus. Still having sex has never been a problem for me.
A lot will also depend upon luck.
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I'm in my forties so this thread is very interesting to me. I am having some symptoms, like sleeplessness and more frequent bouts of urgent urination/nocturia. I definitely don't get as messy wet as I used to do, but then again, I used to get excessively lubricated so I feel it is now probably closer to average. Still it does seem a bit suspect that this all started happening post Covid and I know quite a few long covid women saying that they feel that having had Covid has kick started menopause.
Still my diet is good and I am well into my supplements so I hope this staves off worse symptoms, my mother didn't go through menopause into her 50s and having had an ovary check I do know that it is likely to take a while as I have a high egg reserve.
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Really glad I found this thread, after visiting my local clinic with a really persistent case of BV and thrush the Dr told me I have an area of atrophy quite high up, and I should speak to my GP about estrogen cream. I'm not sure if I'm perimenapausal or menopausal having had very few symptoms (I have an IUD so no periods anyway) but I'm guessing at 54 I am one of the other! My worry is using an estrogen cream or gel, is it ok to use whilst working and are they condom proof?
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Well I don't know what happened to my 93 year old abuela because my cousin apparently walked in on her and her boyfriend (yes I know) a couple of weeks ago and caught them in the act! yes the actualy act they were full on shagging! so I think the menopause and having a closed up fanny may have missed her somehow. ;D
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A friend's doctor had prescribed pesery for vaginal use and a gel to rub on inside of thighs which is for lubricating .My gp of course didn't bother recommend to me
Is it something you have tried or could get elsewhere ?
I don't remember the name of the products
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I'm on HRT but started early voluntarily as a friend told me how great she felt on it. I had zero menopause symptoms.
I'm wild guessing the gel is oestrogen-(oestrogel)?
But it's not just for lubricating it's a very powerful hormone.
If so, from my experience it is prescription only.
Not suggesting anyone here will.... but I'd not buy on the dark web or do swopsies with mates... HRT medication as far as I know requires a doctor first as you generally need a medical check including bloods, breast, cervical, and calcium checks. Doctors should prescribe hormones in balance so they 'do no harm'. What suits your friend may be disasterous for you.
If the GP won't help you may need to look up a gyny specialist and go private as I did.
It's not horribly expensive when you think of the benefits.
Thankyou for the info
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Really glad I found this thread, after visiting my local clinic with a really persistent case of BV and thrush the Dr told me I have an area of atrophy quite high up, and I should speak to my GP about estrogen cream. I'm not sure if I'm perimenapausal or menopausal having had very few symptoms (I have an IUD so no periods anyway) but I'm guessing at 54 I am one of the other! My worry is using an estrogen cream or gel, is it ok to use whilst working and are they condom proof?
Sorry if this is a repeat - the SAAFE site returned an error again after posting first time.
You should be fine using an oestrogen gel or cream, as it's likely to be applied at night. It should also help, not hinder, sex work as penetration is likely to be more comfortable.
As an aside, I'm 2 years out from the menopause now. Mine was thankfully symptom-free but I have lost a lot of my previously abundant natural lubrication. During penetration it's OK, but I need a dab of lube to assist entry.
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Really glad I found this thread, after visiting my local clinic with a really persistent case of BV and thrush the Dr told me I have an area of atrophy quite high up, and I should speak to my GP about estrogen cream. I'm not sure if I'm perimenapausal or menopausal having had very few symptoms (I have an IUD so no periods anyway) but I'm guessing at 54 I am one of the other! My worry is using an estrogen cream or gel, is it ok to use whilst working and are they condom proof?
Atrophy presents in a myriad of ways including the vaginal walls become thinner and less flexible which makes sex incredibly painful. It can also make penetration difficult. Oestrogen cream does not not affect the vagina directly, although if you have noticed your vagina is not as lubricated as it once was, it will help with this. Instead, you need something topical and low dose (which does not affect your endocrine system directly) - the only thing that will tackle atrophy is a pessary called Vagifem - it is used daily for a fortnight and then bi-weekly. (It is marvellous stuff, I speak from experience!) If this does not work, the only other option is an estring/oestrogen vaginal ring that sits high up by the cervix.
The pessary is inserted before sleep. The ring sits high up by your cervix. Both are fine to use with a condom.
I recommend you make an appointment with either a GP who actually specialises in menopause or seek a private specialist who does. Ditto Kiss (if you’re reading this). Although I see someone privately, there is a highly regarded GP who specialises in menopause who will see you for a consultation (either in person or online), prescribe and then send the scripts to your GP - just google balance menopause and she is the first result.
It is also worth noting that atrophy can shrink your vulval tissue, particularly around your urethra. As a result, UTI infections are far more common during perimenopause and menopause. Thrush is caused by a candida overgrowth, this is also far more common during menopause due to changes in the gut caused by fluctuating hormones. Consuming less sugar and alcohol will be beneficial, as will looking at your diet in general. Again, a good GP with an interest in women’s health will be able to assist.
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Once again, can we keep it sex work specific please?
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Dr Kegel exercises may even help prevent vaginal atrophy. I started doing them recently as a safeguard. They keep our vagina tight or help it become tighter whichever you need. The exercises must be done daily and you clench for three full seconds each time.
I also started getting soreness dry vagina plus itching (I am in my fifties) once clients played with my private parts. I bought Yes vaginal moisturizing gel which must be used after every shower or afternoon freshen up down below in between ckients. It is organic and you cannot overuse it but once you start using it you should never stop or symptoms will return. I got better within a week. I do not like to use conventional ointments through the doctor preferring natural routes.
Personally I swear by both these strategies.
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Dr Kegel exercises may even help prevent vaginal atrophy.
No, they won’t. Kegels have nothing to do with production of oestrogen. Atrophy is caused by a loss of oestrogen which causes vaginal (and vulval) tissue to shrink, become thinner, and/or become less flexible. For some, this means they cannot accommodate anything in their vagina, so will put a stop to them being able to do full service sex work.
Like you, I did occasionally use Yes vaginal moisturiser (the water based one), but since I have been using Vagifem, I haven’t had to use it at all. I will disagree that you’ve got ‘better’, you’ve just found a sticking plaster to see you through rather than treating/preventing the cause. However, if it works for you, wonderful :)
Note - I have tried to keep this (and my previous post) on topic re. sex work but I cannot bear shit/ill-informed advice about menopause/atrophy as it can be really detrimental re. one’s sexual health/ability to have sex which obviously is of the utmost importance for full service sex work.
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I forgot to mention you can still add lube on top of the Yes gel in a booking no problem.
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Miffy I read it online but I guess it depends. I may give Vagifem a whirl and see how it compares.
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I have been googling it and apparently a healthy sex life (we are sex workers) gets rid of it. If you don't want it to close up and go small then just continue shagging ;D.
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Lillybliss I think it depends upon how severe the prolapse is. I have no signs of any vaginal prolapse as I have carefully checked the symptoms. However there is an argument for 'use it or lose it' for a healthy vagina as well as Dr Kegel twice daily.
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Oh ok Lushblossom and yes the kegel thing is a good move :).
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Definitely get an appointment with GP but most are not experts on hormones and HRT so do some research and educate yourself on HRT there's much scaremongering about it but Estrogen is important for us as we age. Check out menopause barbie on YouTube she gives great and in a way that it's easy to understand and she is a menopause specialist. But you can get estrogen cream to apply to the vagina and it's going to work in that area and will not cause uterine problems but the topical estrogen gel I take is strong and I need to take progesterone to protect my uterus and stop heavy periods. It's important you feel comfortable and that your living your best life with your hormones working for you and keeping you healthy.
As for prolapse this can be down to many things, I actually purchased a kegel machine because I find doing kegaks hard to master and recently I had a tummy bug and was violently sick and I couldn't stop wetting myself so I obviously need to get my muscles working.
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Hot flushes are driving me mad ..so my fan on constantly and ice water drinks all day
Got glasses in the freezer with ice in ready
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You should be fine using an oestrogen gel or cream, as it's likely to be applied at night. It should also help, not hinder, sex work as penetration is likely to be more comfortable.
As an aside, I'm 2 years out from the menopause now. Mine was thankfully symptom-free but I have lost a lot of my previously abundant natural lubrication. During penetration it's OK, but I need a dab of lube to assist entry.
I always use lube, and being active seems to make a big difference. I had to stop work for a while to look after a sick relative a year ago, and when I resumed I was very surprised how different it was to before. Entry in particular was noticeably awkward compared with usual, and it was several weeks before 'things' got back to normal. I would say I am higher than average volume and normally I find penetrative sex very easy, but it wasn't after a few months break. Some of the clients noticed it as well. So in future I shall make sure I keep up a steady work rate and limit the breaks.
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Lube is only a placebo and does nothing to prevent the issue recurring, which it will. The best solution is Vagifem which your GP and/or gynae will be only too happy to prescribe for you. It can be taken on its own, and even by those who are unable to take HRT.
I cannot emphasis enough how life-changing Vagifem can be for those going through menopause who are finding their vagina is not ‘working’ as it once did, be it in terms of lubricating itself, lack of elasticity, painful sex etc
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This thread is very interesting to me as although I'm not even 40 yet I'm pretty sure I have been perimenopausal for a couple of years now. Haven't been to the doctors though as they are rubbish and will just put it down to the weight.
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While the majority of women do start to go through perimenopause in the 40s and 50s, it can happen at any age. I went though I went through in my mid-thirties and it was awful, mostly because every single GP dismissed my concerns and told me it was not perimenopause, which it was. (My weight was one of the first things to go awry). I struggled on in absolute misery for several years until I went to see a private specialist. It is not hyperbole to say it was life-changing for me.
Caledonia - feel free to drop me a PM if you have an questions
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Lube is only a placebo and does nothing to prevent the issue recurring, which it will. The best solution is Vagifem which your GP and/or gynae will be only too happy to prescribe for you. It can be taken on its own, and even by those who are unable to take HRT.
I cannot emphasis enough how life-changing Vagifem can be for those going through menopause who are finding their vagina is not ‘working’ as it once did, be it in terms of lubricating itself, lack of elasticity, painful sex etc
I had a shock a couple of days ago when I gushed, which hasn't happened for a couple of years, so something's still working OK! :)
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This thread is very interesting to me as although I'm not even 40 yet I'm pretty sure I have been perimenopausal for a couple of years now. Haven't been to the doctors though as they are rubbish and will just put it down to the weight.
I just hit 40 earlier this year, and haven't experienced any symptoms so far. What I wanted to highlight is that being sexually active improves muscle tone etc, and the experience I had last year really illustrated that. Parts of your body that you don't use as much can go into decline without you realising it.
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i m in premature menopause since i was 17years old. i take HRT and honestly changed improved everything.
i follow lot of research and i can not live without rn.
in middle east is banned however they allow trt for men which is absolutely ignorant. LOL
my gp in uk gave me my HRT and still taking it while i m travelling.
the lack of aestrogen can be very dramatic in your life. sleep, acne, moody...
if you feel some of those symptoms i suggest to check your hormaones balance
your sex life and modd will be better with HRT if you are unbalanced
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Ladies I need some advice please?
I've been struggling with the menopause for 3 years now (went down the herbal route initially) but after trying numerous pills I finally relented and went on HRT as the hot flushes I was experiencing alongwith a few other symptoms weren't pleasant.
Whilst a lot of us have our own opinions on HRT, at the minute I feel I've made the right decision for 'me'. However, the one thing I'm really struggling with is the dryness, I only offer protected services but it honestly feels like someone is penetrating me with sandpaper at times, never a good or sexy feeling, especially in this line of work. :) :)
Can anyone advise?
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Assuming you're already using lube, I'd maybe go and get checked to make sure nothing else is going on (atrophy, internal tears and whatnot). If you have a women's clinic available to you, so much the better :)
There is a topical oestrogen you can now buy OTC too, but I cannot for the life of me remember what it's called - that might help? It's likely in this thread somewhere but I don't have time to look.
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Ladies I need some advice please?
I've been struggling with the menopause for 3 years now (went down the herbal route initially) but after trying numerous pills I finally relented and went on HRT as the hot flushes I was experiencing alongwith a few other symptoms weren't pleasant.
Whilst a lot of us have our own opinions on HRT, at the minute I feel I've made the right decision for 'me'. However, the one thing I'm really struggling with is the dryness, I only offer protected services but it honestly feels like someone is penetrating me with sandpaper at times, never a good or sexy feeling, especially in this line of work. :) :)
Can anyone advise?
I do not take HR T but I know some people use Ovestin. However it can give side effects. It is a cream on prescription. Like anything some people will swear by it and others do not.
I take Yes vaginal moisturiser as it is organic and natural. It is not a cure but helps.
I think many people will be unable to see as many clients as before the menopause or it will cause discomfort.
There are however the lucky 1 in 4 women who get no menopause symptoms whatsoever...!
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Ladies I need some advice please?
I've been struggling with the menopause for 3 years now (went down the herbal route initially) but after trying numerous pills I finally relented and went on HRT as the hot flushes I was experiencing alongwith a few other symptoms weren't pleasant.
Whilst a lot of us have our own opinions on HRT, at the minute I feel I've made the right decision for 'me'. However, the one thing I'm really struggling with is the dryness, I only offer protected services but it honestly feels like someone is penetrating me with sandpaper at times, never a good or sexy feeling, especially in this line of work. :) :)
Can anyone advise?
Hi and can I ask what HRT are you taking? I ask because the old versions of HRT with synthetic progesterone actually causes low estrogen levels, I take the bioidentical version utrogestin.
I am perimenopause and I take estrogen gel to relieve my severe PMS, Stress or working out harder, Weight loss can result in needing more estrogen and antidepressants also do cause issues.
Women also need Testosterone for energy, Muscle tone, Bone density and sex drive, It's not just for men but GPs are useless at taking female sex drive seriously or even understanding how important our Estrogen is for our mental and physical wellbeing although some lucky ladies go through menopause with less symptoms.
I don't take Testosterone myself but would if and when my levels impact me. I know Maca and muira puana can increase blood flow and lubricate the vagina. The topical estrogen is also a good choice and you can get that from a pharmacy without a prescription.
You might need to up the HRT Estrogen dose if you are still getting vaginal dryness. When we go through menopause all 3 hormones bottom out include Testosterone. You will need progesterone if you still have a womb.
I listen to to Dr Louise Newson on Spotify podcasts and its excellent for information on hormones, Menopause and HRT. Unfortunately not many GPs really know much about HRT and hormones to prescribe optimally.
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I'm on Utrogestan and the gel daily which has relieved some of the symptoms but unfortunately not the dryness.
I've listened to Dr Louise Newton a few times, she certainly seems to know her stuff. Thankfully I've managed to get an appointment with a female Doctor next week so I will quiz her as to what she could prescribe, already had the oestrogen tablets which didn't help so short of finding a gel of some kind I'm going to have to consider giving escorting up which I really don't want to do.
I really appreciate the advice ladies. Im new here and loving the camradarie (think that's how you spell it :D).
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Vagifem is the stuff I was trying to remember (it's definitely on here somewhere); it's a pessary you can buy from Superdrug and so on. I don't know whether it's condom safe though, so you'd need to check.
If your lube isn't lasting well, maybe try a different type? I've used Pjur Woman silicone lube for years and it stays slippy for mucb longer than the water based ones - it's fragrance free and tasteless too AFAIK (I don't do RO so I don't know) :)
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I'm on Utrogestan and the gel daily which has relieved some of the symptoms but unfortunately not the dryness.
I've listened to Dr Louise Newton a few times, she certainly seems to know her stuff. Thankfully I've managed to get an appointment with a female Doctor next week so I will quiz her as to what she could prescribe, already had the oestrogen tablets which didn't help so short of finding a gel of some kind I'm going to have to consider giving escorting up which I really don't want to do.
I really appreciate the advice ladies. Im new here and loving the camradarie (think that's how you spell it :D).
You can also buy "Gina" Estrogen vaginal tablets from boots £28, Might be worth a try and it's without a prescription.
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Oestrogen in the UK, not 'Estrogen' which is American English.
Apologies for the pedantry, but it's worth pointing out in case anybody wants to do some Googling and get relevant sites rather than US ones :)
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I'm experiencing rage anger and irritable feeling since the begining of the month I guess it may well be the menopause I'm well into it in my 50s .
Thankyou for the tips on here .
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Hi to all,
A saliva test will tell you what you need for menaupose related symptoms.
I have done mine and few things were detected . My private GP advise me a supplement as i have adrenal dysfunction+ a cream which cover other disfunctions. My menaupose came when my GP stop my Evra patch. Probably Evra patch hide my menaupose and for few years had terrible health. Now am happy that i will get the right treatment.
Hope that help .