I'm not menopausal but I have always had a dryness problem. I have tried many things, some work, some don't. I find that the gel types are best and creams are not as good.

The best is Yes VM and the disposable applicators are really good. I have not seen it in stores and I buy it online from their website. It is condom and sex toy friendly.

Replens is very similar but I find thinner and tends to dribble out too much, so I don't use it anymore.

I use Yes VM as a treatment every 3 days when I'm not working and daily when I do sex work.

It is not really a lube as such and I use Boots Silky for full on penetration activities. I used to secretly apply before bookings but I've stopped being shay about it and slap it on in front of clients.

Sometimes I get soreness if I have simply done too much sex work (vaginal or anal) - the only cure for that is 2 or 3 days off the job or restriction to maybe one penetration session a day.

It's not affecting me yet (I'm 50 and a half) but a friend recommends coconut oil. Obviously not just before a booking re. condom safety, but perhaps insert a pea-sized dab before you go to sleep at night?

Thanks 

It's not knowing when the periods are coming that's the issue for me , I've posted a lot in another menopause thread.

My hormones are pretty stable and I'm the only one left out of my friends that still gets them , but ( I think they always have ) it's the stop / starting that drives me totally mental , never know if it's actually starting or just spotting ...but if that f***er starts I'm done for a couple of days minimum , chainsaw massacre here we come , I've lost so much money this last year due to it , but what can you do ? I've just booked from tomorrow and now started spotting.

The plan is get a couple of days in , then get the weekend over and work next week !!! Seem to have de je vue !!! Bad spelling probably !

Looking for a bit of advice and help.

I?m in my mid 40s and I?m already showing some other menopause symptoms, but in recent weeks I?ve noticed I?m getting drier and drier, to the point where I?ve noticed it when I was walking the dog and doing other normal every day stuff.

I don?t want to spend my entire life with KY smeared inside me, and a lot of the vaginal moisturisers I?ve looked at seem to be oil based or creamy, which is a bit of a no-no with our line of work.

Anybody got any tips and recommendations for products they have used?

Many thanks in advance,
Katie x

You will need to try a lot of different options until you find what's best for you. Our bodies are all different.

Personally I do great with a depo-provera injection every 12 weeks and copious amounts of Liquid Silk during a booking. Yes, even when he's gone down on me and given me the best orgasm in the history of the world, he still gets LS smeared on the condom.

I am currently on tour accompanied by the chain saw massacre who today I have somehow managed to keep in check and have put the git on a star chart ( literally) in my diary today it was a two slash three star but I have a heap of bookings tomorrow so I'll see but I'm working whatever !

I changed my pill Hrt yesterday! how crazy is to be a woman? i cried without reason! from elleste conti to femoston 1 5.
i can not believe it...i would like to stop it...the list of side effects is so long! i can not understand...
how i can live/work like this!  if somebody have a light for me, please!
why i should be depress for a pill! i hate be a woman! 
i m going to my gp again..i ll cry with her!  why? 
i destroy my life and my job!