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Isabelle18

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Opinions on this situation please?
« on: 26 May 2016, 02:33:18 pm »
Hey,
I'm new to this, I've had three clients so as you can imagine, not particularly experienced.
Yesterday I had this guy and I went to his house (was 10 minutes late due to the satnav but I contacted him and informed him of what happened and he was fine with it, it was not fault of my own.)
I got there and right at meeting him he kissed me, his hands were all over me and was guiding me to his co*k. So I giggled kissed him back and said money first.
He said oh of course and let me into the house. He game me the money, made a punt at me for having to count it, and sat down and told me to get naked. I asked him if I could quickly go for a wee, he said yeah sure pointed me to the bathroom. I came out and said don't worry I'll make the time start from now because I'd been late and took a while to get in a stuff, so I checked my phone and said what the time was.
He went absolutely nuts. He got up and was like WHAT, I was like because I'm obviously not gunna include going for a wee and stuff. He was like YOU'RE TIMING THIS, did a really big sigh and said get out!. I tried to explain myself and he said 'you should not be doing this for the money, obviously moneys involved but you should be doing this for the enjoyment, I was really looking forward to seeing you and you've ruined it'. I was like I do enjoy this and I was looking forward to seeing you too (cause he sounded really nice on the phone). He told me I was not cut out for this, I'm clearly completely inexperienced, he has girls all the time and none of them tell him the time. He knew I was inexperienced whilst booking me btw. I tried to say 'yeah I am new to this but I'd read online that lots of girls inform guys of the time to show they're not being ripped off' And he was like HA WHY are you researching this? it should not be something you do for the money.
 So after not letting me explain myself he told me to get out.
I said fine but you've clearly misunderstood me and I apologise for that.
Gave the money back and said I'm taking ?20 for petrol. Then he had the cheek to count the money!

Was I as out of order as this? I don't understand his reaction at all, he was so rude. Thank you for reading this, constructive criticism would be appreciated.

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Re: Opinions on this situation please?
« Reply #1 on: 26 May 2016, 02:40:27 pm »
Nope, it sounds like you had a lucky escape. Do you have a security buddy to call when doing out calls? xx

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Re: Opinions on this situation please?
« Reply #2 on: 26 May 2016, 02:44:25 pm »
I don't understand his reaction at all, he was so rude.

You don't understand his reaction because it was that of a complete bellend who was hoping to take advantage of you and not a genuine punter who understands how booking in units of time work. And you clearly know this no matter how inexperienced you are, so I'd say that your spidey-senses are working perfectly :).

The other things you could have done was get started and then leave after ten minutes, since you're not 'supposed' to be timing things. If you're working as a prostitute for 'enjoyment' and none is forthcoming, then most people would reasonably assume it's OK to just bog off when you feel like it.

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Re: Opinions on this situation please?
« Reply #3 on: 26 May 2016, 03:13:25 pm »
What a delusional pillock he must have thought his luck was in with a new escort but you did the right thing, I would have taken a bit more than ?20 though for my wasted time and effort.

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Re: Opinions on this situation please?
« Reply #4 on: 26 May 2016, 03:24:23 pm »
They always try their luck with a new girl

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« Reply #5 on: 26 May 2016, 03:30:14 pm »
Unfortunately in the job you will always encounter people who will try to take advantage of you and don't like it when you start telling them how things are going to be. If they start complaining about you timing things it's a bad sign. I set an alarm on my phone and they know I've set it to the correct time and they are getting exactly what they paid for without being cheated it's fair and works both ways  none ever complain. It shouldn't be an issue with anybody who is genuinely booking you without intentions of taking advantage.

It's a bad sign often when they grab you as soon as you walk in anyway. They should know their time starts after business is handled. Would have been within your rights to walk off there and then but at least you stood up for yourself and got money for travel. You might be new but seems you already have plenty of backbone for dealing with idiots.

Isabelle18

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Re: Opinions on this situation please?
« Reply #6 on: 26 May 2016, 03:31:48 pm »
Thank you so much for your replies, actually means a lot.
I'm so glad it wasn't me doing something really wrong, I did start to question myself. I was like how do all these other girls do this without actually timing it?
He had like 7/9 good reviews too on adult work which confused me even more and made me think it was me.

I have two atm (just close friends that are open minded and can keep quiet, they said he was the ass but cause they don't do it I wanted to check). My friend was actually sitting in the car doing her coursework haha, taking security buddy to the new extreme.
I was tempted to leave with all the money but I thought considering how nuts he went over something as minute as that, it wasn't worth the risk. 

Just to clarify for the future, I should show them the time right?

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« Reply #7 on: 26 May 2016, 03:35:55 pm »
It should not be something you do for the money.

What a delusional knob. Lmao. Also as Helen said, I'd take a lot bigger cash 'slice' for wasting my time.

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« Reply #8 on: 26 May 2016, 03:51:06 pm »
So sorry this happened to you. They always get butthurt when you mention time. They are so delusional man. Yh, I do this job for the enjoyment of being drooled on by fat ugly old men that could never turn me on ::) They get extremely hurt cuz they want to feel wanted and not feel like you are only there for the money. Similar to them getting offended when you use lube. That explains why some try soooo hard to get me wet. Ouch! Thank goodness for lube. But it is what it is. Either you accept that and enjoy the pussy or stop booking hookers! Lol. Twats man.

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« Reply #9 on: 26 May 2016, 05:20:22 pm »

He had like 7/9 good reviews too on adult work which confused me even more and made me think it was me.


Good reviews on AW do not mean much - most girls are too "nice" to be honest (or mainly worried about their safety / survival on AW).  AW should do more to protect us.  They should really show how many bookings were made and how many positive they got out of, rather than only positive feedbacks.  Currently, you can see these details only on men with aliases.  If someone had ONLY three positives, he may have booked 12-25 times and clearly something happened and not adding up.


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« Reply #10 on: 26 May 2016, 06:07:01 pm »

He had like 7/9 good reviews too on adult work which confused me even more and made me think it was me.


Good reviews on AW do not mean much - most girls are too "nice" to be honest (or mainly worried about their safety / survival on AW).  AW should do more to protect us.  They should really show how many bookings were made and how many positive they got out of, rather than only positive feedbacks.  Currently, you can see these details only on men with aliases.  If someone had ONLY three positives, he may have booked 12-25 times and clearly something happened and not adding up.

Absolutely yet some SPs do swear by AW feedback.

Mentioning time is fine, you were only being fair. I tend to just let the booking overrun if I'm late, or we are delayed by me but you were still definitely not out of order. Unless you charge by service and not time, he was being a total prick.

Plenty of clients will appreciate your fairness.

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Re: Opinions on this situation please?
« Reply #11 on: 26 May 2016, 06:19:14 pm »
What an absolute freak!
Of course you're doing it for the money! I'm glad you got out of there, he sounds like a complete time waster.

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« Reply #12 on: 26 May 2016, 06:39:17 pm »
He didn't just waste your time in travelling, he also wasted your preparation time. I'd have taken more too.
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Re: Opinions on this situation please?
« Reply #13 on: 26 May 2016, 09:36:39 pm »
Count his reaction as a lucky escape, he probably deliberately chooses new girls to *try and tell them what they should and shouldnt do* dont let him put you off x

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« Reply #14 on: 26 May 2016, 09:48:01 pm »
How upsetting for you. What a nasty, nasty piece of work he sounds. Enjoyment?? Yeah right!

This could have happened to any escort so don't think it's because you're inexperienced. Most men would have just said 'thank you', that would have been an appropriate reaction to your consideration.

He wasn't normal. Power and Control xx