Ivy, yes, I'd agree that the honeymoon period is over, plus you've got him over his bad patch. I'm not really sure what the next step is though - perhaps a serious discussion about whether you continue sex work, and what your options are if you don't? I would stand your ground if you don't want to give it up though.

A difficult one, but you love this guy and you wouldn't want to lose him.  It sounds like you never told him you would not want to stop sex work?  Have you left him guessing you were probably going to quit escorting? Any relationships involve sacrifices and you have already done that.   There is no surprise that if a man loves her, he would assume that she belongs to him, only him.  He marries you as his wife, who will be his, not shared by random strangers.  It's not uncommon.  Men are hard wired to be territorial and it's quite natural, if inconvenient. 

There are men who would not mind his woman escorting and have a serious LTR with escorts (not friend with benefits type arrangements) but it's probably something fairly unconventional. 

Your man sounds traditional.  If he punted only with you, that may explain.  Hope you're happy and may your happiness last.    

Thanks ladies as always 

 On a bonus note - he said he trusts me to go to Vietnam! Whoohoo!

Good luck, ID.   Hope everything goes well for you. 

I started escorting in 2016 because I never thought I would find my perfect man, then I did! A client he was 20 years older than me but our minds were the same age. He told me he lived me, I was hesitant because I'd been hurt badly in the past and told him I had trouble saying g those words, however he said "don't worry, in time you will" and within a few weeks I did and I loved him with all my heart! I still do, we did all sorts of fun things together and of course I refused his mo eh as he was my boyfriend! I can honestly say I had never been happier than when I was snuggled safe and secure in his arms! I felt truly loved, happy and real for probably the first time in my life, then he said he hadn't Mrs t for me to be his girlfriend, he loved me but he wasn't sure he knew what love was! Then I found out he had created a fake profile in a punter forum and left a positive review for me! We had been seeing each other for well over 12 months at this point then I found out he had created that same profile on aw and was busy seeing other escorts! I had told him previously I would be happy with an open relationship however it would appear that some men just have to cheat! It's a shame it ended that way but I do tend to think that maybe he was a narcissist and once he knew I had fallen he lost interest! Poor guy

Been a while since I logged into SAAFE but I ran to the forum this morning...

Have been dating an ex client for exactly a year. I was his first WG and we hit it off straight away. He was in a miserable marriage, on antidepressants and in desperate need of love. I stepped up to the plate. Despite being a staunch bachelor for the previous 6 years and WG for the last 8.

At first, things were gorgeous and romantic and he seemed to not mind my work at all. He eventually left his wife (and 2 kids!!) to live with me. I continued to work and everything was mostly hunky dory. He came off his antiDs and was starting to become a fully formed confident, lovely bloke, despite the occasional anxious blip.

We have now moved into a proper flat together and things are getting real tense. I think he thought that the new flat would mean I'd stop working and get a 'normal' job. I am self employed and have various projects on the go so I need the flexibility. A normal day job would ultimately put my dreams to bed - and I would resent him for that.

On a side note: I have recently been invited to Vietnam for a week with a regular and the boyf went ape shit about this. I said I wouldn't go and to forget about it, but I'm quite devastated that I've had to turn it down. But, a decent relationship is worth more than an exotic jaunt...right?

He has started having reoccurring dreams about me barebacking punters and being violent towards him. Every day he mentions how he feels jealous and insecure about work - either I will get hurt or I will fall in love with another punter.

I feel like I need to submit to 'civvie street' just to quell his anxieties - do I wanna lose a loving relationship just so I can be a hooker for another decade? Not really...but this lifestyle is all I have ever known. The jobs market at best bores me, at worst terrifies me.

This guy wants to marry me as soon as I stop working. But it feels like it's all on his terms - that he wants to 'tame the shrew'. But I am not one to be domesticated!

What can I do to get him to see my work as WORK? He only sees it from his perspective when we first met and hit it off. I promise him that my bookings are much more clinical and mechanical but he can't believe it.

Ho hum...what's a WG to do? 

This has just happened to me.
Started dating a punter almost a year ago and we got on so well.
I genuinely thought he was the one for me.
We had so many things in common and we even talked about marriage in the future.
Then about 3 mths ago he started struggling with the job and finally 2weeks ago he left saying he can't stand it.
I'm devastated but angry. How dare he start saying that I need to choose between him or the job!!
It will always be the job because there is no way I can ever go back to ?7.50 hr and having my hrs and days dictated by a boss.
I love my freedom and independence and I will give it up when I'm ready.
Yes it can work for some people and it hasn't put me off dating another client but sadly this time it did t work x

Dating has a honeymoon of period 6-12 months in that time everything is wonderful and he is so understanding and loving but after this period reality sets in and problems arise.
After being in a 20 year relationship and then a 10 year marriage I now don't feel the need for a relationship anymore, I'd never give up work for a man and I wouldn't date a punter.
Personally I prefer to remain single in order to have an uncomplicated wonderful life where I can work or not as I want and generally please myself 24/7.

I felt like this but I have now been seeing a man for 3 years he knows what I do we do not live together we meet when we both want to. I do not feel I have to see him if I want some me time or if I am busy with family we speak most days but often it can be once a week or once a fortnight we get together which suits me just fine

Dating has a honeymoon of period 6-12 months in that time everything is wonderful and he is so understanding and loving but after this period reality sets in and problems arise.
After being in a 20 year relationship and then a 10 year marriage I now don't feel the need for a relationship anymore, I'd never give up work for a man and I wouldn't date a punter.
Personally I prefer to remain single in order to have an uncomplicated wonderful life where I can work or not as I want and generally please myself 24/7.

Yes! i feel same! never give up work for a man! i will date a client if he is paying me in some way like arrangment!
some day i feel that can be more easy to be with a man...after 2 seconds i think that can be even more difficult to be with a man!
i am romantic, i am a dreamer....but only when i image....i saw too much Waltdisney when i was child!
i know that 2 brains is better then one...i would like a male partner just for business, i like men`s attitude, i like men.. but not be married with them! i do not wife`s role maybe...

I agree maturehelen. Been married ten years and in long term relationships. I do my own thing now when i want aside ftom the kids. If i want a takeaway i have it rather than a man expecting a cooked meal. Maybe ive just met the wrong guys but happy on my own for now x