I have mixed opinions about dating clients.
My ex was a former client who asked me out for a drink after meeting him a few times.
I told him i would be happy to have drinks with him at a reduced rate but i wasn't willing to meet up with him for free.
He replied "oh okay I'll get back to you" A week went by when i got a text asking if i was still willing to have a few drinks with him. After a brief convo with him and agreeing on a day, time and fee i met with him for a few drinks and we had a meal.
I ended up leaving this industry and ended up in a 2 year relationship with him not long afterwards.  Turned out to be one of worst mistakes of my life.
He was a textbook narcissist who stalked me, harrassed me and never gave me a moments peace.
I could go on forever when trying to explain the lengths and depths he went to in attempts to control me, he was so possessive and manipulative.
He Used my past against me at every opportunity he had, & after a few drinks on xmas day over the dinner table he decided to share with two of his best friends and their wives that i used to be a former prostitute and how he'd saved me from the horrible mistreatment id endured at the hands of clients.. I almost choked on my dinner in total disbelief at what i was hearing while he came across like he was my "knight in shining armour" who only tried to "help me!! 
Everyone around the table went quiet, i was speechless and felt so uncomfortable i ended up getting up from the table, and leaving early apologising to his friends and wives On the way out.
He ended up returning home not long after and never said a word just collapsed asleep on the bed drunk with ten minutes.
What a perfect start to the first xmas i spent with him..I'd never felt so humiliated in all my life 
Every attempt i made to end the relationship resulted in threats of blackmail that he would tell my family and friends i was a former prostitute. I told him to get on with it and blocked his calls & messages.
What i didn't know was that before we split up he'd placed a keylogger on my computer and mobile devices and installed some software which played havoc with my computer.
I lost years of my personal files.
I was never tech savvy until I met him but now I've had to be, especially with various techniques available to people who can use software ect to gain information about you.

I decided after a couple of months of leaving him to return to escort Work hoping i could try to forget about him.
No chance!! 😳
That was almost 18 months ago and although i returned to escort work for a year he just never left me alone.
He told me in a email 8 months after returning to the industry that he'd "paid someone" to keep an eye on me 
I had no idea what he meant by that.. I just replied thankyou very much but the only guy i need protection from was you!- "himself"! 

He used several fake accounts on adultwork to send me emails, placed fake bookings with intention to mess me around, then left multiple disgusting fake feedbacks-  Thankfully after contacting adultwork and explaining the problems I've been having they kindly removed this feedback.. but only because he left identifying details in this feedback such as my real name, my address ect along with insulting disgusting remarks.

There were times this feedback had been online several hours before I'd even seen it and each and everytime he did this i had to remove my profile from view until adultwork removed the comments.
I did involve the police several times, he was given written warnings and cautions but as i hadn't told the police the full truth about this line of work it was difficult for me to explain to them some of the things he's been doing which he knew i didn't want to do.
He did take it upon himself to tell the police everytime i called them i was a "prostitute, I'd been cheating on him" believing this would gain him sympathy and the police wouldn't take action just as he told all his friends and people who knew me that id "left him" to become a "prostitute", but he just failed to mention we met as he was a former client! 
I often wondered how the heck i got involved with such a disordered person, as im not stupid and im not easily sucked in by guys who try to flatter with compliments and sweet nothings.
Yes He was lovely when i first met him, love bombed me with flowers, chocolates, gifts, lots of compliments and swept me off my feet. Now i when i look back i want to thank him for what he taught me. 
His sweet nature and the excitement quickly changed once he was certain i looked comfortable and happy with him, it was then his true colours came out along with false accusations and psychological abuse.
I later found out he'd done this before to another girl who worked in the adult industry, she was a lap dancer and he made her life hell, stalked her afterwards to the point she ended up giving up the job completely, ended up on antidepressents, gave up her home and returned to live with her parents after becoming a alcoholic.
I'd like to think not all clients who begin relationships with escorts turn out to be like this- but as he was my first experience of dating a client i just don't know 

Jeezo, can't add much. You sound like you have lived and learned  Big time
I've met and tangled with a few arseholes along the way too. Still here, still surviving.
Best wishes for the future

Hi Naughtyforty,
Thankyou and best wishes to you too. I'm still learning and just tell myself "Don't mix business with pleasure!"    I've decided in future to stick to my rules with bookings and NOT agree to a "few drinks" with a client in future as its clear he's looking for something more than the business side of things, so I've lived & learnt in that respect x

I was seeing a client for 7 months, things were going well until he got very possessive. And we all know why men get possessive, its because they are up to no good themselves. We got back from a holiday in spain sunday night and I couldn't wait to get home. During  the holiday I went through his phone and found out that he was still booking girls . I threw the phone at him and told him it was over. He attacked me. I am covered in bruises and he has hurt me badly. I had to play the happy couple for the rest of the holiday as he refused to book me a flight home. He said that it was my fault because he didn't want me to leave him. Now, before you feel sorry for me you need to know that I'm not stupid. Before I confronted him I got all the numbers of his family from his phone, including his ex wife who he battered two years ago, although I believed him when he told me he didn't do it. Anyway, we get back to England and he crys and begs for me to stay with him blah blah blah. So I agree to shut him up. This morning I contacted his ex wife and asked about him assultng her. It turns out it was really bad and she had to have her nose and cheek operated on and apparently he is still under bail conditions and has to inform his probation officer of any new relationship he was in. Which he hasn't done.

Due to the fact that I was armed with his probation officers details and he obviously didn't want his family (who I have met and they think I'm lovely) to know he visits prostitutes, youd all be happy to hear that I have had ?5000 transferred into my bank account and his bitter ex wife has still told his family......and everybody he works with.........and all the village he lives in. Not that I knew she was a gossip when I contacted her lol

Wrong move cheating and beating on moi ! Wrong move on my part, I should have asked for 10k!

I do believe that the vast majority of decent punters appreciate the meaning of using escorts.  Someone else said on other threads that  some men look for bareback sex and he thinks dating a vulnerable or gullible escort would be a way to get it and he tries to buy you in exchange for a promise of LTDs or love etc.   I do think there are a group of men who are like that.  Luckily, the majority aren't like that. 

You mean..80% of your clients have been seeking more than gfe?  your GFE must be authentic. 

Nooooo I don't think it's me, I just think clients in general have a real difficulty accepting the client/escort transaction maybe because they have a big ego, or are lonely or just trying to exploit me (they won't get very far).

I think I've just been unlucky or maybe I am too friendly to them. That latter bit is probably due to my own nerves. I talk too much. I need to shut it more and be more aloof. Cool 

Hiya Rebecca,
What a terribels story OMG, sorry to hear that happened to you. My question is: where you dating this guy for a long time while you escorted or did you leave the industry right after meeting him? I'm just trying to figure out of there were any "warning signs" in the begining (?)

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Warning signs

Yes He was lovely when i first met him, love bombed me with flowers, chocolates, gifts, lots of compliments and swept me off my feet. Now i when i look back i want to thank him for what he taught me.