In my experience, the client I fell for wanted it to remain on his terms.

yup.  It seems that is often the case.  Nods. 

It would appear they are very happy and he is smitten/faithful so maybe I have rushed into judgement in the past, however, he could cheat/punt again at any time and my friend is more than aware of this, old habits do die hard after all.

I think it's easy to have such a nice relationship during the "honeymoon period" / falling in love stage where you only see the promise of their future together.  After that sweet stage had gone passed, the laws of the "relationship" still apply to anybody (whether you are escorts or not) e.g. compatibility, personality, how he/she could handle the day to day reality / stress, how will he react when monogamous sex is no longer so fresh / exciting, etc.  Mother used to say, "there is no eternal love".  I would rephrase, there's no eternal "romance" - the initial falling in love stage does not last.  There are loads of men, who would confuse "love" with some exciting sex / fun and romantic nights out and in.  People do get ill, so as escorts.  Will he be there if you became ill?   Will he move onto the next glamorous escort, telling her "his wife won't give him any sex at home"?  These may be worth thinking.  You could be the next "wife / GF" who won't give him sex at home. History can repeat itself.

It all depends on what you are looking for in an LTR or if you actually want LTR e.g. investing time, energy what else?  Pressure from society? Most of us, mature ladies had done all that a few times already and wore our T-shirt.   I often think "I got better things to do" whenever I get asked out.  Do I want to go away on a holiday with him / Do I want to spend the whole week with him?  We all learn from our past mistakes.  Having said that, though, wanting love is probably part of our female DNA (what makes us human).  If "romance" is working out, just enjoy.  Make the most of it.  But it's always useful to be realistic about 'Men'.   

Everyone can cheat at any time, just as everyone can come off "off" it, honestly. Speaking from a PoV of previously unrepentant cheater who stopped doing so after I found a man I actually care about proper.

Me too, took till in my late 30s to be faithful.

There are different reasons as to why people cheat depending on the gender.  Men cheat for physical reasons e.g. high sex drive, even, just want a different body to try, fantasies.etc.. women cheat for "emotional reasons".  I know this post is not entirely escorting related    Sorry, Amy xx

There are many exceptions to this. The male/female thing is not so black and white.

Instead join a dating site that way you know if they like you for you not the escort. Which was the first attraction. Meaning less pressure to act up with the personna. And you can be as picky as you want because many guys show interest. That way you get to know them properly and if they like you alot you will know it is because of a deeper level.

I agree if you want an LTR and especially if monogamy is important then a dating site would be the way to go. But at what point do you have that convo "BTW I'm a sex worker"? I wouldn't want to invest the time into a guy who then couldn't handle the idea ...

I agree if you want an LTR and especially if monogamy is important then a dating site would be the way to go. But at what point do you have that convo "BTW I'm a sex worker"? I wouldn't want to invest the time into a guy who then couldn't handle the idea ...

It is more challenging in the sense of taking a risk before any of our emotions get involved. If he goes then no hurt.  I can only now start properly as am slowly making plans to depart. When you met the one and he reciprocates you won't be bothered to much if at all with one missed booking. Especially when they let you in their life so you know its true. I used to be the same but only with dating clients to pay to date me. After a few experiences and advice I made my choice. I deserve respect and the only way I would get this is out of escorting. I'm talking about all the wanker guys time wasters- complicated mentally ones who are so lost within themselves.

*Geez!! that felt good saying.*

For me its not really anything to do with the infidelity part of it, anyone man or woman can do that regardless of whether they pay or charge for sex...Its the fact the clients first impression of the escort is the persona on her advert...In real life its not always matching to the real person. Clients by the very nature of the business are only thinking of themselves (nothing wrong with that, so am I when visiting my hairdresser I want to talk about my hair and have her full attention on my hair needs and nothing else whilst I'm paying)  So when you stop charging and it being a 'relationship' often these traits and ideas about the escort and the customers needs are still with the client.