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newbieNW

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #30 on: 16 July 2016, 12:00:16 pm »

Men are better who don't see escorts in my opinion with no taste of the game.

 Woman pirotize before sex where as men are the opposite. And will always be.

This.  I did see the post to say that escorts also "deserve" monogamous relationships.  You can believe that as you are entitled to believe anything you want and need and you may get it in reality.  However, I doubt any average Joe or Kevin would entertain the idea of such "monogamy" when escorts do find sex with punters (in strict secrecy) more exciting and fresh rather than sex in LTR from time to time.     Of course, if it is an open relationship, where he can pay and fuck anyone (or even date off "match" or any other hook-up sites as he pleases also), then it's totally a different ball game.  Average men would see that as only being "fair" except some magnanimous ones, who can accept escorting is only a "job" and he's not interested in sex besides his LTR with his wife or GF who's escorting. 

One can only dream such modest, "monogamous" men who would consider LTR with a woman who escort and entertains multiple men whether it is a "job" or not.  Most average men would expect women to drop her escorting for Him.  Clearly, his priority is no longer sex in his life stage but is on friendship / emotional attachment.   Women would want something unrealistic (in my book anyway) in life as well even if it's not gonna work.   ;D
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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #31 on: 16 July 2016, 02:38:35 pm »
Oh god lol! Bet she does  ;D my partner has fucked all the dirty pump and dumps in my area and has had to change his number as kept getting touting messages from quite a few of them.

That seems a slightly odd comment to me - does he not view you as a "dirty pump and dump"...?
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newbieNW

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #32 on: 16 July 2016, 07:55:21 pm »
lol  Well spotted.   ;D

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #33 on: 16 July 2016, 09:44:52 pm »
But no matter how much anyone "deserves" a monogamous relationship (I'd personally argue that nobody does, but that's beside the point) - nobody is likely to get one. The majority of people stray from just one partner.

But certainly as an escort there's no reason you should expect less from a relationship than if you were working in an office. Don't ever settle for a bloke (client or otherwise) just because you think you're not going to get anyone else.
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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #34 on: 16 July 2016, 09:58:47 pm »
VC, I agree with your first point.  However, not sure if you mean in your second sentence that escorting females ought to insist on monogamy?  Your clarification would be superb, thank you.  It sounds as if these are contradictorY?  Maybe, could you explain a little to me?  Thank you xx :)

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« Reply #35 on: 16 July 2016, 10:26:40 pm »
I just meant that if you desire monogamy, then you should be able to expect that - whether you're an escort or not. You shouldn't think "Oh I'd really like a bloke who only sleeps with me, but I don't think I can ask that because I escort" and then have to accept him shagging about, if that's not what you're happy with.

I don't expect or offer monogamy. The guy I'm seeing at the moment (an ex client) is married but his marriage is open and his wife sees other men too. (I have verified this!) I don't want all of him, I just want good sex and companionship, and someone who doesn't bitch about me fucking other men, so it's perfect :)
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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #36 on: 16 July 2016, 10:31:14 pm »

I don't expect or offer monogamy. The guy I'm seeing at the moment (an ex client) is married but his marriage is open and his wife sees other men too. (I have verified this!) I don't want all of him, I just want good sex and companionship, and someone who doesn't bitch about me fucking other men, so it's perfect :)

Perfect till you fall for him... :)

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #37 on: 16 July 2016, 10:32:56 pm »
That seems a slightly odd comment to me - does he not view you as a "dirty pump and dump"...?
No, he doesnt or else he wouldnt be with me would he.

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« Reply #38 on: 16 July 2016, 10:36:46 pm »
No, he doesnt or else he wouldnt be with me would he.

You are referring about escorts pardon me but am I missing some thing all of a sudden you a not whoring around now sucking mutiple cocks that is funny. All mighty misses wanabe you are no better. You must be in the wrong profession. We are all respectable woman thank you. Although you get the odd one who think they are supieror living in a palace. But hey if you was filthy rich no whoring for you now back to reality.

Your so called love has been with escorts before meeting you yes the so called ones. What a joke this is laughing all the way here chilling out with my glass of wine. :)
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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #39 on: 16 July 2016, 11:03:50 pm »
Thank you so much, VC.   xxx  :) :-*

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« Reply #40 on: 16 July 2016, 11:08:10 pm »
You are referring about escorts pardon me but am I missing some thing all of a sudden you a not whoring around now sucking mutiple cocks that is funny. All mighty misses wanabe you are no better. You must be in the wrong profession. We are all respectable woman thank you. Although you get the odd one who think they are supieror living in a palace. But hey if you was filthy rich no whoring for you now back to reality.

Your so called love has been with escorts before meeting you yes the so called ones. What a joke this is laughing all the way here chilling out with my glass of wine. :)
Lol! Hilarious. Pump and dumps are the girls with pimps who you fuck and then as soon as you've cum your kicked out.  :D

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« Reply #41 on: 16 July 2016, 11:23:23 pm »
Lol! Hilarious. Pump and dumps are the girls with pimps who you fuck and then as soon as you've cum your kicked out.  :D

Bravo to your fellas bad choice of escorts. But still the ones with pimps are sadly controlled this still makes you no better. Not only the escorts with pimps do that. 

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #42 on: 16 July 2016, 11:29:05 pm »
Perfect till you fall for him... :)

I think it's a difficult one.  It's probably genetic to want your man to be into you forever.  I know it's a delusion.   When he finds it hard to meet the expectations, then the same old lies and deception hit home.  But I digress. 

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #43 on: 16 July 2016, 11:32:07 pm »
Lol! Hilarious. Pump and dumps are the girls with pimps who you fuck and then as soon as you've cum your kicked out.  :D

Rude, snobbish remarks about other sex workers are most certainly not 'hilarious' and nor will they be tolerated here.

The women you are talking about suck and fuck for money just like you, I and virtually everybody else here - how long punters stay with them does nothing to alter that. We have people here who choose to pay pimps too; that's their business, and it doesn't make them better or worse prostitutes than anybody else.

If you're going to be condescending, it helps a lot to be in a position from which to condescend.

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« Reply #44 on: 17 July 2016, 09:58:03 am »
I think it's a difficult one.  It's probably genetic to want your man to be into you forever.  I know it's a delusion.   When he finds it hard to meet the expectations, then the same old lies and deception hit home.  But I digress.

Funnily enough I was just thinking about that this morning. I think maybe there's an element of that when you have kids with someone, or want kids with them. Subconsciously you want them to stay at least long enough to protect you and the kids until they're grown. It's all a bit caveman, but you're right about the genetic thing.

Since my son grew up, and I can't have any more (wouldn't want to at this age anyway) the appeal of monogamy has really dwindled for me.
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