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CassieLove

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #315 on: 05 November 2018, 08:35:32 pm »
Something incredible happened to me today, something that has NEVER happened in this job or my personal life and I can't make sense of it.

I had a new client who contacted me for a Dom style session. He gave me some background info about how he is so controlled and busy in his life that he needs to submit the control to someone else (the usual). Great stuff. Was expecting a middle aged businessman, who is normally the person who fits that bill. When I opened my door, I was absolutely floored. He was young, well around my age, and obviously very attractive. But that wasn't what floored me - when our eyes met, something I can't even explain happened. I meet handsome men all the time, they don't phase me and I don't get giddy over them- it wasnt the ridiculous handsomeness. It was as if I knew him already, or I don't know what. But I knew at that moment something incredible was about to take place.

And it did. The session was like the kind of passionate, dominant sex with us both dripping in sweat I always wished my personal sex would be but has never been. The kind of shit shown in movies.

Afterwards, it was as though he could read my mind . When we looked at each other it was like we shared a secret joke. I know, I know, I'm hearing myself say this and am sickened by myself because I just don't feel this way about relationship or men. I have never even considered dating a client, even the crazy handsome ones who ask me out, or the super rich ones that I'd happily enjoy sharing a luxurious lifestyle with.

I JUST DONT KNOW WHAT THE FUCK HAPPENED TODAY!!! He has since text me saying that I threw him off guard and he wasn't expecting what happened to take place. I haven't replied, I need to remain professional. But I'd really like to ask him to marry me  ;D ;D

It sounds as tough there was really a connection.

It has happened to me once doing this job.  Bear in mind I am in my fifties, but one guy who had been to see me twice and we got on really well, the third time something similar happened. We were in the middle of the booking and I felt a really strong electricity between us, I thought, wow this feels more like a date than a booking.  Afterwards he text me and said pretty much the same thing.
Long story short....yes I did fall for him....see never too old!! we are both single and did see each other for a while, but I managed to keep my guard up and eventually when I put a stop to it he text me to say he missed me etc....but unless he was prepared to have me in his life fully, I was not about to be his guilty secret.

So I totally get where you are coming from.  The advice is generally to be cautious and not get involved. But then, life is also for living and if you are both single who knows! x

LotusFlower

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #316 on: 09 November 2018, 09:38:33 am »
So he messaged and asked me out.  :FF :FF

Scottish Emily

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #317 on: 09 November 2018, 01:02:22 pm »
So he messaged and asked me out.  :FF :FF

I knew this would happen! Just reply I never date my clients but you can make a booking if you like.

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #318 on: 13 November 2018, 03:28:04 am »
Usually I'd say never date a client but that sounds like what happened when I met my ex husband,  go for it, maybe he's the one!

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #319 on: 15 November 2018, 05:09:04 pm »
Ok, so have agreed to go on a date with him out of sheer curiosity. But I am now faced with another problem - he has booked a really fancy restaurant, which I normally love, but it's the kind of place clients take me when on dinner dates. I don't want to feel that I am in work. I want to show him real me rather than work me. I really want to go somewhere non-pretentious, where I don't feel as though I am on display (like I do with clients). But I am always wary of telling him this because then the realisation that I am an escort will kick in and may put him off.

*As a side note, he had never booked an escort before me and actually came to me for a domination session (but then gave in to the obvious strong sexual energy floating about), so I genuinely don't think he's like every other client who books escorts then tries their luck with asking them out otherwise I would have said no on the spot, like I do with every other client who asks me out.

HELP! My date is this week!

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #320 on: 15 November 2018, 05:14:53 pm »
^I really want to go somewhere non-pretentious, where I don't feel as though I am on display (like I do with clients).^

Do you want him to know the real you, with all your escorting hilarious/gross moments?

If so then I'd let him take you somewhere posh for food and then say "how about we get the fuck out of here and go somewhere more interesting?"

You can take him to a local live gig, or back to your hotel room.

Dating clients casually can be great but you have to bear in mind that a lot of them won't get feelings involved, they just want someone pretty on their arm for certain events and someone they click with in bed.

Guard your heart, but take what they offer.
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LotusFlower

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #321 on: 16 November 2018, 05:50:03 pm »

Dating clients casually can be great but you have to bear in mind that a lot of them won't get feelings involved, they just want someone pretty on their arm for certain events and someone they click with in bed.

So basically, exactly like work?!! If this is what it turns out to be, I'll pass. I can get paid for that shit.

Latty

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #322 on: 16 November 2018, 08:09:48 pm »
Don't complicate things, just go to the restaurant with him and see how it goes-you'll probably forget about going to that kind of place with clients once you start chatting with him!

LotusFlower

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #323 on: 17 November 2018, 12:11:14 am »
I know, thank you. I am just SOOO nervous. I haven't had a proper date in over 4 years, which was with my ex.

I've already googled the shit out of him. He even has a Wikipedia listing due to his current status in a certain sporting field.

I just have this fear that he'll see me in a normal setting and the rose tinted glasses will fall off. He saw me in sexy bitch mode, in my own work place and under my terms. Totally overthinking this :-S I'll let you know how it goes - it's tomorrow!