If you really like him and feel you would want to spend time with him without payment, then do what I did: "promote" him to boyfriend status. I've been in this arrangement with my BF since about July last year. I'd met him twice as a client (including a 4hr dinner date) while I was working in London. He texted me to say he was coming through my home town on the way back from an event and did I fancy a drink. That was the point at which I decided "I want this guy as a fuck buddy" so I said yep let's meet. The rest is history

For me it's nice and easy - he's married but they both play with others. I see him about every 1-2 weeks. We are fond of each other and message daily on Skype, but there's no danger of a real emotional attachment.

I've been there, done that, and don't envisage ever being in a close LTR again. I'm far too independent.

If you are younger and you feel like you are going to want a committed LTR at some point, then you need to think carefully about whether you want that to be with a client, though. The advantage with a client is he already knows what you do and if he has a problem with it then he's a massive hypocrite. The disadvantage is going to be if you want a monogamous relationship, he may not be the sort.

Hi Kay yes I know I need to sort myself out. If things arent bad enough i also have a pervy landlord so desperately trying to find another place to live.
I'm trying not to rely on my client but it's reassuring he is there for me if i need anything, emotional support and advice.

In my experience there is no such thing as 'something in between'.  It's either a relationship or it's business.  Your rates are your rates, and your time is your time.  There is never any 'negotiating' to be done.

I know many girls that have got caught up in this sort of arrangement when they first started (me included - idiot!) and those situations have not ended well.  Punters can spot a 'green' escort a mile off and will always take advantage.  In this line of work, we cannot allow 'emotions' to become involved.  It's a job like any other and boundaries must be set and maintained.

I would even go as far as predicting that in a few months time, you will have well and truly crossed him off your list and moved on.

Sorry to sound harsh but please stay in the driving seat and keep safe. x

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I looked through the previous posts on this subject.  This appears to be the consensus so far.  .   . It also helps to ask yourself as to why you appear to need his attention.  Lots of women do need the outer validation to make her feel her self worth, not necessarily you really care about the other person, just saying.

I just really enjoy being with him plus we have great sex. I know most people say be professional and keep your emotions separate but easily said than done especially if you really like someone. Also my previous relationships haven't been great so it's a bit of a revelation for me being treated so wonderfully by a lovely man.
Maybe with experience i can be more disciplined but find it a bit of a battle at the moment. Also my instincts are pretty good with people and he feels really genuine. When we have sex it feels like he is my lover and doesn't feel like work.

Yes, you've told us that a few times now... 

You have our advice/opinions. It's up to you whether you actually act on it.

I've heard many stories about former escorts who ended up marrying clients. But this guy doesn't sound so genuine after rereading your posts.  He wants to spend time with you for free. I think he might be a good player. He wants now your time for free and after that sex for free.... that's how it looks like but you know better how the things are. You can feel it. I understand that the sex is amazing but we all have those clients that are amazing in the bed and treating us as a girlfriends but wouldn't go further for any kind of arrangment outside the bussines. Be careful and as I said listen to your inner voice. I've mentioned that Ive made a good friend out of a client and some girls ended up marrying one but be careful not to end up played and brokenhearted.

I just really enjoy being with him plus we have great sex. I know most people say be professional and keep your emotions separate but easily said than done especially if you really like someone. Also my previous relationships haven't been great so it's a bit of a revelation for me being treated so wonderfully by a lovely man.
Maybe with experience i can be more disciplined but find it a bit of a battle at the moment. Also my instincts are pretty good with people and he feels really genuine. When we have sex it feels like he is my lover and doesn't feel like work.

I beg to differ about your instincts.
Punters/men can spot a lonely woman a mile off, it starts off as a bit of company, then the date/dinners next it becomes awkward when it comes to him paying you money for BUSINESS.
Better you get out and meet people to make friends and don't mix business with pleasure.

I did promote one client to a FB at one point but he became quite clingy, he would be upset if he was available at short notice and i was not prepared to move what i was doing to see him so it did not last that long before i told him I was not seeing him again and then he became abusive.

I have seen a post by someone (an escort), saying, these men seem to think they're "God's gift", expecting us to drop everything for them at the drop of a hat.  They are seriously deluded.  I had a few of these, surprise, surprise, they "never seem to meet any civvie women in their dating scene."  Perpetually, single and short-term failed attempts at relationships.   Most women cannot deal with these men, who believe they're so wonderful and women exist to serve them for free or/and without mutual respect.