Hi all,

I am a 49yr old married woman who is considering escorting as an alternative to the 8 to 5 routine, where i work like a slave for very little return in money or gratitude!

My husband and i have been on the swinging scene for about 5 yrs, and both he and i know my appetite for sex is more than he can satisfy, but this doesn't frighten or worry him as he enjoys our time together, and also seeing me with other partners, male and female. We are both very happy and comfortable with our sexual needs and we have discussed the idea of escort work on many occasions.

But..... realisticaly i wonder if i have anything to offer that will attract clients esp when i see the lovey girls on the UK Belles website.

My husband says i look very very sexy and although a BBW, size 16/18, that that shouldn't deter me.  I believe he is right in what he says as i never have any probs finding sexy and attractive swinging partners who always want to meet regularly.

I have read the articles on the SAAFE site and was v surprised to find how normal and sensible the girls seemed to be and i know this may sound silly but how normal too, leading an alternative lifestyle in terms of their work but having a typical homelife.

I would like to try it out and i do have my husbands full support, which i know is genuine.

I am open to advice from wiser people, who i hope to find on this site......please offer any advice you think appropriate.

Looking forward to hearing from you all

xxxxx

Paulacat
Oxford area

For any attribute you can think of, there is always someone 'better' that clients could chose.

Fortunately, clients are sufficiently numerous and diverse in their tastes that there is (almost) always someone who will chose you, and you fit into one particularly popular niche.

I think that the biggest difference between swinging and escorting is the expectation that money brings. Single men tend to be grateful just to 'score' at a swinging event, and you get to chose them. Clients will moan, in online reviews, about anything and everything, and they get to chose you.

hiya savanna :)it can provide you with a good income , one of the main reason that i do escort is finacial and also the flexability that it can bring , i dont work every day if i fancy a day off ..i have one )in what job can you do that..lol
if you want to send me the pics then drop them into louise38dd@btinternet.com
there is a market for everyone in this biz and most people have a ball doing it ,the main downside is the timewasters
but you soon get to know the signs

let me know how you get on
XXX

You can certainly make a living from escorting. It's not hard to get enough clients, especially if you offer incalls. If I were you I'd ease into it, though. Try a few evening and/or weekend bookings before taking the plunge and quitting your day job.

How much you can earn depends on so many things that there's no easy answer to the question and you also don't say how much a 'living' is for you.

Many people considering doing the work multiply an hourly rate by say 40 and think they'll make that much per week. Alas, it doesn't quite work like that - and not many people could cope if it did.

It can also vary a lot from week to week or month to month. This is where having more than one source of income coming in to the home can be very useful.

how best to arrange things at home, where i initialy hope to work from.

Think very, very carefully before working at home and have a read of http://www.saafe.info/main/index.php?topic=14.0 in particular for some things to think about.

what i should have to hand apart from the obvious (condoms and wipes).

Non-scented condom safe lube? (Similarly, non-scented shower goodies in there.) Toys? Panic alarm? Hidden mobile phone on silent?

Also, the biggest question of all how do you identify the good from the bad with just a phone call to go on?

To an extent, practice. There's some advice on what to ask for (e.g. a landline phone number) elsewhere here I think, and if they mess you about on the phone you can reckon they'll be worse in person. Plus if they ask about your services in great detail, it's a wank call, even if you can't hear the 'fap fap' noises...

Hi Savanna,
Just a few things I can think of before getting started. You need to have your set boundaries ie what services you are willing to offer your clients, will you want to do OWO (oral without a condom) or would you prefer CO (covered oral) CIM (come in mouth) or not, anal watersports etc etc, you obviously know what you would be comfortable with and don't ever feel pressurised into offering something you are not comfortable with.
Some ladies choose to list their "services" on their sites, others don't.
You will need to think about what sort of photographs you want to use to portray yourself, will you want full on nudity, topless etc or more subtle sexiness, either way the guys know what is on offer and all have their different preferences, I would imagine that if you had full on more gynaecological style pics that you would tend to have more "wank" timewaster calls.
A very important consideration is whether you will be showing your face or not in your photographs. If you are unsure then keep your face out of the pics, as once you release your pics onto the www you can guarantee that someone somewhere will store them for posterity. Not showing your face does NOT lose you business.
Your room where you entertain gents can be made as elaborate as you like but along with the obvious things that you mention having to hand, condoms, wipes, massage oils, you would need to consider whether you would want to use toys on clients, if so what would you need ... ie strap ons, cock rings etc etc, not a priority but something to consider. I personally think ambience is important, lighting, candles, smells plus having music quietly playing. You would need to consider whether you would want to begin the "date" with time sitting on your sofa in your sitting room, would you want to incorporate this in a booking, or maybe you would prefer to take them straight to the boudoir if you are uncomfortable with them seeing your personal effects ie family pics etc (these can obviously be hidden though). You will need extra towels, bed linen etc along with unscented shower gels etc .. thats another thing, shower or bath facilites should always be available for your gents.
It all boils down to what you feel comfortable with in the long run, and if you are comfortable your gents will be too.
I initially started out with outcalls only`to get a feel of things and then progressed to incalls.
Sorry rambling away here ... hope everything goes well for you.
Jx

Regarding neighbours, well, not unusual these days but no one realy takes any interest in anyone else.

While it is true that neighbours can be amused at hearing sounds of passion and go, 'There they are with another couple again...' they tend to be less amused if they find out there's money involved. Prostitution = street work = drugs, as we all know

So if someone turns up on the neighbour's doorstep with a bottle of sparkling white wine, going 'Hello, I'm the guy from the swingers site', they'll typically sigh and point them to your house. If someone turns up going, 'Hello, I'm here for the "massage", I've got the cash..." there's a risk they'll call the police. Not only do most of the public think the above, they also think it's illegal.

Any ideas you can give me about website costs would be v much appreciated....

We're into 'how long is a piece of string' territory here. To register a .co.uk domain costs about ?3 a year. You can get free webspace in a variety of places, or pay 'not much' for some. Several great sites are done by the people themselves. Of the people who post here, I can see that Anika Mae, Richard and (I think) Beth fall into that category to pick three, for example.

Or you can pay a pile of money to someone to do it for you. How large a pile of money varies. Sometimes, they'll even do a good job... Just make sure a) you are the person who's listed as registering the domain and b) you can move the site elsewhere if they're rubbish.