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Lil Lolita

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« Reply #195 on: 07 February 2013, 04:39:38 pm »
Ok, I think I had better explain things a little bit before I get to the point.

So a couple of years ago, I had a "Sugardaddy" from a sugardaddy site. I realise now, (and deleted my profile) that they are a waste of time and it's better sticking to a simple hour rate rather than a cheapened version via that. Said sugardaddy a couple of years ago gained my trust (I was STUPIDLY naive doing it), found out my real name, what I did for a living and at the time, where I stayed. I currently am wanting to do this before anyone asks: ---->  :FF

The SD was a real pisstaker though, wanting to push boundaries and stuff as sadly many do. He gave me a cash lump sum of ?500 for the month for two meets. First meet went ok, second a disaster. So I didnt see him again after that, although he got mad cos he had apparently "booked a really nice hotel" for the next month's meeting.

Now I am happy working for an agency. Personally, I enjoy working for the agency as they are a nice bunch to work for, always make sure I am ok and provide me with very nice clients in very nice places for a very good rate. Today, I put in my hours 12-5pm. I had an incall in one of the girls flats, and the guy in the agency texted this morning and said I had a booking for 12pm. There are so many guys with the same name as the one I saw, I thought nothing of it. It was a mad dash though, as he said the client wanted me to dress as a little schoolgirl with no knickers on. Cue me doing a mad dash to town before my booking, running into Ann Summers and buying a Miss Detention outfit. I then set off for the flat.

I got there in time and after some confusion (the girls boyfriend answered the door and didnt know who I was-duhhh!!) I got in, quickly changed and told the agency guy to send him up. My face went white as I saw who it was. It was the SD, and he KNEW who I was.

I pretended to not know anything and we went through to the room and he stripped off. I gave him a massage (I thought, gotta just get this out the way and be quick about it, I have honoured the booking so need to go through with it). Then the pisstaking and weirdness begun.

"Suck Daddy's big cock!!" he shouted at me. "What are you?? You're nothing but a fucking WHORE!!" I gave him a filthy look, but kept calm. He barked more orders at me, shoved me around. At one point, I got so mad, I dug my nails into him and nearly kicked him hard in the balls, he was foul.

I lay back at one point as he wanked and I played with myself. "Hell are you doing?!" he remarked.. "What does it look like", I replied (treating him exactly how he treated me). "Well fucking wank me off, I'm fucking paying for it!!" he shouted. By now, I was scared but raging angry, I wanted to tell him to get out, but given I was in the flat and the girls boyfriend was about as useful as a chocolate microwave, there was naff all I could do safety wise if I told him to fuck off.

He did me from behind, with me nearly in tears, and remarked "I like your ass, I want to do it anally". "Well I dont do anal" i said back, "It says so on my profile!"

Eventually he came and he left. I rang the agency guy in tears. He was really mad about the guy, and said he has blacklisted him now. He also told me that I was in control of the booking, if someone makes me feel uncomfy in any way, tell them to stop or get out.

I am seeing the agency owner tomorrow who is also taking this seriously as he was disgusted to hear how I was treated by this guy.

It really scares me now though. Because they have blacklisted him, I am scared this creep will try and get revenge on me and like go to my work and say what I do. The pics arent mine on the webpage, and the other girl who was due a booking in the flat after me said "Say nothing, deny everything", plus this guy told me exactly where he lived and address before.

I seriously cant believe how stupid I was years ago, really I cant. But what do I do if this nasty piece of work tries to throw me in it? I could lose everything!  :'( I have been doing this all afternoon  :FF

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« Reply #196 on: 07 February 2013, 04:43:57 pm »
I am sorry to hear this happened to you! This guy is a total creep, jerk and sounds frankly a bit dangerous!

It's great to hear that your agency is taking this and your safety seriously.

Now, I don't know where you live or if this is an option for you, but can you contact the police? They may be able to create a file about this nasty person...

Hope that helps a bit!

Lil Lolita

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« Reply #197 on: 07 February 2013, 04:47:04 pm »
Thank you. Police wise though, would I have a leg to stand on? Thankfully, I have moved from where I was the last time, so he doesnt know where I am. But he does know my name (real) and what I do for a living (honestly, I will never be so stupid again!).

The agency are great, they make the girls their first priority and if any of them complain about a customer and how the guy has treated them, they blacklist them. So it's why I have seen 99.9% lovely men (with him and one other being fucking jerks).

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« Reply #198 on: 07 February 2013, 04:47:54 pm »
Is it possible that he DIDN'T know who you are, and just is like that with all the "schoolgirl" type roleplay WGs? Did he actually say anything that confirmed he knows who you are? Nothing in your posts suggests it...?

So sorry that this has happened, I hope the agency blacklists him, and I would put a warning in Wasters too.

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« Reply #199 on: 07 February 2013, 04:51:52 pm »
He said he had used the agency before but a long time ago. I am not sure if I should post in wasters etc as I cant remember his phone number, only the first five digits, would that be enough for any girls? He uses his real name for bookings though as he did when he was an SD and I know what car he drives etc.

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« Reply #200 on: 07 February 2013, 04:53:14 pm »
He said nothing to suggest he knew me, but when he was on top and how he was with me, I just had this gut feeling and he stared at me with that look of "haha, I know!"

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« Reply #201 on: 08 February 2013, 04:43:16 pm »
RE: Police. I think you would have "a leg to stand on" as he was verbally abusive and he shook you around physically. I'm in Canada, so it may be different but if that stuff happens here, it is reportable. It may not result in laying of charges, but they would have a record of this incident. Ultimately, it is up to you and you will for sure make the best decision for you.


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« Reply #202 on: 08 February 2013, 05:38:52 pm »
First off when he booked he did not know it was you as it is another girls photos.  He may have been a little angry that he booked one girl and another turned up for the appointment.  Guys do not like bait and switch and to me it shows the agency are not very goot to do that.
So maybe he was in a bad mood from the off and did not recognise you.  If he had booked schoolgirl submissive role play , perhaps the agency forgot to tell you the submissive part as agencies tend to do so they get their money
You say you think he recognised you from the look on his face but if he did not say anything then I doubt he did so do not worry about that.
His behaviour was disgusting though, for you, as you had no idea this was the type of booking he asked for (its why i no longer do outfits as the guys assume dressing as a schoolgirl means they get to boss you around a lot).

He was an arsehole but so was your agency.  You could end up meeting a guy who is not a nice guy who is expecting to see the girl in the photos and you could end up with him getting really angry with you when the agency tells him it will be the girl in the photos but it is you instead.  They are putting you in an awful situation and should not be doing that.
Ask the agency for your own photos with the face cropped out put on their site so that you do not end up in a nasty situation.
Truth is far more important than what one wants to hear. With truth there is no us and them or colour or religion there is just fact

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« Reply #203 on: 08 February 2013, 06:10:39 pm »
Hi, had a little chat with the owner today, he was very sympathetic and says he will personally ring the guy if he has to in making sure he wont snitch about my real name and place of work. He was very protective and has given assurances that he will NOT ever be allowed to book me, nor any of the ladies again.

As for the pics, the men are well aware that my profile is a "work in progress". They based a girl who has a similar body shape and hair colour to me, so some clients do think it's me and that I have just dyed my hair. It also states my stats e.g. colour of hair in the sidebar, and many men who book say they love the colour of my hair and that is why they book when they see my stats. I had two very good reviews recently so there have never been any complaints (bar one who thought I was blonde..) and clients often have said, well your pics are good but you look better in the flesh (sweet talk I know).

Irregardless, if he didnt like the look of me or something, he could have just said like one guy did and cancelled the booking. I did a schoolgirl role play before in the sauna (out of the clothes) and it was nothing like that. The guy still remained pleasant even whilst reinacting his fantasy. This one was a total jerk.

So it looks like it's been taken care of, I am so pleased he wont be able to book again and I have posted in Warnings and Wasters about him. Horrid guy!

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« Reply #204 on: 08 February 2013, 09:41:35 pm »
says he will personally ring the guy if he has to in making sure he wont snitch about my real name and place of work

Personally I think this will be poking the tiger unnecessarily. If he really didn't recognise you during the booking, he's sure to remember you once his memory's been jogged.

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« Reply #205 on: 08 February 2013, 09:47:57 pm »
Owner is adament he would have remembered, just cos he didnt say anything at the time, there is a certainty he will possibly have remembered, but I see your point though.

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« Reply #206 on: 08 February 2013, 09:51:35 pm »
Owner is adament he would have remembered, just cos he didnt say anything at the time, there is a certainty he will possibly have remembered, but I see your point though.

I hope this all works out for you, just remember to deny, deny, deny if anything did come out :) x

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« Reply #207 on: 08 February 2013, 09:52:59 pm »
Owner is adament he would have remembered, just cos he didnt say anything at the time, there is a certainty he will possibly have remembered, but I see your point though.

How can he possibly be adamant unless he was watching you and the Client interact? To make that assurance is just bizarre.

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« Reply #208 on: 08 February 2013, 10:01:37 pm »
Thanks Cat :)

Rooby, he said there had been a similar occurance before with a girl which he had to deal with, in fact it was almost a mirror image (stupid naive idiot like me divulging info as a sugarbabe/indie, then working for an agency and finding said customer is now using the agency). Unfortunately, Edinburgh isnt the biggest of cities so it is possible to bump into or come across clients, as I am sure it is within any city across the UK xx

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