"Hi would you consider having an affair with a 43 year old married man from Bristol".

Pardon? What is this absolute brain fuckery? Why in God's heaven does he think I am remotely interested in an affair? I'm not his free shag on the side looking to be mentally traumatised and let down. Nor am I a marriage wrecker.

You pay, shag, then go. That's where it begins and ends.

"Hi would you consider having an affair with a 43 year old married man from Bristol".

Pardon? What is this absolute brain fuckery? Why in God's heaven does he think I am remotely interested in an affair? I'm not his free shag on the side looking to be mentally traumatised and let down. Nor am I a marriage wrecker.

You pay, shag, then go. That's where it begins and ends.

Jesus christ!!

SMS "Hi how are you doing?" which I would naturally ignore followed by a call two hours later which I missed. What am I supposed to do with this? Seriously, men are messing my head up at the moment.

I'm getting nothing but flakes and tyre kickers messaging on AW too.

Tyre kickers lol, good way to describe. Yes, most are flakey as hell when they email on AW now. Just flipping call me, it's easier.

This is what I have been thinking! They just need to make up their mind and pick up the phone.

I had a call this morning what what sounded like a youngish Eastern European. He asked how much so I gave him my hourly rate. Really he should know instead of just stopping at my pictures and number. He said he couldn't afford it so I asked how much he had. He had less than my half hour rate so he said he'd call back later if he was able bless his cotton socks. He didn't try to haggle and he was keen and nice enough. I couldn't make up my mind whether to block him or not but too many red flags and I don't want any client who is flaky or risk of a build up of resentment.

I don't charge the highest rates and clients keep saying I'm nice but I can't make it any easier. I'm just not going to respect myself if I work for less or slacken my standards.

This is what I have been thinking! They just need to make up their mind and pick up the phone.

I had a call this morning what what sounded like a youngish Eastern European. He asked how much so I gave him my hourly rate. Really he should know instead of just stopping at my pictures and number. He said he couldn't afford it so I asked how much he had. He had less than my half hour rate so he said he'd call back later if he was able bless his cotton socks. He didn't try to haggle and he was keen and nice enough. I couldn't make up my mind whether to block him or not but too many red flags and I don't want any client who is flaky or risk of a build up of resentment.

I don't charge the highest rates and clients keep saying I'm nice but I can't make it any easier. I'm just not going to respect myself if I work for less or slacken my standards.

I do find a lot of EE (not all) try and get me cheaper. Whilst your guy didn't haggle he couldn't afford you. I can prob reel off at least 10 EE I've seen who have then texted and offered less than my rate. Nope matey. I get a lot texting saying 'I've got 50£ how much time can I get'. 'Nothing, dear boy's.   I know what you mean though, there have been times I could have done with some money, but if you start off that way with a client they'll take the mick. I had an english guy who phoned and said he didn't have the 30 minute rate but how much could he get for £xx  I stopped doing 15 minutes appts for 1 discretion, and 2 too many booked 15 but needed 30 mins. Told him he needed to find an escort he could afford, I'm probably the cheapest for my age range.

I do find a lot of EE (not all) try and get me cheaper. Whilst your guy didn't haggle he couldn't afford you. I can prob reel off at least 10 EE I've seen who have then texted and offered less than my rate. Nope matey. I get a lot texting saying 'I've got 50£ how much time can I get'. 'Nothing, dear boy's.   I know what you mean though, there have been times I could have done with some money, but if you start off that way with a client they'll take the mick. I had an english guy who phoned and said he didn't have the 30 minute rate but how much could he get for £xx  I stopped doing 15 minutes appts for 1 discretion, and 2 too many booked 15 but needed 30 mins. Told him he needed to find an escort he could afford, I'm probably the cheapest for my age range.

I felt sorry for him and he was polite about things and didn't haggle but as I kept mulling it over I eventually blocked him very much for the reasons you stated. Being nice doesn't mean I'm a soft touch and all the red flags were there.

At the end of the day I have my own health and wellbeing to look after so clients who can't afford me or who are looking for something else like PSE can look elsewhere. I've never been high traffic and don't want to be. I'm the second cheapest bottle of wine in the restaurant so they can't complain. If they want a McDonald's they can go to McDonald's.

I think it's worth bearing in mind that in some cultures haggling is just expected/the norm. It's not necessarily meant in an insulting way (though of course it sometimes is).

Some weeks ago a guy using translate function to contact me offered less than 2/3 of my fee, I had already told him I was fully booked /busy/not available and that I don't use text for enquiries. Having spoken briefly on the phone he told me his English wasn't good enough, had to use the text translator to communicate. He would not take no for an answer, told me how wonderful he would be, then offered me any food I wanted from the kebab shop he worked for.

He'd tried haggling the week before once again after I'd said I didn't have any availability and would only accept full price if I was. I actually told him the second time each time he asked the fee would increase by £10, but had already told him I couldn't see him. I also have plenty of food.

I definitely do not want to be in a room with him!