Just wondered what were views on dating sites particularly when escorting, particularly after my recent experience.
I don't know why I go on them, apparently over half the men are married, a high percentage are....strange. In my personal experience many seem to be using it as a way of getting a series of casual relationships and sex for free with no real commitment. I think it works better for younger people but at my age most of the men seem to fall in to the categories above or want a skydiving 21 year old supermodel and are deluded. Other 'nice' blokes' all seem to hail from the Midlands, have camper vans and and I think just want to 'park' in my drive as it were (I live in Cornwall).
Escort clients treat me respectfully pay and do 'what it says on the tin'. So why every so often even though I haven't got time for a relationship do I go on one of the dating sites? I need to resolve this as it's messing with my head - one day I can't see the need or use for a permanent relationship, a week later I find myself still hankering for high romance, companionship and someone to make plans with....help I think that I'm going mad.
Dating sites is less of a chance to go on. All you can really is the photo that could be fake and the description. I find meeting in other ways not online stands a better chance.
MD, your response is very intriguing to me. How do you meet nice, lovey, honest, available men in 'other ways'? I do this sex work at night and weekends, in my day job I work mostly with all women and one nice, lovely man who is married and then spend all my other time ferrying around kids, walking the dog, doing things with women friends that I'd quite like to do with a potential male partner (I mean like going for coastal walks, coffee, restaurants, cinema, Spa etc). So just don't get to meet a potential partner 'in other ways'. Actually more and more I do interesting things with my women friends and they come up with suggestions for things to do and go to which are fun and we organise things easily and reliably in a way that just doesn't happen for me with men - apart from my overnighters, they sometimes offer dinner or theatre, bizarrely car booting (okay with me) with more enthusiasm and less tightfistedness than m.com men with whom you could drown in the single bloody bloody coffee only meets - but all my women friends are straight.
Suppose I could look at doing a night school course, September is on the way. I tried Tango but was rubbish and this very creepy guy kept staring fixedly at my cleavage. I'm 5ft 1 and he was about 6ft 3 so when he danced it was perhaps unavoidable though he really stared 100% of the time and became very sweaty, again a bit like one of my usual clients but a non paying one. I go to lots of equine events but never see anyone there just my friend's husbands. Maybe it's because of my age? Just would like a companionable, interesting, honourable, preferably quirky but not totally socially odd one and he could have my loyalty as given, open and free...potentially. Or should I just give up? Oh would also quite like one who understands and respects my status as a sex work and if it got serious was maybe okay to introduce to the family...eventually......perhaps - looks probably not too important as long as he was fun and playful as a sex partner - I'm not looking for much....oh and he'd have to be a naturally kind, fairly tolerant person....or maybe I should just give up? Sigh