Just wondered what were views on dating sites particularly when escorting, particularly after my recent experience.

I don't know why I go on them, apparently over half the men are married, a high percentage are....strange. In my personal experience many seem to be using it as a way of getting a series of casual relationships and sex for free with no real commitment. I think it works better for younger people but at my age most of the men seem to fall in to the categories above or want a skydiving 21 year old supermodel and are deluded. Other 'nice' blokes' all seem to hail from the Midlands, have camper vans and and I think just want to 'park' in my drive as it were (I live in Cornwall).

Escort clients treat me respectfully pay and do 'what it says on the tin'. So why every so often even though I haven't got time for a relationship do I go on one of the dating sites? I need to resolve this as it's messing with my head - one day I can't see the need or use for a permanent relationship, a week later I find myself still hankering for high romance, companionship and someone to make plans with....help I think that I'm going mad.

Yes agree that it is society rather than porn - this time.

Strange can often be good.

Yes re the dates - some of the clients provide me with a BFE without hopefully them realising that. For instance have overnights on Friday and Saturday and both will make a big effort to make things nice. Dangerous territory as I know both are falling for my alter ego  in a way that it doesn't happen in my real life and if I let that happen ultimately I'll lose 2 regulars as they'll get sulky if I don't fall for them or would eventually become bored with the 'conquest' of an escort. They don't see this but I do very clearly. So I'll probably act like a professional rather than wannabe girl friend to put them off whilst giving them their money's worth, probably start by doing a Marianne F: stuffing the chocolates and demanding RO - I am on a diet after all!

My daughter has a pony so I've tried a dating site to find a farmer which was called something which brought up images of people wrestling in mud....and saw my 93 year old neighbour advertised as 60, probably by his sons (sweet man but at the very forgetful stage). I tried London dates and went to loads of top restaurants but had to stop that due to travel expenses and now needing to be on a diet and therefore temporarily change of profile! The free one in which the man disappeared half way through the date to buy himself a sausage roll and then reappeared..at lunch time...Then I decided that sex was very important so went on Fetlife which isn't strictly a dating site but is....got spectacularly messed about so much so that even when it happened and the person did what they did it was so awful in such a short space of time that I experienced mild devastation whilst realising that I would find it really funny in time - I did. Then of course the recent m.com debacle which has led to my vow never to go on another dating site. Not sure where that leaves me.

I can't allow myself to fall for someone via AW as even I have some semblance of common sense....that really does qualify for 'looking for love in all the wrong places'. I don't think that there are any available men in the Midlands without camper vans realistically - though am prepared to be proven wrong! In the meantime I've bought an electronic device to keep me out of trouble - it's called a Kindle. Just realised that this post is too long - won't do, it again but it's a subject close to my heart at the moment. So I'll probably slope off and keep quiet on here for a few months.

A word of warning to be careful what photos you use on dating sites, facebook and escorting profiles don't use the same ones because theres a "reverse look up" app which anyone can click on your photo and see where else it appears anywhere on the net.
Never use a photo on a dating site that you have on your facebook, escorting profile or website as this app will take anyone who cares to look straight to it.

A word of warning to be careful what photos you use on dating sites, facebook and escorting profiles don't use the same ones because theres a "reverse look up" app which anyone can click on your photo and see where else it appears anywhere on the net.
Never use a photo on a dating site that you have on your facebook, escorting profile or website as this app will take anyone who cares to look straight to it.

Thanks for that. I'm going to get checking!

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What's the name of that ap please?

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tineye or google reverse image search

Quote from: Freya on 03 July 2014, 10:57:41 am

Just wondered what were views on dating sites particularly when escorting, particularly after my recent experience.

I don't know why I go on them, apparently over half the men are married, a high percentage are....strange. In my personal experience many seem to be using it as a way of getting a series of casual relationships and sex for free with no real commitment. I think it works better for younger people but at my age most of the men seem to fall in to the categories above or want a skydiving 21 year old supermodel and are deluded. Other 'nice' blokes' all seem to hail from the Midlands, have camper vans and and I think just want to 'park' in my drive as it were (I live in Cornwall).

Escort clients treat me respectfully pay and do 'what it says on the tin'. So why every so often even though I haven't got time for a relationship do I go on one of the dating sites? I need to resolve this as it's messing with my head - one day I can't see the need or use for a permanent relationship, a week later I find myself still hankering for high romance, companionship and someone to make plans with....help I think that I'm going mad.

Dating sites is less of a chance to go on. All you can really is the photo that could be fake and the description. I find meeting in other ways not online stands a better chance.

MD, your response is very intriguing to me. How do you meet nice, lovey, honest, available men in 'other ways'? I do this sex work at night and weekends, in my day job I work mostly with all women and one nice, lovely man who is married and then spend all my other time ferrying around kids, walking the dog, doing things with women friends that I'd quite like to do with a potential male partner (I mean like going for coastal walks, coffee, restaurants, cinema, Spa etc). So just don't get to meet a potential partner 'in other ways'. Actually more and more I do interesting things with my women friends and they come up with suggestions for things to do and go to which are fun and we organise things easily and reliably in a way that just doesn't happen for me with men - apart from my overnighters, they sometimes offer dinner or theatre, bizarrely car booting (okay with me) with more enthusiasm and less tightfistedness than m.com men with whom you could drown in the single bloody bloody coffee only meets - but all my women friends are straight.

Suppose I could look at doing a night school course, September is on the way. I tried Tango but was rubbish and this very creepy guy kept staring fixedly at my cleavage. I'm 5ft 1 and he was about 6ft 3 so when he danced it was perhaps unavoidable though he really stared 100% of the time and became very sweaty, again a bit like one of my usual clients but a non paying one. I go to lots of equine events but never see anyone there just my friend's husbands. Maybe it's because of my age? Just would like a companionable, interesting, honourable, preferably quirky but not totally socially odd one and he could have my loyalty as given, open and free...potentially. Or should I just give up? Oh would also quite like one who understands and respects my status as a sex work and if it got serious was maybe okay to introduce to the family...eventually......perhaps - looks probably not too important as long as he was fun and playful as a sex partner - I'm not looking for much....oh and he'd have to be a naturally kind, fairly tolerant person....or maybe I should just give up? Sigh 

What I mean other ways is other than dating sites in person. Like in different circumstances I used to date on line it is a guessing game. Face to face which gives a better sense. I escort 7 days a week so know how much of a challenge it can be. It is nice being cuddled. This is just my preference. Keep looking for mr right he is out there for everybody. It's just about crossing paths meaning in each others life meeting up. The good things happen when least expected.


But dealing with escorts is more of a challenge not many guys will be for that is the disadvantage.  Where as if was both in the civy world no problem dating would be easier.

Freya, I think unless you have a very active social life involving meeting lots of different men it's so hard to meet one. That's why I tried internet dating again last year. My motivation was wanting to have sex with a man I actually fancied and someone to snuggle up with at the weekends, so I went on Plenty of Fish looking for something casual. I wasn't looking for a husband or someone to eventually live with which took a huge amount of pressure off. I met 6 different men before finding the one I've been with 9 months. It was supposed to be a sort of FWB arrangement but we developed feelings for each other and he's lovely. He's even introduced me to his daughter, which isn't something he takes lightly. The only down side is that sexually we're like a couple of teenagers (most unlike us!) and a couple of times my enthusiasm has made me too sore to work for a few days Fun at the time though   So I suppose it depends on what you're after, but online dating can work once you've honed your twat radar. It's a numbers game though apparently so be prepared to go on lots of dates before hopefully meeting a keeper.

I second the warning about not using photos for a profile that you've used elsewhere online. Using Google reverse image search, which I did on everyone I was interested in, uncovered some shameless fakers  I didn't want anyone knowing about my job until I chose to tell them so took pics specially for POF.