I know the rules: remain professional and never mix business with pleasure.

BUT what happens when business IS pleasure and pleasure happens to be business? I've not got myself into that predicament but it is something that has been playing on my mind. What happens if Mr Right walks through your door but then you can't do anything about it because you are sworn to the laws of escorting?

Has anyone ever dated a client? Or purposefully not met with a client because you knew you wanted to date them? Is Pretty Women just a thing of the movies? (that one's a joke..... )

What are your thoughts on this?

I have, but kept it casual. I'd guess a big factor is your age: I'm 47, so marriage and children aren't an issue.

If you search on here, you'll find both sob stories and successes when it comes to getting emotionally involved with clients. I think the main issue when it comes to a LTR being viable is whether he's 100% happy with you continuing in sex work (or if not, if you would happily give it up).

I certainly don't judge men because they pay for sex - a lot of my clients are lovely, and have perfectly understandable reasons for doing so.

I have and it turned out well. We are now living together and have a loving relationship. BUT I have to say that it is not an easy one.
He is a very relaxed and down to earth person who knows the business from a client point of view so knows that it is ONLY business and nothing else. I am the one who struggles. I used to enjoy this job 100% but that has changed. I feel bad most of the time despite the fact he is not giving me any reason. We don't talk about it at all at home, it is like he is leaving in the morning to do his thing, I am leaving to do mine. When I did ask him how he would cope with it (because I couldn't) he said that he is just pretending that I am doing something else like going to the office or whatever. But how long will he be able to do that? So yes, the relationship is working but he is not happy with what I am doing, otherwise he wouldn't need to fool himself. I have the feeling that we are sitting on a time bomb.

If the time comes that I have to make a decision, and I know it will, I would certainly chose my relationship and give up escorting. In fact, I have already cut down services and rates and only do things I am feeling comfortable with, all the other services I used to provide are now exclusively for him. But that's just little steps to keep us both sane.

Actually I wanted to add a success story but writing this, I realise that it is just a matter of time until our pink bubble will burst

Been there done that (2 years) he really hurt me in the end.

I agree with most of the above, I don't want a guy who pays women to let him touch them/make them touch him, and the big one is (outside of relationships where polyamory or swinging is an accepted part of the relationship by all involved) if you're in a monogamous relationship how can a guy love you and be fine about you fucking hundreds of men a year for money

Also do a search on here in the box at the top. A recent one is called falling for a client, I think, but this has been discussed a lot. Think general consensus is many of us have done it but if you meet as a hooker/client don't expect a happy ending

To be fair, even the regular relationships fail more often than they succeed, statistically speaking - dating a client has an additional host of problems, which makes it even more unlikely to succeed, of course. But generally speaking any relationship one enters has more working against it than for it, in the long term.

Depending on how you look at it, romantic pursuits are really the kind of game where  the only winning move is not to play.

I'm in agreement with Miss K.

Try dating them but withhold the sex and see just how long it lasts. 

What kind of withholding are we talking about, here, though? During initial stages I'd guess it's very helpful, to weed out the freebie hunters. At the same time, both men and women divorce their partners over the lack of bedroom action on a regular basis. It's extremely important to quite a lot of people, and it's no surprise if someone bows out if the lack of sexual activity (or compatibility) becomes an issue. I've bowed out of two LTRs myself due to the sexlife being unsatisfying, myself.

Well I am in a loving relationship with an ex client. We met once in an escorting/client capacity and then a couple of years on met again on a social event with industry friends and we just clicked.We have been together over 7 months and are in love. I fell in love with him not his client persona and he fell for me not 'Bibi'. You ask how he can accept what I do if he really loves me? Simple it is because he loves me he does not feel the need to be jealous and kibosh a business I have run for 4 years. Somebody who loves another would not put demands on another that they cannot meet. I cannot give up being an escort just yet and if I do it will be my decision when I have the appropriate plans in place.I used to be one of the nay sayers and actually said I would not date whilst I do this job but you cannot help who you fall in love with.No relationship is plain sailing but with honesty and respect on both sides then it is doable.I find it laughable that the men who put food on our tables some people think they are aliens or hold them with contempt almost.It is not our place to judge them. Sure the guy who is in a loving marriage who stills punts I can't quite fathom but most guys punt because they are lonely or in a horrible marriage where they stay for the kids or financial reasons.It does not make them less of a man in the same way being an escort doesn't take away my feelings, dreams and humanity.

Quote from: Lady_Lust_XXX on 04 March 2015, 10:09:34 am

I'm in agreement with Miss K.

Try dating them but withhold the sex and see just how long it lasts. 

What kind of withholding are we talking about, here, though? During initial stages I'd guess it's very helpful, to weed out the freebie hunters. At the same time, both men and women divorce their partners over the lack of bedroom action on a regular basis. It's extremely important to quite a lot of people, and it's no surprise if someone bows out if the lack of sexual activity (or compatibility) becomes an issue. I've bowed out of two LTRs myself due to the sexlife being unsatisfying, myself.

Yeah withhold during the initial months, say three months, if he lasts that long.  I think most guys are freebie hunters.  Why should you give out just to keep a guy or to keep a guy happy.  To me that is not a decent guy.

People may think sex is important but getting to know someone without the sex involved, IMO would be more interesting.  If all a guy is wanting you for is the sex, he aint a decent guy at all.

Life can go on without sex, much to many peoples belief.