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Young awkward newbie in need of advice
« on: 20 July 2014, 09:54:24 am »
Hey this is really awkward cos I'm new to all this but in short I need money and am advertising on craigslist for clients and I have loads already, but I'm really nervous about it all I've never had sex or done anything. I'm so anxious about it I mean I've had depression w/ anxiety for years anyway so it kind of adds to it, also I do feel kinda bad about what I'm doing? It's so stupid I know  ::)

I have a guy to take my virginity in my house this Wednesday night, two friends will be there if things get bad, but he's giving me ?2000 which is a risky amount anyway, but I need money. So obviously I'm really nervous. I've also arranged others to meet with pretty soon too. Basically I'm new to all of this and nervous and scared of things going wrong, especially since if my family knew they'd kick me out. I don't know what else to say I though I thought this would be a long post but it isn't. This is what I have so far:
  • 2 ?50 BJs
  • ?2000 for my virginity
  • ?600 for a guy to dom me in a public toilet

They're the comfirmed ones, anyway.

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Re: Young awkward newbie in need of advice
« Reply #1 on: 20 July 2014, 10:05:27 am »
Ok doing this out of desperation makes me worry that you may leave yourself incredibly vulnerable.

Of course you are nervous, you've never had sex before and are about to do it with a complete stranger.

Are you accepting ?2000 cash?I'd be nervous about taking such a large amount especially with it being your virginity you are exchanging, if there's anything wrong with the cash or he somehow takes it back then you cannot take your virginity back.


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Re: Young awkward newbie in need of advice
« Reply #2 on: 20 July 2014, 10:21:41 am »
@Rosa And yes I think so cos I did request cash which is why I'm so nervous, tbh I don't care about losing my virginity it's just sex to me like I have no emotions about it I'm just anxious about it all and I don't wanna be scammed. I'm getting small amounts of money for BJs ect tonight I have like 3 guys over the next 48 hours so should get ?200 in total so hopefully that will make me more prepared, but I know this guy with ?2000 also messaged a friend of mine and offered her ?2000 and has arranged to meet her for that money too which makes it more suspicious. I mean, I really want that money but I can only sell my virginity once so I don't want to be scammed, but I will have two friends to protect me and check the money.

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Re: Young awkward newbie in need of advice
« Reply #3 on: 20 July 2014, 11:16:13 am »
I would be very wary about these so called confirmed bookings from Craigslist....the 2000 for your virginity and 600 for domming you in a public toilet? They don't sound real and the latter sounds bloody dangerous for an experienced sub ket alone a new girl who states they haven't actually had sex before let alone anything else.
There are other ways to make money than this love.If you are determined to be a sex worker what about doing camming to ease in? Or offering massage and hand relief and see how you feel about that?
« Last Edit: 20 July 2014, 11:18:00 am by bibi »

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Re: Young awkward newbie in need of advice
« Reply #4 on: 20 July 2014, 11:32:41 am »
@Bibi I know the 2000 makes me really wary but I will have two friends ready to intervene so what do you feel the risk is?
As for the guy in the toilet I actually thought that's safer - it'll be in public so I could easily scream if things go wrong, but let me know if there's shit I haven't considered.

I am easing myself in as much as I can - tomorrow at 7pm I'm giving a guy a BJ and rim for ?100 and I'm trying to book a client for tonight, to be honest if I want to back out of the 2000 guy at the last minute I can just not answer the door and I'm currently looking through the warnings and time wasters thread for people in London, Buckingham or MK.

If anyone knows any clients into BBW feel free to PM me so I can gain experience with trusted people?

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« Reply #5 on: 20 July 2014, 11:34:38 am »
I am getting a really BAD feeling about this!

I am new too, but it takes time and it is better to have several bookings for less money. I would not see anyone offering this amount of money as I would be suspicious. The notes could be fake, he could become violent - the list goes on. A girl sold her virginity on a well known auction site and got a heck of a lot more than that! Bear in mind that some girls (me included) charge ?1000 for an overnight and even then the client would need to be known to me.

I'm not an expert by any means but regardless of how desperate you are, I am worried for your safety. As for the dom session in a public toilet - again I wouldn't. I wouldn't meet anyone regardless of the money on offer in a public toilet!

Please, please reconsider. Try AdultWork for starters. Research rates in your area and decide what type of services you want to offer. There is a market for everything and you should only ever do what you are comfortable with.

Be safe.

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« Reply #6 on: 20 July 2014, 11:45:57 am »
As has been said, the more desperate you are, the easier it is to exploit you. New people attract those hopeful of finding someone to exploit like flies.

How much do you need the larger sums? Both those 'bookings' are making me concerned.

Domming you in a public toilet - if this actually happens and it doesn't end up with you both breaking the law, I will be amazed. Do you know what your boundaries are? How are you going to stay safe? If you end up covered in urine and faeces, what are you going to do about getting home?

Virginity - I'd be surprised if you couldn't get more for it. (More than once, if you're a good actress.) The fact that he's offering this to more than one person suggests to me that there's something fishy going on. What happens if you say that you've had other offers and you need a deposit - say ?50 - from him if he wants to secure his place? (Do a search here to find good ways to get this - PayPal isn't one.)

The main payments absolutely have to be in cash. If you haven't already done so, read the main SAAFE site.
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Re: Young awkward newbie in need of advice
« Reply #7 on: 20 July 2014, 11:51:34 am »
Never do something because your desperate for money, I mean  is your rent and bills covered do you have money to eat? If not there is help you can get.

Definitely don't do these bookings, thats if they are actually real as they scream timewaster to me.

Personally I think if you give your virginity this way you will end up regretting it.

As Bibi says what about camming or massage and hand relief.
« Last Edit: 20 July 2014, 11:56:24 am by ChrissieDavaar »

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« Reply #8 on: 20 July 2014, 11:54:55 am »
As for the guy in the toilet I actually thought that's safer - it'll be in public so I could easily scream if things go wrong, but let me know if there's shit I haven't considered.

Being in public makes it riskier that you'll be interrupted, for example. Are you thinking of passing as male and using a men's toilet? Because of men 'cottaging', there may be active observation of it. Are you thinking of using a women's toilet? How's he going to get in without being clocked by someone?

And again, what happens if this ends up with you covered in shit? If he's suggested a toilet, that will be the fantasy, although I have my doubts about whether the meet will happen in reality.

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I am easing myself in as much as I can - tomorrow at 7pm I'm giving a guy a BJ and rim for ?100


Do you know the health risks of rimming? Are you going to use a barrier? Have you had a HepA vaccination?

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If anyone knows any clients into BBW feel free to PM me so I can gain experience with trusted people?

There are a lot better sites to find clients into BBW than craigslist... Do a search for some of the specialist directories.
« Last Edit: 31 July 2014, 09:21:43 am by xw5 »
'The Ian formerly known as SW5'. What they said: "Indispensable", "You are our best resource", and (hours later!) "I'm afraid that you're being made redundant..."

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« Reply #9 on: 20 July 2014, 11:59:37 am »
@Bibi I know the 2000 makes me really wary but I will have two friends ready to intervene so what do you feel the risk is?
As for the guy in the toilet I actually thought that's safer - it'll be in public so I could easily scream if things go wrong, but let me know if there's shit I haven't considered.

I am easing myself in as much as I can - tomorrow at 7pm I'm giving a guy a BJ and rim for ?100 and I'm trying to book a client for tonight, to be honest if I want to back out of the 2000 guy at the last minute I can just not answer the door and I'm currently looking through the warnings and time wasters thread for people in London, Buckingham or MK.

If anyone knows any clients into BBW feel free to PM me so I can gain experience with trusted people?
Its not the money I think you need to be wary of, I highly doubt this guy will show up first of all. I think the risk is more mental in this case. As for being safer in public? Firstly someone might well call the police as you will be doing something sexual in a public place, secondly how do you know someone will intervene if things go wrong? How do you know if this is real that he hasn't called his mates to come to the toilet block it and then attack you?People won't send you pms sending you their clients love. You really need to think properly about doing these rather extreme bookings. Its not even about gaining experience in sex and bookings its about being realistic and being as safe as you can.It concerns me that you seem to have given the virginity guy your address...have you spoken to him and got a gauge for if he is real and what he expects from seeing you except popping your cherry? Have you properly discussed with either of these odd bookings what us expected from you?
« Last Edit: 20 July 2014, 12:02:23 pm by bibi »

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« Reply #10 on: 20 July 2014, 12:02:22 pm »
While I remember, you say you're 'young'. If that translates as under 18, your clients are committing an offence, and there is a risk that social services could start giving you unwanted attention.
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« Reply #11 on: 20 July 2014, 12:05:00 pm »
I think you need to have a good read of the main page on saafe for some info and food for thought and has been said fair better more real sites to advertise what you want to do than craiglist...people will send you all sorts of timewasting and down right exploitative emails when you are new and they can sense desperation a mile off.

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« Reply #12 on: 20 July 2014, 12:10:42 pm »
I think I might cancel on the ?2000 guy and the ?600 - I do want to sell my virginity though, just in the safest way possible and for the highest price - I doubt anyone would pay more than 2000 though. And I was actually planning on selling my 'virginity' a few times because I don't even have a hymen and men don't know when women are virgins anyway, although a few guys have asked to 'check' (including the 2000 actually) but I just said to them if they don't believe I'm a virgin we can fuck some other time, because they sound like time wasters and any man could accuse me of not being a virgin after sex and demand money back.

I think I'll keep my appointment for tomorrow though and the other small things I'm doing, like the guy coming over tomorrow. Also just to clarify, he wants to rim me which is the only reason I'm agreeing. Also a guy wants to lick me out so that should be safe too. I also have condoms in case guys don't bring them and I have lube so I am trying to be as prepared as possible and I have two friends on standby at all times ready to intervene or call the police. The money will also be checked for forgery before I do anything.

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« Reply #13 on: 20 July 2014, 12:30:26 pm »
I would suggest you only use your own condoms anyway. Don't rely on something a guy has brought. He may have tampered with it etc.
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« Reply #14 on: 20 July 2014, 12:32:50 pm »
I also have condoms in case guys don't bring them and I have lube

Yep. When it comes to doing stuff with condoms - you're using them for oral on them? - always, always, always use your own. You know they've not been tampered with for one thing, and some taste viler than others.

You can get free ones in a variety of sizes from a variety of places.
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