Just to confirm I have nothing against trans/I'm not transphobia, just wondered what people's thoughts were
Every so (far too) often, we have a post that goes something like 'I'm not racist, but I won't see anyone who's (race)'. It will get more or less politely pointed out to them that discriminating on the grounds of race is the basic definition of racism and while everyone is free to see or not see anyone they like, in this case it'd be good if they owned the label that fits. And then, usually, the thread gets locked.
Here, we have something that didn't quite start off that bad, but got that way via an '.. but my friend is' and some people going 'quite right too'.
Not seeing people who're "a tosser", great! Not seeing people who may have - shock! - seen another escort who's not totally the same as you.. well, as I said recently in another context, if you're basing who you see / what you do on what you're told, the sex you're having isn't as safe as you'd like it to be.