hello! I was just hoping some of you could give me some advice. My husband and I have a GREAT sex life, but I've always been extremely interested in the other aspects of sex, like swinging and things of that nature. My husband has his fantasies, but for the most part is somewhat tame for what I would like. I've tried to broaden his sexual horizon and so far he has LOVED it. We recently have started having threesomes with a lovely woman escort and have been greatly enjoying ourselves. Recently our friend contacted me asking if I would like to start doing some doubles with her. I brought the idea straight to my husband. He actually liked the idea at first, he thought it would be a nice way for me to experience the swinging lifestyle, get paid, and just experiment with my sexuality. I think he actually got really excited about it. We even got to the stage where we started talking about what my rules would be and what he felt comfortable with. I would never want to do anything to hurt my husband and as this is such a sketchy topic to bring up in a marriage, I asked again, this time he said he didn't want me doing it. I think this major change of mind comes from his jealous side. I was just wondering if I should bring it up again and almost try to convince him and set his thoughts of jealousy at ease? I'd also like your opinion on the uneven ideas of sharing, if he doesn't want me with another man should I continue to indulge his fantasies of women or am I just asking too much?

Thanks!

Thanks for the input.
I'll drop the topic with him.

I think these things are always worth talking through. Especially if your first time would be a duo, he might feel slightly more at ease. If he says no, then you should respect that IMO, but you shouldn't be afraid to have an open discussion.

Your current sexploits are based on having another woman involved, how would he feel about a threesome with another man? If the answer to that is a definite NO, then there is no way a man would allow you to spend time in private 1-2-1 with another man, even if there is another female present.

This is not necessarily true. Some men don't like WATCHING it but are okay in the abstract, some just don't like MFM threesomes because of a fear of the "gay-ness" of it etc. My ex was always really uncomfortable in MMFF foursomes never mind MMF threesomes, but he was totally fine with me sleeping with other men on my own as long as I was safe etc.