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BlueDomme

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Working from home - safety + discretion?
« on: 20 June 2014, 04:12:41 am »
I move into a new flat soon. It's on the top floor of a block of flats and I want to work from it. Does anyone have any tips on keeping safe? (I'm thinking don't tell them the name of my building until they get to the street and don't tell them the flat number until they're on the doorstep - I have a video intercom so I can at least check that they're alone.)

I also want to keep it very quiet from the neighbours. My preferred way of working is to not take bookings of less than an hour and to leave a full hour between bookings. Hopefully this will keep general traffic to my door as relatively inconspicuous as possible. I'm aiming to work two 4-hour blocks in a week and take bookings outside these times only by special arrangement, and no more than one or maybe two a week. Does that sound suitably discreet to everyone here? And should I be wary of taking bookings around the time that other people are likely to be in the public parts of the block? (If so when would that be? I've only lived in my familial home/university halls before.)

The next bit...and I hope it's not unsafe to post this here...is that my flatmate is going to be my friend who works as a full-service escort. This is obviously legally dodgy, and that only reinforces the need for discretion. I need to have a conversation with her at some point about discretion (although she might see this herself! XD) but I'm not sure what should be in that convo. She takes 15 minute and half hour bookings, I'm assuming that a constant stream of men heading in and out in quite a lot less than an hour will look bad, but I also don't want to force her to change her working habits too much, so...um...what do I say to her? I know she's been really looking forward to being able to take incalls at home and not book hotels all the time...

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Re: Working from home - safety + discretion?
« Reply #1 on: 20 June 2014, 07:28:26 am »
you have said how careful you are going to be which is wise  yet your about to have a flat mate in also who will be creating lots more attention also by more bookings is that such a good idea?  she is going to be just as focused on making money as you are. there will be lots of men coming and going at different times and neighbours will eventually know whats happening. if it was just you it wouldn't draw to much attention.

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« Reply #2 on: 20 June 2014, 07:45:52 am »
You might want to think about the fact that there are sometimes reasons a man may visit a property for 15, 20, 30 minutes.

I occasionally have work done around my incall place, things fixed etc and plumbers, painters, handman/joiner often only take 30 minutes to do a job.

What I'm trying to say is that it's not unusual.

Most of my business is 1 hour or more, however that doesn't mean I don't come to arrangements for shorter, half-hour bookings with the occasional repeat client - and I mean occasional. Can work well and one of my longest regulars is a special 30 minute man.

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« Reply #3 on: 20 June 2014, 08:08:04 am »
BlueDomme what YOU plan re your work is fine but adding your friend into the equation is making the situation illegal before you even start.

I know you won't be the first to do it, nor the last but if you want to work with peace of mind, and that is needed when prossying , then you are best being the only one working from your apartment. 

There are two reasons for that, firstly two girls working from one apartment whether on same day or different days constitutes a brothel and this is breaking the law and it also gives the police the right to enter your premises AT ANY TIME and when they do this they confiscate all laptops, mobile phones, money and IT IS THE PERSON WHO IS ON THE RENT BOOK AS TENANT that gets charged.

So for more than one reason I would not let my friend work from my place.  Her work alone, with shorter bookings, though that doesn't ALWAYS mean more bookings, especially in this age, will draw more attention than anything and it could be YOU that ends up homeless :FF

Sorry to be so blunt but there is no sense lying and say everything will be ok.  I am saying this before you move in and get stuck by not wanting to offend friend.  Best to offend before she starts working from your place.  She really should find a place of her own and then you are both working legally.

You don't know what your neighbours are like so it's best to tread carefully until YOU have been working there for a while.

In conclusion, I know you want to help your friend but HER SITUATION IS NOT YOUR PROBLEM. 

Please be careful re what you get yourself in to as it may be harder to get yourself out of and would she put you up if you got made homeless if/when you get dawbed in to the police.

Think carefully before you go any further with friend.  Don't just take my word for it, others will be along soon to re iterate what I've just said.

I hate to say it too, but when it's not your friends place she will not be so careful re discretion as you.

Be careful.
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Re: Working from home - safety + discretion?
« Reply #4 on: 20 June 2014, 01:58:31 pm »
I know. That's why discretion is SO important - I wouldn't want to exactly broadcast it even if I were working alone, but having my friend around adds another layer of illegality to it.

However I can't really live by myself, I have mental health problems that mean I need to live with people who understand this and are willing to provide support. I don't know many people in this town who fit the bill but she does. Both of us are going to be on the tenancy agreement so we are mutually fucked if it goes wrong. Also no matter how much the shit hits the fan, I am still at the time of life where I can run back to live in my parents' house if I need to. Which I don't want to do but could if I needed to. So I'm not going to end up homeless. Thankfully.

I think I might ask her to:
- Not take bookings less than an hour (book an outcall location if she wants to offer this).
- Leave at least an hour between bookings.
- Not accept more than x bookings a week. (Not sure what value x should take though...)

I foresee an argument about her having to change her working habits. x.x

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Re: Working from home - safety + discretion?
« Reply #5 on: 20 June 2014, 05:34:55 pm »
Yes BD, I can foresee arguments too but it's something you will have to work out or it could lead to a lot of resentment and BOTH of you becoming homeless.

If you both try to work, especially at her rate of clients you may find it difficult to work at all and that would cause other problems.

Personally I don't see a legal solution for this bit I'll wish you all the best.
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« Reply #6 on: 20 June 2014, 06:06:51 pm »
I work from home, and by myself ... I took the batteries out of the buzzer so people cannot buzz me all the time and make to much noise, I give out the street/place to call from but not the number and ask them to call (I can see them out of my window) and come to number blah blah blah if they ask for the flat number I don't give it, I say I will let you in, I also removed the flat number/letter from my front door  ... Because I work from home and are on my own, I have the light on in the next room with the TV on, door shot and talk about flatmates and shut the door to the room we are in.  I also have anther business so I have an excuse for people coming to the house all the time and I have a reason to be always in.




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Re: Working from home - safety + discretion?
« Reply #7 on: 20 June 2014, 06:14:31 pm »
Yep if you are going to do this then she needs to make some changes. 

Apart from the risk to your tenancy, there is also the risk of you losing clients, as if she is seeing 3-4 client's to your 1 it could put your clients off.

Also have you discussed making sure you don't both have client's arriving or leaving at the same time as that too could lose you client's.

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Re: Working from home - safety + discretion?
« Reply #8 on: 21 June 2014, 08:32:18 am »
I work from home, and by myself ... I took the batteries out of the buzzer so people cannot buzz me all the time and make to much noise, I give out the street/place to call from but not the number and ask them to call (I can see them out of my window) and come to number blah blah blah if they ask for the flat number I don't give it, I say I will let you in, I also removed the flat number/letter from my front door  ... Because I work from home and are on my own, I have the light on in the next room with the TV on, door shot and talk about flatmates and shut the door to the room we are in.  I also have anther business so I have an excuse for people coming to the house all the time and I have a reason to be always in.
that's a good idea Vivienne thanks I shall try to remove my door buzzer  also remove the chrome numbers off the flat door  as in communal block but own the property.

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Re: Working from home - safety + discretion?
« Reply #9 on: 24 June 2014, 02:31:17 am »
-makes notes- Thanks ladies. :)

I should clarify, my friend does take longer bookings as well, and she has other stuff on as well so it's not like she takes 50 bookings a day, more like one or two. I think we should probably set a joint max number of clients a day, like...3? 2?

Also how much attention do you think 15 or 30 minute clients would attract even if they're not very frequent? Approximately how many a week do you think we could get away with? My main concern is that with shorter clients it's easier for a neighbour who's taking their shopping in or chatting in the doorway of their flat to be present for both the client's entry and exit.