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M_M_T

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Working from home .....
« on: 13 September 2019, 04:41:19 pm »
Hi ladies.

How many of you work from home? And how do you explain your men visitors to your nosey neighbours?

I'm really struggling with severe paranoia and anxiety at the moment and turn so much work away because I think my neighbours can probably see who's coming and going. Problem I have is my neighbours are very pally with my landlord.

What's the worst that can happen? Has anyone been kicked out of their home after being found out?

I'm a paranoid wreck. Please advise.


Thanks
Megan x
« Last Edit: 13 September 2019, 05:12:22 pm by M_M_T »

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Re: Working from home .....
« Reply #1 on: 13 September 2019, 06:15:53 pm »
Do you have noseys or just fretting ? I work from a flat which is my home as far as neighbours are concerned. I purposely don't talk to anyone and so the need to make explanations' hasn't come up. I barely say hello and thats generous. I'm.officially a therapist which I tell landlord and is kinda true,  so you could say many things.... youre a chiropodist, tarot card reader, wellness coach, whatever. Look up jobs on the web and pick one that suits. think there's a big thread on this somewhere with lots of suggestions.

People will think what they want whatever you choose to say.

Oh I just saw Sloane Grey' s post below...just to clarify SG,  I say I do, 'talk therapy' nothing physical. I understand it can be awkward with guard dog neighbours as you say. Especially if they've got nothing better to do than spy for the FBI ;)
« Last Edit: 13 September 2019, 09:05:16 pm by saltysweet »

Sloane_Grey

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Re: Working from home .....
« Reply #2 on: 13 September 2019, 06:41:42 pm »
I work from home, and tell my neighbours I'm a masseuse. Like Saltysweet, I don't really talk to the neighbours, but I got the idea that one of them was getting suspicious. She would sit in the front garden in her sunchair a few hours each day (which I learnt to work around) and had security cameras set up outside her house.

My boyfriend and I had to talk to her eventually, after she stopped a client midway to my house and demanded to know what they were up to. The client subsequently used my working name rather than my real name, claiming to be 'a friend'  - and my neighbour gave him both my real name, and my boyfriends.

Since then, we've told her that I go under a different name (my working name) when handling clients as a masseuse - supplying some random story about a stalker ex-client - and we haven't had problems since then. It feels like it's just a matter of time though.

The best thing to do, I think, is to have a cover story and stick to it, including something about your working name. Work during times of the day when your neighbours may not be around, or earlier in the morning when they're not up yet x


Lady Frog

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Re: Working from home .....
« Reply #3 on: 13 September 2019, 08:45:56 pm »
First of all Megan try not to let the anxiety overcome you! Anticipation of bad things happening is often worse (and does you more damage) than the thing actually happening. I think this is one of those. The worst that could possibly happen is that your landlord finds out and you get evicted, which is unlikely, and even then you would have a two months' notice period to sort yourself out... and in the private rental sector unfair evictions happen left right and centre even to non-escorts, so there's no point doing yourself in with worry.

As far as looking for a place that you will work (and live) in, whether the landlord lives nearby, or used to live in the property themselves (and therefore knows the neighbours) are questions I would definitely ask during a viewing; in as casual a way as possible: "have you lived here yourself? I was wondering if the traffic is noisy at night time..." etc.

But of course not everyone has the luxury of moving at the drop of a hat. I agree with others that the best approach is to make a cover story, stick to it, avoid over-familiarity with neighbours, and try to work around their daily routines and working hours if that is possible.

Here masseuse may not be the best idea because IMO that would raise suspicions of prostitution... maybe something unrelated, like reiki healer, tarot reader, or you are a web designer, or teach people about SEO from home maybe.

Try to encourage fewer/longer incalls and more outcalls if that is something you would be happy with. So if you currently have minimum lengths as 15m for incalls and 2hr for outcalls (for example) then raise it to 45m/1 hr for incalls and 1hr for outcalls, and adjust prices a bit accordingly.

Also be careful attending outcalls - no point making a bafta-winning cover story if you are jumping in taxis at 10pm every other night wearing 6inch heels and a mini-mini-mini-skirt. Maybe wear leggings/pumps and change in the cab (or your car), if using a taxi maybe get picked up somewhere nearby that is busy like a supermarket car park.

Also give a postcode that is around the corner or at the end of the street, and get them to walk to you, I feel this is more discrete.

These are tips and tricks I use when working from flats in residential blocks. They work well for me although others may have different advice.

And just remember - although ladies do get found out (and sometimes chucked out) this is a rarity, for most who work from home, everything goes fine. And you will see from some of the posts made on this forum in the past that many of those who have dramas are partially to blame by causing arguments with neighbours or telling their business to people they shouldn't.

A woman, especially, if she have the misfortune of knowing anything, should conceal it as well as she can. - Jane Austen

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Re: Working from home .....
« Reply #4 on: 14 September 2019, 07:38:48 am »
I never explained my 'men' visitors to neighbours, just got on quietly. Some 'men' were actually visiting to do repairs, assess, check my TV licence status, friends and relatives amongst female visitors too.

The only time there was a problem was when I worked from a block of flats, which although many clients thought was discrete - wasn't. Partly design, partly location, partly my lifestyle at the time and partly very indiscrete clients. I learned a lot living and working there!