I've been wrestling with a dilemma recently, and I'm hoping you ladies can share your experiences and help me decide!

At the moment I rent two flats, the one I've lived in for a good few years, and for the last couple of months a city centre flat I offer incalls from. The tennancy on my home flat is up shortly, and I'm considering moving into my incall flat. I sleep here most nights, only going home for one or two nights a week. The flat has a large living area which clients don't need to use, so I could have my private space here. But I love my home, and as a location that's where I'd choose to live, it's just not suitable for incalls.

There are two big advantages to this plan - not having to pay two sets of bills, and the convenience of being here whenever a booking comes in. It's also better for outcalls, most of which are to city centre hotels.

On the other hand, will I be tempted to be available 7 days per week, just because I'm home? And what if someone turns nasty or the neighbours complain? It'd be a lot easier to pack up and move a working flat than my home! There's also the security of having a cheap flat in a good area - is it worth giving that up, what if in a couple of months I decide I don't want to escort anymore? (Not likely, but I can't read the future!)

I really don't know what to do for the best. When I'm at my incall I think "Yeah! Move in here! It'll be so much better!" ... then I go home and think "Noooo! You can't give up this! You love it here!"

Any advice?

Thanks Harlow!

I agree I'd have to be strict with myself about having time off, even if I'm just mooching round at home - that's when I think I'd be tempted to switch my phone on, because I'm not doing anything else. But time off is important, even totally unproductive lying on the couch watching telly time off!

The block of flats my incall is in is quite busy, so it's easy to be anonymous. I aim to do 2 or 3 bookings per day, but in reality it's more like 1 or 2, and I switch my phone off at 11 so there aren't gentlemen coming and going all night. The bedroom is also on a corner, so I don't have a neighbour on that side, only above and below where the action is! I'm in Leeds, not London btw 

The reasons for moving into my incall are all good, immediate reasons, while the reasons for keeping things as they are are all 'what if'...

What if the neighbours do work out what I do and complain?
What if a client turns nasty or stalkerish?
What if I decide to stop escorting?

 

And, there's no bath 

Hi,

Sorry about the London thing, it was very late when I read your post But I still think the same knowing that you are in Leeds, as it is one on the biggest Cities in the UK.

I really understand your worries only to well. The problem with me was my concerns soon turned to paranoia & stopped me working for a while. Now you know your self better then anyone & if you fell like you can get paranoid easily, then I would really think hard before making any decisions.

I have no choice at the moment but to do out calls but I plan to hire rooms/flats & hotel rooms on & off throughout the month to do out calls. I know as soon as I have the dosh & the ability to get a flat to work from I will. But this time round I will make sure that I work away from that flat every 4-6 weeks. That I feel will give the neighbour a rest & I a change of scenery. Maybe that kinda thing might work for you too?

Harlow x

That sounds like a good plan Stephanie.  I'm glad you let us know what you decided (or not lol). 

I know nada about things like this but just off the top of my head is there no way you could actually buy the flat you love (not the incall one) through a private sale with your landlord?  I know you still need to get a mortgage and everything and the deposit is a big issue (tell me about it) but I've been seeing more and more mention of buying property without using estate agents and I reckon in a few years private buying and selling will be the norm cutting out all those pesky agents' fees.