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northernstar

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Where and how to start being a dominatrix?
« on: 05 October 2020, 11:17:15 pm »
I would like to explore this side of business and wonder how have the dommes on here start? Are there any workshops or trainings available by more experienced dommes anywhere ?

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Re: Where and how to start being a dominatrix?
« Reply #1 on: 06 October 2020, 09:57:03 am »
Hi,

I started as an escort almost 6 years ago and after a while, I started mixing in BDSM acticities. I found this to be extremely popular as full Dommes generally dont offer sexual services. I was always really busy. Fast forward a few years and I felt I had built up enough experience and knowledge to go full Domme and drop the sexual stuff, mainly because I no longer wanted to offer it.

I much prefer how I operate now. My learning has been all self taught really but did access online resources through youtube and signed up to a few content sites to watch other Domme's content and see what they did and how they did it.

I know on Fetlife there are networking groups in my area, mertups etc, and occasionally some workshops advertised. SoI'd definitely try Fetlife and see what's on in your local area.

Good luck!

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Re: Where and how to start being a dominatrix?
« Reply #2 on: 06 October 2020, 10:31:52 am »
Hey VG

OK, so just by experience. Have you openly started to advertise domme along with GFE then? And gradually moved to domme only?

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Re: Where and how to start being a dominatrix?
« Reply #3 on: 06 October 2020, 07:40:14 pm »
Yes, I was offering GFE with BDSM for a few years. Some clients wanted just BDSM, some wanted just GFE and some wanted a mix of both. It was the best of both worlds from the client's perspective.

I am BDSM only now and still have a very good client base.

Either can work, so long as you are good at it!

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Re: Where and how to start being a dominatrix?
« Reply #4 on: 19 December 2020, 09:10:51 pm »
Yes, I was offering GFE with BDSM for a few years. Some clients wanted just BDSM, some wanted just GFE and some wanted a mix of both. It was the best of both worlds from the client's perspective.

I am BDSM only now and still have a very good client base.

Either can work, so long as you are good at it!

I'm completely the same! I'm offering domme service alongside GFE but recently my dominatrix services got so popular that I have quiet few customers who wants only this. I'm thinking about preparing my dome persona with website and separate accounts to offer domme services only and see how it goes.

Can I ask what UK area you're working in?

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Re: Where and how to start being a dominatrix?
« Reply #5 on: 20 December 2020, 02:25:46 pm »
I recently took an online training with a Pro Domme, found it really useful both for usual clients as well as those for which I am/have been  providing some punishment, discipline, and other more dominant (on my behalf) services. Gave me plenty of ideas and I will be developing that side of things further, as well as taking some tips into more vanilla side.


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Re: Where and how to start being a dominatrix?
« Reply #6 on: 21 December 2020, 09:31:39 am »
Hi I do domme I sort of just fell into it as I love being in control and don’t have many boundaries when it comes to hurting men haha, I’d look at porn if I were you because that’s where the guys who come for domme sessions get their ideas from. I don’t offer gfe at all as that would be giving them pleasure I don’t have sex or give them oral and they love it makes them feel more worthless and turned on I always tell them they could never pleasure a woman properly it’s hilarious, good luck hun xx
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Re: Where and how to start being a dominatrix?
« Reply #7 on: 21 December 2020, 09:23:29 pm »
Like others I started just with straight sex work and started getting more and more into kink and domination. There are lots of different ways you can be a 'domme', you can be broad ranging or specialise in a certain style, so more erotic domme (I think you can dominate someone with sex if its done in the right way for example), more severe domme (corporal punishment, caging, humiliation), more kinky domme (strapon, sissification, foot fetish, ass fetish) and so on. A good way to start is with light tie and tease and then start building in nipple play, spanking etc. There are dommes on youtube giving tutorials on more serious stuff and learning about basic anatomy is a must.

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Re: Where and how to start being a dominatrix?
« Reply #8 on: 08 February 2021, 01:13:05 am »
Hi there,
I too progressed from escort work to Domme and fetish.
It’s a whole different world.
No Messer’s. All genuine clients. They want YOU to control them so they’re putty in your hands.
It’s whole new level of respect and I never encountered any nasty rip off behaviour that I sometimes met doing escort work. I often received  gifts and generous donations.
Also the specific domme /Mistress sites are easier to advertise on than Adult work.
Elaine xx

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Re: Where and how to start being a dominatrix?
« Reply #9 on: 08 February 2021, 05:29:55 pm »
Hi there,
I too progressed from escort work to Domme and fetish.
It’s a whole different world.
No Messer’s. All genuine clients. They want YOU to control them so they’re putty in your hands.
It’s whole new level of respect and I never encountered any nasty rip off behaviour that I sometimes met doing escort work. I often received  gifts and generous donations.
Also the specific domme /Mistress sites are easier to advertise on than Adult work.
Elaine xx

Thank for sharing that! If you could compare your earnings or how busy you were as an escort and now what would you say?



 I'm wondering how do you guys work? Do you rent separate flats or you working from your own accommodation? or maybe rent out dungeons?
I was thinking about making an arrangement with other dommes in my city or booking a dungeon but I know it can be tricky as clients are not keen to make a deposit.

Can anyone please give me some advice on that and let me know whats your strategy? :)

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Re: Where and how to start being a dominatrix?
« Reply #10 on: 08 February 2021, 06:31:13 pm »
There are 2 types of clients.
Subs that enjoy the Dungeon scene and others who have no interest in it as they find it too threatening. I never worked in a dungeon, just my own room in my own flat.
Fetishes like Foot fetish are fun as you get to have your feet massaged! or shoe fetish.
I found the earnings far better and easier to make as no touching or poking you ., the clients are fairly upscale, well educated (a lot of lawyers, business people) and up market and treat you with respect. Think about it. Anyone can have sex. But Domination and Fetish fantasy is all about personality, Using your imagination, being able to carry out the Office boss, Headmistress, Mother in law fantasy... loads more.
In fact some of the best fun and the best clients I met were through this.
You are the Goddess...You are to be worshipped, the men WANT you to take control and be in charge so you are treated with a level of respect I rarely encountered with selling sex.

I worked from my own flat in W2 and W5  long ago in the early 2000's and earned a very good living with cards in phone boxes, and once they were done away with I went on the internet on Mistress websites. I had my own website then which drew  huge interest.
It was far easier work, more generous and I received gifts like boots and shoes, Chocolates, underwear , wine etc. Or the odd generous elderly man who just enjoyed my company and good spanking.
I've never had to deal with all the crap you read about and the scammers who try it on you meet on AW.  The Mistress websites will bring you good quality clients.
If you want to DM me please do so.
Elaine xx

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Re: Where and how to start being a dominatrix?
« Reply #11 on: 10 February 2021, 12:52:01 am »
Great thread.  Gives me a "career path" to follow as these days I'm less and less about intimate contact with clients.  Thanks all for the ideas and inspiration!

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Re: Where and how to start being a dominatrix?
« Reply #12 on: 10 February 2021, 03:26:55 pm »
There are 2 types of clients.
Subs that enjoy the Dungeon scene and others who have no interest in it as they find it too threatening. I never worked in a dungeon, just my own room in my own flat.
Fetishes like Foot fetish are fun as you get to have your feet massaged! or shoe fetish.
I found the earnings far better and easier to make as no touching or poking you ., the clients are fairly upscale, well educated (a lot of lawyers, business people) and up market and treat you with respect. Think about it. Anyone can have sex. But Domination and Fetish fantasy is all about personality, Using your imagination, being able to carry out the Office boss, Headmistress, Mother in law fantasy... loads more.
In fact some of the best fun and the best clients I met were through this.
You are the Goddess...You are to be worshipped, the men WANT you to take control and be in charge so you are treated with a level of respect I rarely encountered with selling sex.

I worked from my own flat in W2 and W5  long ago in the early 2000's and earned a very good living with cards in phone boxes, and once they were done away with I went on the internet on Mistress websites. I had my own website then which drew  huge interest.
It was far easier work, more generous and I received gifts like boots and shoes, Chocolates, underwear , wine etc. Or the odd generous elderly man who just enjoyed my company and good spanking.
I've never had to deal with all the crap you read about and the scammers who try it on you meet on AW.  The Mistress websites will bring you good quality clients.
If you want to DM me please do so.
Elaine xx


Elaine,

Haven’t you found this attracts more timewasters who are all about sex chat but not actually intending to make the booking? I tried and they drove me nuts, chatting about their cock and flaking on the  day of actual booking.

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Re: Where and how to start being a dominatrix?
« Reply #13 on: 10 February 2021, 04:17:55 pm »
Great thread. Im also in the same situation as in wanting to cross over to the dominitrix only side of things, any advice on where to advertise would be greatly appreciated. Is it worth buying loads of equipment?. I have handcuffs, Japanese bondage rope , crop, cat n nine a hook and a gimp mask that I rarely use. I manly get asked for role play and strap- on.

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Re: Where and how to start being a dominatrix?
« Reply #14 on: 10 February 2021, 05:08:08 pm »
Anyone can have sex.

And anyone can advertise/work as a domme. That does not mean anyone can do it well.