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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: Jadine on 15 June 2021, 11:45:42 pm
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Wondering if why a lot don’t return I chat to much doing massage before the action starts and it puts them off ,
How’s everyone else go about keeping things running without all action straightaway? Unless they want to get straight into it ,
Some say they don’t mind but a hell of a lot no repeats , although had several others do who are not fussed .
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Maybe try it the other way around for a bit, straight into the action, then save the massage for any remaining time at the end, where chat usually naturally happens.
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For some reason then I find that returning clients returned to me more in the sauna days, I have some regulars but not lots and then I’ve had some guys go with me twice then not again but men get bored easy and half of them are most likely bored sleeping with their wives and girlfriends, which is why they come to us in the first place (yes most of them say that their wives are going through the menopause but I call BS on this, some men just aren’t happy sleeping with the same woman all the time) which is why they aren’t going to then go to the same escort all the time. If I was a man then I would truly treat escorts like a child chooses a sweetie, and I would have a different escort each time I booked, after all they say variety is the spice of life!! Haha.
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Ok I will try .
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In this heat I pour them a drink and let them do the talking.
Once I've started massage I dont tend to say much or even during the foreplay etc.
I will chat after briefly before they leave.
It does also depend on the nature of the client one talks so much or others not much at all.
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If he seems like a chatty sort of client when he arrives then I’ll talk a bit during a massage. If he’s a nervous shy type then I’ll usually stay silent during it or maybe just ask one or two questions
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Generally I don't chat during a massage. Or if I do it won't be about myself or things outside the room as I want the client to have relaxing down time. I may ask if he's comfortable or if the pressure is ok just to make him feel at home.
I find the massage allows them to slow down and they are more calm for the sex bit - if there is one. If the massage takes up,say...15-20 minutes it won't be non stop action will it?
As TT says, I don't automatically expect repeats, loads of choice for them.
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Some punters view massage as a time-wasting tactic - do you do one automatically first, or ask them how they want to proceed?
If I was doing a massage, I'd try and do it properly, i.e. calm atmosphere, candles, soft/quiet music etc., and not much chatter.
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I mostly do a massage at the start and do chat to break the ice it makes us both comfortable. I find i still get men coming back to see me. It depends how you want to work and men that don't like chatting it's picked up quite quickly i find. I think i talk the right amount but in the sexual period i don't talk much i just get on with that task.
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I don't do massages although I am partial to receiving one. Regarding chats it really depends on the guy but i try to do more chatting at the end.
I think most guys want to get into the action ASAP. Well mine seem to. One of my regulars said when he used to see this particular escort she insisted on giving him a massage first even though he didn't want one.
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The question how do you control if he wants non stop action.
Well I expect to be treated with consideration and if he's just menu ticking I slowly get a glass of water and take my own sweet time to sip each drop and chat any rubbish to bore the jesez out of him.
Or leave the room, go pee a couple times...all these techniques break their focus.
If he's vile and obnoxious I gradually refuse services in the session or slow down to snails pace till it's boring for him.
I don't want them back. But I rarely get these guys as my screening is harsh. Do you feel your screening works for you?
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I've only ever had one client so far ask me all the usual questions right at the beginning (as opposed to the rest who ask after they've cum). I'm trying to focus on delivering GFE and he's babbling away asking me about how I got into this etc, sometimes I want to say, be quiet and let me concentrate! The worst is when I've got a dick in my mouth, like really?!
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Some punters view massage as a time-wasting tactic - do you do one automatically first, or ask them how they want to proceed?
If I was doing a massage, I'd try and do it properly, i.e. calm atmosphere, candles, soft/quiet music etc., and not much chatter.
I bloody hope not as I always do this! Lol. I learned this way in the sauna as Management were extremely precise about your booking times, and so a half hour couldn’t be 29 mins or 31 mins, it had to be 30 mins dead on, and part of getting used to this routine and having it down, was always with a massage within the first 5-15 mins of the time, dependant on how long the booking was of course, it was something all the ladies did, and I’ve just carried on doing it, some men like it and some don’t, I think it’s just part of my booking, I am somewhat thrown off kilter when they deviate from my scripted routine! Haha.
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Ta ladies all your comments
I usually do massage first none ever refuse much for one but think I won’t offer now unless they do want , I will take into consideration some of what you do .
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I don't have a massage table so I never offer massage to start - it's more physically tiring for me than giving them oral or penetration.
If they've booked an hour and cum quite quick and they don't gave another one in the tank I'll occasionally offer one.
A lot of clients definitely do see it as time wasting. Especially if they've only booked a half hour.
In terms of chat - I am a right chatterbox sometimes, but I try to take my lead from the client. If we're kissing, doing oral or sex then I don't talk unless they ask me to talk dirty. Once they've cum I do like a chat but try to focus it on them - any plans for tonight/the weekend, isn't this weather great/horrible, how's work - busy of quiet, etc etc.
Quite a lot of my regs do enjoy a more in-depth chat and we'll talk about politics, economics, family etc. I guess the ones who don't like to chat just don't come back!
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When I first started I'd begin with a massage but it did seem that many saw it as a time wasting tactic and just want to get straight into the main event.
A very tiny percentage will actually ask for a massage so that tells me thats not what the majority come for.
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I don't offer massage and my ads make it clear - that includes receiving, since I don't find the idea of a stranger (who's likely to be bigger and stronger than I am) somewhere I can't see them properly and with their hands near my neck particularly relaxing. I find it far more tiring than just getting on with things too :)
I do chat, but normally during breaks and at the end, and if it's clear a punter isn't interested I'm just as happy to shut up. I can ramble a bit when somebody comes who I haven't seen before, but that's generally nerves and it settles down reasonably quick.
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With me it depends on how long they have booked how chatty I am, in an hour I’ll chat a couple of minutes then move things along as usually they’ll want to come a couple of times so I figure a little chat in between and a little one at the end, half an hour booking I’ll again chat a couple of minutes at the start to break the ice then at the end if there’s time or as there dressing. In a 15 minute booking I’ll chat whilst there undressing and dressing, I find clients who book 15 minutes don’t really want to talk anyway. I don’t offer massages as I cba doing them but if someone request one I will do it but I find them a nuisance really.
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When I first started I'd begin with a massage but it did seem that many saw it as a time wasting tactic and just want to get straight into the main event.
A very tiny percentage will actually ask for a massage so that tells me thats not what the majority come for.
Yes there's guys who feel cheated or insulted if it's not sex from the second they ring the bell. And there's ones who like to loosen up first. I've had many sex clients throw themselves on their tummy silently expecting a massage. It's not been asked for. Sometimes I look at them wondering what they want then twig. So I give them one.
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I've had many sex clients throw themselves on their tummy quietly expecting a massage. It's not been asked for. Sometimes I look at them wondering what they want then twig. So I give them one.
This bugs me slightly when all they have to do is ask. Good thing I'm happy to do massage!
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Yeah non verbals eh! :)
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I think its a kind of escorting cliche that all bookings begin with a massage whether you ask for one or not.
That's the reason I used to begin with one when I first started as I thought that was the protocol.
But as with most things, times change and the majority of guys I find now are looking for as much bang for their buk as possible so I will throw in a massage at the end if they are totally spent but have time left.