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Re: Slow at the minute or just me?
« Reply #9765 on: 07 June 2018, 05:04:35 pm »
If you are on AW have you tried the available today and local escort search as well as phone number display? If you have been in that area a while and seen quite a few in the past it might be time to go and tour as areas can go very quiet if you been working them a while.

2nd this. Available today and touring a big city could help fix the problem.

Could you try camming or phone chat too also?

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Re: Slow at the minute or just me?
« Reply #9766 on: 07 June 2018, 05:18:17 pm »
Yes the available today never seems to do much for me but waste credits. Yes my number is always up. I don't have a laptop so can't Cam but I have been thinking of doing this once I have enough money to buy one. I've not tried phone sex work as yet. Right now I'm about to have my broadband connection cut off as not paid the bill so it's the wrong time to start. But I may well do this when it's sorted. I can't tour as I have pets I can't leave and they hate anyone but me.

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Re: Slow at the minute or just me?
« Reply #9767 on: 07 June 2018, 05:23:21 pm »
Hi try phone chat from as early as 5am .you can make credits and its free  It's often a popular time of day
Just reset every 2 hours as it automatically turns off .
It seems like you've tried lots to get going I'm not sure which area your in right now.
I wouldn't recommend touring as you're struggling financially .
Is there any family or friends could help  you out .?

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Re: Slow at the minute or just me?
« Reply #9768 on: 07 June 2018, 05:42:11 pm »
...in two days I am due on so I really needed these two days now to make money...
If you can get it in time (for instance, from a private pharmacy or online with next-day delivery), get Norethisterone (aka Utovlan) to delay your period.  (You may have already heard of this).  You are meant to take it 3-5 days before your period, but apparently it can stop your period even when it has just started.  (I have only ever taken it in advance of my period myself).  It can delay your period for up to 30 days and 2-a-day (rather than 3) are enough.  Be aware, though, that it may lead to a longer period than usual with severe initial pains lasting 1-3 days.  That said, if you need to buy time, it's worth it, IMO.  There is more info on this at https://saafe.info/main/questions-and-answers/how-to-stop-a-period!!/

Alternatively, some ladies use (Beppy) sponges in order to work through their period, or just offer non-vaginal services during their period (like oral sex, anal sex, massage and domination) as shown at https://saafe.info/main/questions-and-answers/working-during-your-period/

Other than this, if you haven't already considered dropping your prices, you possibly ought to do so as well as using Vivastreet (alongside AW) if you are not already doing so.

I feel your despair, CNC.  I started escorting at a point where I only had a few hundred pounds in the bank (compounded by £40,000 of credit card debt) and had no idea how I was going to survive the coming month.  Even now, I struggle at times.  Yesterday, for instance, my profit after costs was...barely worth acknowledging: £27.  I am in Wetherby. 
Do update us with your situation, and best of luck.

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Re: Slow at the minute or just me?
« Reply #9769 on: 07 June 2018, 06:30:51 pm »
I do use that pill every so often but it started to give me migraine and then I couldn't ever predict when my next period would be which really got in the way. I have heavy and painful periods so I never work the first few days. I always offer other services when I'm on those last few days but no one ever takes me up on it. I do drop my prices every so often and did so this week but no ones biting. And I literally haven't got a penny. I have been asking around for £20/30 so I can go buy cat food, toilet roll n a bit of basic food but no one is willing to help. I just had some twat asking me about bareback and rimming which I don't offer so that's not helped my mood much either.

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Re: Slow at the minute or just me?
« Reply #9770 on: 07 June 2018, 06:39:09 pm »
awwww I really do feel for you. I am so sorry. Hugs. Sadly not much I can offer in terms of advice as the ladies have already covered most things. Have you thought about part time work perhaps? Also did you ever think about maybe having the coil? I know we are all different but I have not had a period in 2 years since having it which takes so much pressure off, not worrying about coming on. Maybe worth looking into? If you dont mind me asking, what area are you in? (Feel free to PM if you prefer) More hugs. Wish things get better for you xxxx
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Re: Slow at the minute or just me?
« Reply #9771 on: 07 June 2018, 06:57:41 pm »
CnC, is there a sex work project anywhere near you? We can do our best but you badly need some practical help (and if you were anywhere near me I'd do what I could, but I don't think you are  :-\) and somebody needs to sort you out with some proper contraceptive options as well as sorting you out a food bank referral if things are that bad. Have a google and see if there are any independent ones near you as some don't require a separate one.

Are there hotels which do day rooms nearby? The day use sites don't tend to need card details just to reserve one and you could always hang about somewhere close enough to check in when you have a booking so you're not paying out on the off chance :).

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Re: Slow at the minute or just me?
« Reply #9772 on: 07 June 2018, 06:58:52 pm »
...I have been asking around for £20/30 so I can go buy cat food, toilet roll n a bit of basic food but no one is willing to help...

Have you looked into getting emergency benefits / Universal Credit of some kind, CNC?  I have no idea if there actually is such a thing (as emergency Universal Credit), but I believe there should be!  You've got nothing to lose by looking into the matter.

If not, you could possibly seek help from a church in the form of either food and / or money.  I know people who have been successful with this (and you don't have to be either a believer or a church-goer to access such help).  You could offer to repay them as soon as you are able to.

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« Reply #9773 on: 07 June 2018, 08:33:29 pm »
I forgot about the food bank. It might be too late now. I think my local one is tomorrow. I will call in the morning. Bloody ridiculous really, being an escort should not lead me to this! I'm in London, in the suburbs. I don't have a cool as it wouldn't work well with the sort of services I offer, it would definitely get pulled out or moved. I did look into it years ago and was told it can stop periods but it could also make me bleed for months in between periods. That really put me off.

There seem to be those on here who constantly have a good run of punters each week. How do they do it? And how in earth do you get regulars you see every single week? I've been doing this for years and just can't work it out. I've thought about what I offer and everything, my rates, etc and I can't see why I'm earth I'm not absolutely loaded. Short of not being on certain websites that demand paid websites to list that is.

Civvy work is not for me for many reasons, health reasons being one. So that's not an option. Going on the social is soul destroying. I used to be on it for years a long time ago and in the end I vowed never ever again after one of those terrible interviews about your health where they completely disregarded everything and said yes you can work just fine. I tried for a bit but in the end had to stop due to my health. What a surprise. I like escort work. I hate the bullshit timewasters that go with it but I'd rather escort than be in any civvy job, except I can't live on air alone. I don't understand where I am going wrong? Also I'm not the sort of escort who ever just lays back n thinks of England or is rude and makes the client feel he must hurry up. I don't know. I need some sort of new business plan to work on. I need to be making decent money asap. Also I thought if I could find another escort to work with duo's might be profitable but so far I've not had much luck there either.

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Re: Slow at the minute or just me?
« Reply #9774 on: 07 June 2018, 08:48:54 pm »
I don't have a cool as it wouldn't work well with the sort of services I offer, it would definitely get pulled out or moved. I did look into it years ago and was told it can stop periods but it could also make me bleed for months in between periods. That really put me off.

I sort of dread to think what you mean by this, but only two or three men have ever felt/commented on mine - and one was my partner when I first had one fitted and it had dislodged, so he could feel it during sex. The second was a man with long fingers doing very vigorous finger, but he didn't cause any damage, just felt it? It might be worth trying the Mirena to cut down your periods. Ny normal copper IUD has never caused any intermittent bleeding.

I know you've said you've reviewed anything, but is there any room to cut your rates, selling them as a summer offer or something?

Is there any sort of issue with your location, or the services you offer? Some things, like period play, can put some clients off, or alternatively not offering e.g. kissing can lose you business. If there's anything like that I think you need to sell what you DO offer well.
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Re: Slow at the minute or just me?
« Reply #9775 on: 07 June 2018, 08:51:35 pm »
I've sent you a pm
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Re: Slow at the minute or just me?
« Reply #9776 on: 07 June 2018, 09:14:19 pm »
Bloody ridiculous really, being an escort should not lead me to this!

I don't think anybody who's working thinks they should be at a food bank but plenty are - we have two here and my town is tiny. They can give you sanitary protection and toiletries too, and once things settle down you can always stick some stuff in their collection bin at the supermarket for somebody else :).

There seem to be those on here who constantly have a good run of punters each week. How do they do it? And how in earth do you get regulars you see every single week? I've been doing this for years and just can't work it out. I've thought about what I offer and everything, my rates, etc and I can't see why I'm earth I'm not absolutely loaded. Short of not being on certain websites that demand paid websites to list that is.

I don't think many people (here at least) would describe themselves as absolutely loaded! I wouldn't drive yourself nuts over it - I'm quite happy just being comfortable and I certainly don't take regular business for granted. Have you been in your area long? I have a lot of regulars but I've been working in my town on and off for over fifteen years and London for ten; I don't have any who come every single week though and most are once or twice a month.

It isn't clear from your post whether you have a website - a lot of my business comes from mine, both Google and directories?

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Re: Slow at the minute or just me?
« Reply #9777 on: 07 June 2018, 09:33:07 pm »
That's interesting and I feel much better about things now. I don't think I've ever been comfortable though. I've been in my area for 8yrs. No I don't offer period play, my god I'm in far too much pain to do so.

I have a free website and I've been listing myself like crazy on many free listing sites.

I do offer kissing and gfe as well as kinkier stuff which is more what I enjoy. But I do find that as a sub I don't really tend to get many Dom clients which is weird. I get gfe and kink clients. I have a quickie client who is a regular but as it'd so fast it doesn't pay much. I also have one or two half hour regulars but as its only short again it doesn't really pay the bills. I have two different rates for hourly bookings depending on if it's a great or a harder kinkier booking. I do incalls but I can do outcalls too. I never get any outcalls though. When I first started I could only offer outcalls n I did fairly well. It's odd that now I never get any serious genuine outcalls. I don't drive so I'm limited to the public transport times to get me home before the last train n bus but even so it never used to be an issue. I think I was a lot cheaper for outcalls when I first started n did an hour whereas now my minimum booking is 90mins. Maybe I need to go back to doing an hour so it's cheaper? How much would you charge for a kinky hour outcall booking in London? Or for a gfe outcall?

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« Reply #9778 on: 07 June 2018, 10:12:12 pm »
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Re: Slow at the minute or just me?
« Reply #9779 on: 07 June 2018, 10:14:01 pm »
That's interesting and I feel much better about things now. I don't think I've ever been comfortable though. I've been in my area for 8yrs. No I don't offer period play, my god I'm in far too much pain to do so.

I have a free website and I've been listing myself like crazy on many free listing sites.

I do offer kissing and gfe as well as kinkier stuff which is more what I enjoy. But I do find that as a sub I don't really tend to get many Dom clients which is weird. I get gfe and kink clients. I have a quickie client who is a regular but as it'd so fast it doesn't pay much. I also have one or two half hour regulars but as its only short again it doesn't really pay the bills. I have two different rates for hourly bookings depending on if it's a great or a harder kinkier booking. I do incalls but I can do outcalls too. I never get any outcalls though. When I first started I could only offer outcalls n I did fairly well. It's odd that now I never get any serious genuine outcalls. I don't drive so I'm limited to the public transport times to get me home before the last train n bus but even so it never used to be an issue. I think I was a lot cheaper for outcalls when I first started n did an hour whereas now my minimum booking is 90mins. Maybe I need to go back to doing an hour so it's cheaper? How much would you charge for a kinky hour outcall booking in London? Or for a gfe outcall?

It is not that easy to get lots of regulars and does depend on how many you see to build up some. It is very hard work getting regs back i find i have to go overboard really act like i love the job and enjoy doing what i am doing with them and sometimes talk dirty pay them fake compliments to get those regulars but even if you are very good does not mean most will come back some just really like variety and like to try new all the time. So try not to worry toi much.

I think you're immediate situation is getting some help via food bank or signing on to benefits just to help you through the really bad time then i think you need to do some tours in completely new areas where you will be the "new gitlrl"

Even if you look good and price is good does not mean there is enough clients in you're area for you to have a steady income for 2 years i think starting out you have a few months of being quite busy then it can slowly start being not anywhere near how it started it is hardly ever consistent for any sex workers otherwise most would be earning very well this shows for how many tour regularly if they want there income to be more worthwhile. I never ever find this industry steady especially staying working in 1 area for a long time.

So do not give up but just change how and where you are working if you can.