i expect this has been asked a million times before. I've just joined and just stared doing this. I am married and my hubby likes the idea of the money etc

but it the safety issue we aren't to sure about  he doesn't want me to do outcalls to houses as he say a man could have load of his mates there to have a gag bang and rape me does this ever happen maybe hotels.

What about incall do any of the ladies on here use they own place. My hubby want to be here every time but his job wont let him so how can i book clients if he wants to be here in another room. if i book then cancel on aw I'm gonna get bad feedback if i keep cancelling. it will be in the day time is it safe to have people to your own home   



any tip on safety and what do ladies on here do. any tips on what to look for time wasters and dodgy clients  if the feedback on aw a good thing to help us decide 

which is safe in calls or out calls

rosaley

hi

yes iv read loads i just wondering what thoughts people have as to doing incalls alone really in own place x

rosaley

Hi there,

i just take bookings from adultwork, but now i only see regulars, i would personally only see gents with feedback from other ladies, but remember to check out there profiles to check if they do bareback or anything. i used to work from my private home, had a separate play room, but i would only see people there i have seen a few times x

hi

yes thank for replies i shut the door and when hubby is here no one has noticed or said anything

im not going to do every day it just one day a week for a bit of extra cash, but do any ladies who do out calls have any safety worries.

because i think id like to do some of them as well

thanks
rose

Hi Rosaley,
I'm very conscious of my safety too, being a young woman visiting strangers' homes/hotel rooms is dangerous but you can minimise the risks and I've never had any dangerous encounters in 2 years of doing outcalls only (I see a few men every week).
The chances of being booked by a group of men who want to gang rape you are actually very small and those men will target vulnerable ladies. Make it clear on your advertising that you have a security buddy/guard (you don't have to say it's your husband) and if you visit a house then get full address and ask to call their landline so you can check you live there and speak on the phone to them. This will put off a lot of sketchy types.
In a hotel room it is very unlikely due to other people being able to hear and the hotel would notice a group of men going into 1 room. (Definitely invest in a rape alarm if you can, it helps me feel more prepared in case of needing to get attention fast).
When you arrive get your fee, then make the call to your husband "security buddy" and tell him out loud 'I have arrived at [location] and will be leaving at [time], please call me back then'. If they know someone knows where you are and is expecting to hear from you at a certain time, you'll put off any bad behaviour/boundary pushing.
The majority of punters are just normal guys who want some sex and company, only a very small amount are dangerous and will be unlikely to target someone who carries out security procedures rigorously.

I have never been in a relationship where my escorting was a joint decision, I don't want to be patronising but please always make your own decisions about who you see/what you do and when you see them.
It's perfectly safe to do incalls without someone else there if your hubby can't be there, just make sure you speak to them over the phone and don't give out your address until the punter has arrived at somewhere close to yours, otherwise all sorts of idiots will get your address then start turning up randomly.

Loads of great information and guides on the main site and on old threads here, I've learnt most of what I know through SAAFE xx

Yeah I have to agree with the other girls above, it's a situation to be wary of involving your other half, I've had relationships doing this, I fully get it's not all black and white but the tone of your first post does lead me to want to remind you not to be persuaded/encouraged by a partner in any direction other than what you genuinely want and have decided for yourself

one question where do you put the cash once you get it on out calls

Somewhere you'll know if they try to get it back. Things sealed by velcro are very good for this, but you can also get small alarms that will go off if the thing they are attached to is opened.

I am putting my cash to the side pocket of the handbag, always keep eye on it. I make sure they see, where I put it. When leaving, I am checking 'if I didn't forget anything', and if necessary I'd count aloud: lube, money, car keys... Once it has happened indeed, it did help the guy to find my money, they 'fell under the bed'. Yeah, right. And I am a virgin.