Author Topic: Relationships whilst escorting? (Read 110403 times)

Guiltypleasure · « **Reply #345 on:** 30 August 2017, 01:38:06 pm »

Quote from: MrsAW on 22 May 2017, 07:14:19 am

+1

I had totally given up on the idea that it was even possible to find an adorable, adoring husband AND still be an escort but it appears that this unique breed are out there & I too have snagged a one good enough to marry.

+1 also mine is definitely too tight pay , but doesn't mean he won't stray , I'm a poet and didn't know it !

LotusFlower · « **Reply #346 on:** 31 August 2017, 09:51:41 am »

I learned the hard way about relationships and escorting.

I escorted years ago and was making a killing. Paid off any debt, started saving, was on the road to buying my first house etc. Then I met a man and fell in love. I never told him about my job, quit escorting, moved in together, had a baby, used all my savings, got into debt, the relationship fell apart and now I am back at square one; the same point I was at before I started escorting in the first place. And now with a baby.

I ended up telling him about escorting and urged him to be alright with it to get us on a good financial path. He wasn't ok with it. In the end, I chose financial security over the relationship that was now in ashes.

Moral of the story; it would take SOME guy to make me give up escorting now. If I could find that unicorn who would respect why I do it and allow me to, then amazing. But I think these are rare. I know of too many stories where the guy knew and totally tapped into the girl's earnings.

For me, right now I am not interested in relationships. I want to create a great financially stable future for me and my family before considering letting someone else in.

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #347 on:** 31 August 2017, 01:42:40 pm »

Coming to the last phase of escorting, my bf has been tough at times. Mainly due to how I earn money. Most guys will never be for escorts sexing up other guys while they are living a civy life.

Always keep being independent, I let him know now. Finally he is moving his bum.

My earnings have increased finally.

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #348 on:** 31 August 2017, 01:52:37 pm »

Quote from: JustAnotherHooker on 31 May 2017, 04:37:46 pm

I couldn't lie to him as we lived together, sometimes I do find that when I have strong feelings for a civvy man then I can't stay away from him but unfortunately I also need to earn a living, pay my bills etc etc and at that time I was paying rent for my house yet always at his so it was a waste and I moved out of mine and gave up my place, risky yes, foolish yes but sometimes my heart overrules my head! I am a romantic person btw and I still believe in love and lust! Lol xx

However, I have now decided to not tell another guy about my work, after all you are allowed some privacy in life!

I went from being honest about escorting to not be as the guys would freak out. I told him a week in to as thought if he walked it wouldn't bother me. Xx

Philippa Joyce · « **Reply #349 on:** 31 August 2017, 03:10:50 pm »

I have been escorting for about 8 years ago. A client showed up for an hour booking 2 and a half years ago and ive been seeing him ever since. Hes married, and said from the start he would never leave his wife, which has always been fine by me. But....it has been a constant battle between him and me because as time went on, and the feelings grew, he now hates me doing the escorting and keeps on and on to me to give it up...... I gave him options...
1......leave your wife and be with me
2.... support me financially(he can afford to) and i will give up the job
3 accept what I do without complaint.
well i wont go on,cos it would bore u to tears but I really have had enough and ended it once and for all last week. I suppose i do love the man (whatever love is)and i do believe he loves me in his own way, but talk is cheap...actions speak louder than words. He was becoming controlling, sarcastic, disbelieving me when Id tell him id only had one punter...he,d be convinced it was more. Basically its ok for him to have had his cake and eat it but hes still giving me a hard time and Ive had enough of it. Never again will I get involved with a man unless its work related....I told loverboy I was a very happy hoe before I met him !
Love Abi x

sweetmilf · « **Reply #350 on:** 31 August 2017, 06:19:55 pm »

Quote from: BustyAbi on 31 August 2017, 03:10:50 pm

I have been escorting for about 8 years ago. A client showed up for an hour booking 2 and a half years ago and ive been seeing him ever since. Hes married, and said from the start he would never leave his wife, which has always been fine by me. But....it has been a constant battle between him and me because as time went on, and the feelings grew, he now hates me doing the escorting and keeps on and on to me to give it up...... I gave him options...

Abi
He told you he would never leave his wife. To me, this says a lot already. He has built his life with her and he's not giving it up. Give up escorting? wow. it's all about this man screaming "me, me, me, me!" If I were you, cut him off and let him go fu*k himself. A relationship is about sharing something positive. Once it gets so negative, time to cut all contact. Feelings will fade soon enough as you distance yourself from this toxic relationship.

Lushblossom · « **Reply #351 on:** 31 August 2017, 08:03:58 pm »

It will not be a problem for a bloke if he works in the adult industry himself, e.g. porn or photography work.

Just mentioning that is all. No interest in acquiring a bloke myself at this stage in my life but pornmakers and photographers generally won't object.

Philippa Joyce · « **Reply #352 on:** 01 September 2017, 09:51:50 am »

Sweetmilf, u are so right. I have cut contact since Monday and do feel better for it already. Xx

sweetmilf · « **Reply #353 on:** 01 September 2017, 11:56:25 am »

Quote from: BustyAbi on 01 September 2017, 09:51:50 am

Sweetmilf, u are so right. I have cut contact since Monday and do feel better for it already. Xx

I didn't want to say (in case it may offend), but I felt I had to. You deserve more. xx

Schwiftysquancher91 · « **Reply #354 on:** 07 September 2017, 12:45:02 pm »

A guy I broke up about a year ago with and was pining over (he kept saying it was over and there was no way back) found out I was 'dating' through mutual friends (left out the part where it's usually just for the hour and I get paid for it, saying I'm dating gives me a better excuse for work). I gave up work for him when we first met and never knew about it. He was generally quite controlling and put me down quite a bit, when we broke it off I was a shell of the person I once was.

He revealed to me he was thinking about getting back with me and he loves me but just wishes I was different.

I thought about it for a while and then my hooker senses kicked in and realised it was a mind fuck and he was just a time waster.

There was no better satisfaction than telling him to royally go and do one.

I think dating while being a sex worker is about your own perspective, if you can handle it, choose the right person and you are strong enough to deal with both then go for it. Don't leave yourself vulnerable or get persuaded to quit if you don't want to or you'll hate them more for it.

sweetmilf · « **Reply #355 on:** 08 September 2017, 09:18:35 am »

Quote from: Shwiftysquancher91 on 07 September 2017, 12:45:02 pm

A guy I broke up about a year ago with and was pining over (he kept saying it was over and there was no way back) found out I was 'dating' through mutual friends (left out the part where it's usually just for the hour and I get paid for it, saying I'm dating gives me a better excuse for work). I gave up work for him when we first met and never knew about it. He was generally quite controlling and put me down quite a bit, when we broke it off I was a shell of the person I once was.

He revealed to me he was thinking about getting back with me and he loves me but just wishes I was different.

I thought about it for a while and then my hooker senses kicked in and realised it was a mind fuck and he was just a time waster.

I agree. There is no point. He should just get a dog to keep him happy.

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #356 on:** 13 September 2017, 05:57:59 pm »

It sure has been a juggling act, that is finding time for him while escorting. Missing shit loads of bookings over the past three months due to finishing early 7-8pm.

Him always wanting to spend time with me like he tells me he is mine all weekend. Holy smokes.... I still need to earn I won't be on Saturday.

I try to dedicate Sundays to him but can't always if had a slow week. Then he gets the hump like a spoilt brat. I need to text him all the time I love him or he gets the hump. Older guys get grumpy from a different era. I need mental space.

He stresses me out alot even when I am at a stressful time of escorting ie looking for civy work, going for interviews.

I am more escorting focused he doesn't understand I need to earn still. He can help me if he wanted but won't. Simple stop ass complaining.

Tired from escorting physically and mentally draining some times.

If I don't send him a morning photo every day he gets moody with me. There are times I text him like a robot because he expects that.

On top of that he is going through a divorce moaning to me all the time about it. Always bringing up the past I tolerate it until he says some thing that fumes me.

Just needed to get some thoughts on this please.

He was a saint perfect at the beginning.

If single keep building up your life achieving, before some guy starts with his narcissistic moves.

Gypsy · « **Reply #357 on:** 13 September 2017, 06:01:17 pm »

Quote from: meetingdiversity on 13 September 2017, 05:57:59 pm

It sure has been a juggling act, that is finding time for him while escorting. Missing shit loads of bookings over the past three months due to finishing early 7-8pm.

Him always wanting to spend time with me like he tells me he is mine all weekend. Holy smokes.... I still need to earn I won't be on Saturday.

I try to dedicate Sundays to him but can't always if had a slow week. Then he gets the hump like a spoilt brat. I need to text him all the time I love him or he gets the hump. Older guys get grumpy from a different era. I need mental space.

He stresses me out alot even when I am at a stressful time of escorting ie looking for civy work, going for interviews.

I am more escorting focused he doesn't understand I need to earn still. He can help me if he wanted but won't. Simple stop ass complaining.

Tired from escorting physically and mentally draining some times.

If I don't send him a morning photo every day he gets moody with me. There are times I text him like a robot because he expects that.

On top of that he is going through a divorce moaning to me all the time about it. Always bringing up the past I tolerate it until he says some thing that fumes me.

Just needed to get some thoughts on this please.

He was a saint perfect at the beginning.

If single keep building up your life achieving, before some guy starts with his narcissistic moves.

Sounds to me like he's only thinking of himself. My boyfriend can be like this but I keep him at arms length.

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #358 on:** 13 September 2017, 06:04:15 pm »

Like waking me up at 4.45am by rubbing my feet is okay in his book, no it fucking is not. It ruins my day if tired at least wait until 7am. I asked him politely he reacted like I offended him so should have said fuck this and that getting the same reaction.

On top of that he tells me how much he loves me and wants me to live with him to marry. Jesus I thought I had problems.

Rant over.....

meetingdiversity · « **Reply #359 on:** 13 September 2017, 06:06:46 pm »

Quote from: Gypsy on 13 September 2017, 06:01:17 pm

Sounds to me like he's only thinking of himself. My boyfriend can be like this but I keep him at arms length.

I am thinking to do the same but then he comes out with boo hoo don't you want me.

I do have feelings for him still just needing space.

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