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« Reply #300 on: 25 September 2016, 12:26:35 am »
So, because of this line of work I've always thought it was impossible to do this and have a boyfriend. I would see guys on a casual basis but I always made it clear I didn't want an actual relationship.  Until about a month ago, someone who I was seeing casually wanted more & I decided to tell him I was an escort but he still wanted to see me. He seemed pretty fine with it, he did seem a little bothered everytime I had to work but nothing majorly and we ended up getting really serious in the last month. About a couple days ago, he really wanted me to quit and confessed he's been bottling his emotions & drinking the nights I had to work. I told him I couldnt quit & if he couldnt deal with it then we should split.

He thought about whether he could handle it and decided he could but I am unsure whether this will still hurt and cause problems for him eventhough he thinks he can deal with it and is cooler about it.

Has anyone else been in this situation? Or does anyone have a boyfriend who knows what you do and does he deal with it well?

I've been in a relationship for the past 4 months with a friend. I decided not to tell him what I do as he has mental health problems. Despite this, he is a wonderful person and I love him dearly.

This week he left me. Not because he found out what my job is, but because of his issues.

I am so glad I didn't tell him. I would have felt a lot worse if it was down to my job.
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« Reply #301 on: 25 September 2016, 01:52:46 pm »
Dating a "friend" is one way of losing a friend.  (I don't mean to be smartypants but I have seen examples) Usually, the romance is over, friendship is also gone.

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« Reply #302 on: 25 September 2016, 10:31:37 pm »
I know what you mean, but I hope it won't be like this because of the circumstances surrounding the breakup. Part of me, however much it hurts now, thinks he and the universe have done me favour. But I know for a fact that if he did uncover what I do for a job then the friendship would almost certainly be gone.
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« Reply #303 on: 25 September 2016, 10:34:46 pm »
I started doing this when me and my ex broke up, we had been together for 2 years and I missed him like mad! Now we're back together and I rely on the money too much to give it up! I've only taken one booking since we started again but I feel so guilty now I don't know what to do!! Has anyone else been in this situation?? I know if I told him he'd be horrified and definitely would not support the decision, if I carry on and not tell him I'm effectively cheating I guess and if he ever found out it;d break his heart :(. Or, I could go back to using the day job wages and being broke and miserable. Help please!! Apologies for the long, ranting moan there!! (: So envious of you girls that have supportive partners!! Lucky things!! ;)

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« Reply #304 on: 26 September 2016, 04:14:10 pm »
My ex found out that I'm a prostitute today (well technically not anymore seeing as I webcam only now). It's a big deal to me because I'm still madly in love with him and we we've been seeing each other again  and talking about being together again.
 He asked me to be completely honest with him before we get together as he had his suspicions (he asked for honesty because I've lied and cheated on him in the past) so I was completely honest and told him everything. AMazingly  he didn't immediately tell me he was never going to see me again as I thought he would.  He was calm and asked questions about it....but he doesn't want me anymore. Not even for a casual fwb situation.

I know this sounds silly but it really hurts. It really really hurts . I'll never see someone that I really love again because of my job.

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« Reply #305 on: 26 September 2016, 04:33:28 pm »
My ex found out that I'm a prostitute today (well technically not anymore seeing as I webcam only now). It's a big deal to me because I'm still madly in love with him and we we've been seeing each other again  and talking about being together again.
 He asked me to be completely honest with him before we get together as he had his suspicions (he asked for honesty because I've lied and cheated on him in the past) so I was completely honest and told him everything. AMazingly  he didn't immediately tell me he was never going to see me again as I thought he would.  He was calm and asked questions about it....but he doesn't want me anymore. Not even for a casual fwb situation.

I know this sounds silly but it really hurts. It really really hurts . I'll never see someone that I really love again because of my job.

Xxx You have my deepest sympathy.
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« Reply #306 on: 26 September 2016, 05:51:17 pm »
My ex found out that I'm a prostitute today (well technically not anymore seeing as I webcam only now). It's a big deal to me because I'm still madly in love with him and we we've been seeing each other again  and talking about being together again.
 He asked me to be completely honest with him before we get together as he had his suspicions (he asked for honesty because I've lied and cheated on him in the past) so I was completely honest and told him everything. AMazingly  he didn't immediately tell me he was never going to see me again as I thought he would.  He was calm and asked questions about it....but he doesn't want me anymore. Not even for a casual fwb situation.

I know this sounds silly but it really hurts. It really really hurts . I'll never see someone that I really love again because of my job.

You have my sympathy also as you tried to do the right thing and it backfired on you.
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« Reply #307 on: 26 September 2016, 06:38:59 pm »

My ex found out that I'm a prostitute today (well technically not anymore seeing as I webcam only now). It's a big deal to me because I'm still madly in love with him and we we've been seeing each other again  and talking about being together again.
 He asked me to be completely honest with him before we get together as he had his suspicions (he asked for honesty because I've lied and cheated on him in the past) so I was completely honest and told him everything. AMazingly  he didn't immediately tell me he was never going to see me again as I thought he would.  He was calm and asked questions about it....but he doesn't want me anymore. Not even for a casual fwb situation.

I know this sounds silly but it really hurts. It really really hurts . I'll never see someone that I really love again because of my job.


Another one here who really feels for you,!!  So sorry, I know how much it must hurt. I disagree with those who say you should just lie in future. In my mind if I am lying to stay in the relationship then it's not real anyway. 

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« Reply #308 on: 26 September 2016, 07:37:07 pm »
I'll never see someone that I really love again because of my job.

Aw, don't be too sure just yet - you said he only found out today and he deserves a chance to get used to the news and think about it properly. If he still feels the same way when a bit of time has passed, at least you'll have both got past the initial stuff and you'll be feeling stronger for dealing with it :).

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« Reply #309 on: 26 September 2016, 08:20:26 pm »
Aw, don't be too sure just yet - you said he only found out today and he deserves a chance to get used to the news and think about it properly. If he still feels the same way when a bit of time has passed, at least you'll have both got past the initial stuff and you'll be feeling stronger for dealing with it :).
Amy is right.I've been with my fella for over 2 years and he has always known what I do and he accepts it,it's not an issue.Yes you are going to find it harder being in this job to meet someone but it is possible for sure and your ex may just come round when he has had more time to digest it.
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« Reply #310 on: 26 September 2016, 08:59:58 pm »
Thank you so much for the support everybody. I've been in tears all day but thank you so much. You're right amy I will give him some time and shewolf i've been trying to keep it private and this is the exact reason why. I don't want to lie but it sucks when you're honest and this is the reaction.

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« Reply #311 on: 26 September 2016, 09:47:30 pm »
Thank you so much for the support everybody. I've been in tears all day but thank you so much. You're right amy I will give him some time and shewolf i've been trying to keep it private and this is the exact reason why. I don't want to lie but it sucks when you're honest and this is the reaction.

Aww sorry to hear. I can't add anything but I'm sending big hugs.

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« Reply #312 on: 26 September 2016, 10:12:18 pm »
Sorry to hear it Lulu. Rejection always sucks but when it's because you've trusted someone with such an important piece of information, that really stings.

But as Amy said - give him time to think. If you're only camming now and not doing meets, it's possible he might have a change of heart.
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« Reply #313 on: 12 December 2016, 04:55:15 am »
My Boyfriend of 7 years, soon to be my husband, (when he pops the question  :) ) he knows about me and is very supportive. I have no pressure and I explained what I did at the start, I prefer to be alone than have loads of shit later.
We talk regular over all parts of my work and he knows I love him so much, I am good at my job, the money is helpful and i like it. I am very possessive and I get a little worried why he doesn?t want to take other girls but he seems contented to be with me and I am coming to accept its me he loves, he knows my lovemaking is only  for him, sex is for the clients.
I have to keep pinching myself and  try not forget him in the balance of life.

Tell the guys at the start, if they run arr well... bye.
If they stay, talk more, if they get too turned about it still be careful with your emotions.
If he is a client, personally I would not like him seeing anyone else. ( but that?s your call)
Relationships are all different, if it works for you, then its right  ;D
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« Reply #314 on: 12 December 2016, 05:27:31 am »
Layla Blu you have put that very well.