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Re: Punter walks out after cumming claiming it’s awkward
« Reply #15 on: 29 July 2019, 01:03:53 am »
Hello,

Just sitting here not exactly knowing what to think.

Saw the punter today, arrived on time, paid for 1.5hours. Someone with impeccable feedback. Felt weird at the first sight, he had strange unmoving eyes fixated on me. He wouldn’t really talk much, I’m normally quite humorous because I get nervous and this helps me to diffuse the tension I feel when meeting someone new.

Came 20 minutes into a 1.5 hour meeting and the rest of the time (around 10-15minutes) he spends watching tv and not really doing anything. I asked if he wants to go again, cock not responsive to play. I began playing with myself instead and he again just stared at me without any emotion showing. Gave up a few minutes later, feeling stupid and the conversation was awkward. Kind of forced. I get uncomfortable if someone doesn’t return my attempts to keep things light hearted and playful, all was met with a half smile. No second pop since he didn’t get it up.

Eventually I remarked that it’s a little awkward and whether he wants to leave the meeting earlier. I refunded him for the time we didn’t spend and actually asked if there was anything I said or did and if so I didn’t mean it. He claimed nothing wrong and “he’s not in the mood”. Walked out, money settled and that was it.

Quite pissed off, especially when having had a no show as well on the same day, quite paranoid I’ve done something to turn him off. Have you ever had a situation like that? Did he later tell you what’s up? I’m getting quite paranoid I’ve done something that I’m not aware of...  :FF :-\

Impeccable feedback means sweet FA! People leave positive feedback for fear of their own feedback being tarnished.

I had a freaky stalker with impeccable feedback and some of the pushiest, shittiest clients I’ve ever had have had impeccable feedback.

The most I do is one hour especially with a new client because the thought of being stuck in a room with someone who’s that awkward or whatever makes me really anxious due to experiences like the one you mentioned.

You can’t please everyone, it sounded like you tried your best. He was just a rude awkward prick by the sounds of it, I would of done the same as you. I know giving the remaining money back is shit but it’s worse putting up with them for the sake of the money.

If I get someone like that book me for an hour, I will try and put up with them for the half hour and then give them the remaining money back and explain to them why I would like to cut the booking short.

I would never refund money if they wanted to leave earlier than they had booked but if it’s me calling it off early then I always refund the difference to try and keep the situation as calm as possible.

If I have to ask someone to leave, it’s for a good reason and it’s their fault so in principle, you shouldn’t have to refund money because they should know how to behave like a respectable grown up but principles sometimes go out the window in this business so you def did the right thing in refunding the remaining money.

I know it’s easier said than done but try not to think any more of it. I try my absolute best to avoid bookings like that cause of how your left feeling after it but it’s inevitable sometimes.

TheQuietOneHA!

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Re: Punter walks out after cumming claiming it’s awkward
« Reply #16 on: 29 July 2019, 01:10:23 am »
I noticed a few posts saying maybe he had cum guilt?

From what the OP said, she had a shitty weird awkward vibe from the start with him?

So my post was in response to that. I wouldn’t be giving anyone a refund if they decided after one cum they were done and started acting all weird in the hope of a refund.

I only refund horrid clients I want rid of.
« Last Edit: 29 July 2019, 12:11:15 pm by Sophia x »

Rosenrot

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Re: Punter walks out after cumming claiming it’s awkward
« Reply #17 on: 29 July 2019, 06:54:54 am »
was it an AW client with feedback?

Yes plenty of feedbacks including some bird claiming how “fun” he is to be around and how he laughed st her jokes.

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Re: Punter walks out after cumming claiming it’s awkward
« Reply #18 on: 29 July 2019, 07:03:07 am »
Also, I actually suggested he cut this short and hence have the partial refund because I couldn’t stand any more minute in this situation. The initiative came from me.

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Re: Punter walks out after cumming claiming it’s awkward
« Reply #19 on: 29 July 2019, 07:09:36 am »
If a punter or client wants to spend his time watching TV that's up to him. I'm not an automatic TV turn on er, I find background TV annoying, distracting and rude. I do play music or am ok with no noise in the background.

I have had long bookings including overnights where the guy doesn't want much sex, spends much time on a tablet, phone, watching TV or reading. I've also just cuddled up and watched films.

Sometimes he just wants company or struggles with relationships, or is in a high pressure job.

I'm there for the time booked, and as I often say 'I cannot grumble'. I'd rather that sort of booking than ragged senseless or be with someone demanding and difficult. I'm making money and if he's happy no problem.

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Re: Punter walks out after cumming claiming it’s awkward
« Reply #20 on: 29 July 2019, 07:10:49 am »
Also, I actually suggested he cut this short and hence have the partial refund because I couldn’t stand any more minute in this situation. The initiative came from me.

Ah yes if your suggestion unless he's done something wrong, then I agree he deserves a refund.

Rosenrot

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Re: Punter walks out after cumming claiming it’s awkward
« Reply #21 on: 29 July 2019, 07:17:05 am »
Anyway, happy he was gone and I didn’t want to spend time in complete awkward silence.
Just pissed off as i am on tour and I could’ve booked with someone who doesn’t have a social awareness of a tick.

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Re: Punter walks out after cumming claiming it’s awkward
« Reply #22 on: 29 July 2019, 07:24:20 am »
Anyway, happy he was gone and I didn’t want to spend time in complete awkward silence.
Just pissed off as i am on tour and I could’ve booked with someone who doesn’t have a social awareness of a tick.

So is it loss of income or is it that you'd prefer someone to get on it?

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Re: Punter walks out after cumming claiming it’s awkward
« Reply #23 on: 29 July 2019, 09:36:32 am »
For a long time I would try so hard to make conversation with the "gone cold after cumming" clients but eventually found it so awkward when they give one word answers so now if I am unlucky and get one of these and I know the sex has definitely finished, I do as they do, go silent and see if they initiate any talking. Some do and some don't. I don't care any more. They have had sex with someone they chose and who is happy and smiling and I have had my fee.

I did used to offer a back/shoulder massage to fill unused time but after being told no thanks I gave up on that one too. There is no television in my bedroom so that one is out.

One man I saw many times was cold to the point of rude after the session so I stopped seeing him altogether.

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Re: Punter walks out after cumming claiming it’s awkward
« Reply #24 on: 29 July 2019, 10:34:34 am »

One man I saw many times was cold to the point of rude after the session so I stopped seeing him altogether.

A form of "Cum Guilt"?

I often do wonder if they suddenly regretted over what they spent for i.e. sex when the "reason" returns, followed by ejaculation/cumming.
Or their "true" character (hidden prior to cumming) emerges, suddenly?

I agree that if things have no chance of "improvement", it would be best to let him go. . .
I have had snide comments before they left.
Their mood seems to make a sudden "shift". 

Best not to take it personally (to the OP).
You handled it well.

I would have kept the money.

He was bed-blocking for that duration.
You could not have someone else in.

TheQuietOneHA!

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Re: Punter walks out after cumming claiming it’s awkward
« Reply #25 on: 29 July 2019, 12:17:07 pm »
If a punter or client wants to spend his time watching TV that's up to him. I'm not an automatic TV turn on er, I find background TV annoying, distracting and rude. I do play music or am ok with no noise in the background.

I have had long bookings including overnights where the guy doesn't want much sex, spends much time on a tablet, phone, watching TV or reading. I've also just cuddled up and watched films.

Sometimes he just wants company or struggles with relationships, or is in a high pressure job.

I'm there for the time booked, and as I often say 'I cannot grumble'. I'd rather that sort of booking than ragged senseless or be with someone demanding and difficult. I'm making money and if he's happy no problem.

I think from what the OP said, he didn’t seem very happy and she probably had his impeccable feedback in mind so thought he was unhappy with her.

I wouldn’t like to be ragged senseless either tbh (not sure any GFE escorts are really into that) but if I had to chose between that and an uncomfortable awkward situation, I would go for getting pumped senseless  so I would of done the same as the OP because sometimes it’s unbearable being with someone like that.

My money is only worthwhile to me if I’m happy making it. When not having sex, I like to engage with the person I’m with.

If they’re completely disengaged and look miserable or awkward then I would rather be out of that situation.

But some people are stronger mentally than others and some people have different priorities and are very good at just thinking of the money whereas I find it really difficult to think of the money if someone if making me feel uncomfortable.

« Last Edit: 29 July 2019, 12:32:47 pm by Sophia x »

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Re: Punter walks out after cumming claiming it’s awkward
« Reply #26 on: 29 July 2019, 12:24:03 pm »
So is it loss of income or is it that you'd prefer someone to get on it?

Nobody wants loss of income, we’re not here to lose income. We’re here to make money.

But she clearly felt that uncomfortable that she couldn’t stand another minute of it and was willing to lose the income.

And it should be a given that we want to be with someone we get on with but as I previously said, some people maybe have other priorities and are excellent at focusing solely on the money.

If a client is asked to leave and been given money back, there’s a reason for it.

We’re here to make money, it’s not in our best interests to turn their business away  so when I do personally, there’s good reason for it.

It’s clear you’d deal with a situation like that differently and hats off to you but I guess that’s what makes us all different.
« Last Edit: 29 July 2019, 12:36:39 pm by Sophia x »

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Re: Punter walks out after cumming claiming it’s awkward
« Reply #27 on: 29 July 2019, 02:29:05 pm »
Girl if I was you I would of been buzzing it happend that quick and would of just watched tv with him lmao , hes not just paying for sex hes paying for your time and if he wants to use that time watching tv I'll happily start munching away and watch love island with him haha ;D
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Re: Punter walks out after cumming claiming it’s awkward
« Reply #28 on: 29 July 2019, 08:02:18 pm »
Brutal!! I would have not given him a refund mind you I've been in similar situations and I always make sure I'm fair LOL. Terrible though, I liked the response of if he just wants to watch TV then watch TV with him, I'll keep that one in mind for next time!!
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Re: Punter walks out after cumming claiming it’s awkward
« Reply #29 on: 30 July 2019, 12:50:30 am »
Rose ~
That kind of sucks bc he's got good FB on AW, yet it didn't represent itself in your session. I've run across this occasionally here, I can screen a guy all day long, everything will come back flawlessly; he's who he says he is, he lives where he says he does, works where he says he does blah blah, then shows up & is a complete douche nozzle.

My point here is just bc they screen well /slash/ have FB doesn't mean they're a nice person *sigh*. It used to. Sorry that happened☹️.
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