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Nora batty

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Re: Offering a sensual massage only and oral service?
« Reply #30 on: 07 October 2017, 11:39:52 am »
At the moment I offer a choice of either sensual massage or full service.  Would love to take the plunge and just do massage.  Do your escort clients now come to you for massage?

Do you get outcall massage bookings?

I offer both on my profile.  I have seperate tabs for each service.  I have found you get the odd escort client book a massage service and push his luck trying to grope me.  I don't allow it.  I will strip down to panties for an extra ?10 but they are not to touch under my knickers.

I am slowly moving away from full service.  I am a tourer too, so I have a mobile table and make sure each place I rent has enough room to comfortably accommodate my table.  I take my own towels everywhere.

seraphine

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Re: Offering a sensual massage only and oral service?
« Reply #31 on: 09 October 2017, 11:31:39 am »
At the moment I offer a choice of either sensual massage or full service.  Would love to take the plunge and just do massage.  Do your escort clients now come to you for massage?

Do you get outcall massage bookings?

After I quit escorting, I lost almost all of my clients. I couldn't understand why. It was rather disheartening as even the oldest, most regular ones dropped me in a moment without a second thought.
I had a few, who wanted to try the new offering, but in most cases the sessions weren't great.
Finally I realized that it's a very different service and just not for everyone.

Clients looking for an escort have a very different mindset and needs.
What is very important for me now is that within my new boundaries I can act accordingly to what I actually feel.
As an escort I was switching off from my feelings in some way, I mean it was still pleasant but I had to dissociate this mechanical pleasure from every other aspect of myself.
I had to shut up any feelings or thoughts that would interfere with my work.
I had to focus on attuning myself to whatever they needed.
And really, clients who book an escort don't really care how you're feeling, even the nice ones (or rather hypocrytical) who say that they want you to enjoy yourself. Nope. They only want to feel better about themselves.
At the end of the day they want to use someone (or something) to have their needs met.

What a massage gives me is boundaries. I can attune to what I really feel.
I can be okay with a client touching me if I really feel that I want it.
Clients in general are respectful of my boundaries, and careful about touching me. It made a big difference in my life.
Then there are the ones on the 'idiot spectrum', who just want to use you for a wank (emphasis on 'use'...), grab etc.

When doing a massage, I also can be giving without ending up being resentful, angry and feeling used.

Coming back to your question after this lenghty intro...
I lost almost all of my escorting clients. It was brutal and I was broke and desperate for quite some time.
These days it's okay-ish. I work longer hours and for less but I'm much happier.

Can't say much about outcalls, I don't do them.

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Re: Offering a sensual massage only and oral service?
« Reply #32 on: 09 October 2017, 12:14:07 pm »
After I quit escorting, I lost almost all of my clients. I couldn't understand why. It was rather disheartening as even the oldest, most regular ones dropped me in a moment without a second thought.
I had a few, who wanted to try the new offering, but in most cases the sessions weren't great.
Finally I realized that it's a very different service and just not for everyone.

Clients looking for an escort have a very different mindset and needs.
What is very important for me now is that within my new boundaries I can act accordingly to what I actually feel.
As an escort I was switching off from my feelings in some way, I mean it was still pleasant but I had to dissociate this mechanical pleasure from every other aspect of myself.
I had to shut up any feelings or thoughts that would interfere with my work.
I had to focus on attuning myself to whatever they needed.
And really, clients who book an escort don't really care how you're feeling, even the nice ones (or rather hypocrytical) who say that they want you to enjoy yourself. Nope. They only want to feel better about themselves.
At the end of the day they want to use someone (or something) to have their needs met.

What a massage gives me is boundaries. I can attune to what I really feel.
I can be okay with a client touching me if I really feel that I want it.
Clients in general are respectful of my boundaries, and careful about touching me. It made a big difference in my life.
Then there are the ones on the 'idiot spectrum', who just want to use you for a wank (emphasis on 'use'...), grab etc.

When doing a massage, I also can be giving without ending up being resentful, angry and feeling used.

Coming back to your question after this lenghty intro...
I lost almost all of my escorting clients. It was brutal and I was broke and desperate for quite some time.
These days it's okay-ish. I work longer hours and for less but I'm much happier.

Can't say much about outcalls, I don't do them.

i understand a lot! just wondering how you did the change...was difficult to do so...
guess you take time to made the change...

Do you had some self doubt about it?

seraphine

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Re: Offering a sensual massage only and oral service?
« Reply #33 on: 09 October 2017, 02:24:14 pm »
i understand a lot! just wondering how you did the change...was difficult to do so...
guess you take time to made the change...

Do you had some self doubt about it?

I went through a soul searching phase and I guess a lot of suppressed feelings just started to come to the surface.
I physically couldn't stand penetration anymore, it became so repulsive.
It was like my body's automatic response that I couldn't really understand at the time.

Initially I thought I will be doing sexy massages with kissing and BJ but I couldn't do that either.
So I went cold turkey. Threw away high heels, all stockings and toys.

No, I haven't had any doubts since.
It's been a mental/ emotional change on many levels. I stopped drinking alcohol for example.

For me, the way I functioned as an escort was by being used and suppressing my feelings that would otherwise interrupt with my survival (making money).
What I'm still trying to figure out is how this pattern has been generally operating in my life.
Sorry if it's not clear.

And also another thing - I wouldn't like to play a victim by saying that clients were using me.
I was using them just the same.
Why did I choose to play this game? I still don't know.