My most loyal little old regular has arranged a surprise day for me. I have guessed what it is- and it is basically something he is doing completely for me, and taking a lot of time planning the whole thing. There will be no sex involved at all.

I'm certain that we all do little things for good, long term and well paying regulars to show our gratitude and treat them well- you know, not noticing when the time ticks on a bit, or making them dinner, or buying the odd bottle of wine- little things, you know, like extra customer service?!

So, my question: If he is arranging this surprise completely for my benefit, and there is no sex involved, should I suggest a social only fee to show my gratitude? (I can't help feeling that the amount I would be getting paid is ridiculously unjustifiable for just turning up and being treated and brought lunch).

We have spent social time together in the past and then come back for sex, and I have never suggested a lower fee for this because the date has revolved around him and we have eventually had sex, so as far as I am concerned these were nothing but normal, fully paid arrangements.

Does anyone else see my point, or do you think I am just going to complicate matters to the extreme for future meetings? He hasn't suggested a lower fee by the way, and can definitely afford to pay my usual fee, but just wanted to get some thoughts and see whether I had become a cold robot or whether I was going soft! xx

Its all very well to have a social rate but I advise caution. Hes probably lovely but you have to be firm about "clothes on rate" and "clothes off rate." A regular once badgered me for a night out, I agreed the social fee. Rang me to say, "I bought some wine, thought we would start in the bedroom and take it from there. You did say it was ?X amount." (ie my social rate.) Cheeky beggar. The thing to bear in mind is hes your client not your boyfriend. Sorry if that sounds brutal but you must not be taken advantage of.
Having said that ive also had regular bring me soup and yoghurt when I wasnt feeling well, oh and the one who arrived early who didnt care I was still in my tracksuit with no makeup! So I understand what you mean.

We all get clients who do so little during the booking, that we feel guilty for taking the entire fee. I had made a thread a while back about  'refunding' if the booking turned out too short and easy LOL. Of course the answer from the ladies here was, no. In your case, you could offer a lower rate if you wanted, but I just cant see the reason to do so. Trust me, if a guy is running low of funds, he will ask for a discount, even the shyest of guys. Let him ask for it, or not.

I've accepted discounts. My regular once asked for a massage, which is a premium. Since he tips on every booking, I did it without the premium. A guy I met earlier this week previously was dissatisfied with our 1st session (he didnt say he was, but I could tell cause he ended it early). Then on the 2nd session, I gave him a discount. He claims to have only been able to get a certain amount out the atm, which caused me a moment of steam, but then I forgave him and just went forward with it. Plus he was cute! He was really happy the 2nd time and didnt want me to leave 

Just dont get into the habit of offering discounts if they ask. I find it becomes taxing to your mental and physical well-being (I think that was one of Brandy's words from another thread LOL). But its true though, so dont do it too often.

Yeah, like the others have said, and like you've mentioned above, charge the full rate otherwise he may take advantage of your charity in the future. If he can afford it, I'd milk him for all he's got, like you said, what he's planned for you isn't something you would do in your spare time.

Plus you know how much clients talk about us on other sites (eg punternet), if he tells others that you do give a discount for certain clients and arrangements, people will just take advantage of you and your time.

Clients, and men more generally, need to know where they stand!!
(I'm really into my male bashing at the mo! Sorry) lol

If he can afford it, I'd milk him for all he's got...

I'm sorry, but thats's a horrible attitude and I disagree with it vehemently. Whilst I agree that your client's financial stability isn't your concern, it still isn't something you take advantage of.

I personally would've offered him a discount, especially as there's no sex involved, and especially if he's a regular client. If nothing else than it being a reward for his loyalty and a show of appreciation for his continued business.

Maybe the reason he hasn't asked if there's a different rate is either because he's a true gent that thinks it's crass to ask, or he didn't know there was a choice.

I have always wanted to use that moving thingy.
Carla, remember what we define ourselves as being, an escort and for some an Escort, whichever, but somewhere on my site I have written in tiny letters, "I charge for my time.... "He is taking up your time, nice though he is, he is still a client! Well honey enjoy getting paid well for having a bit of fun. Also, if he does change his mind and decides seeing you in all your finery has gotten his boys bits stirring, you then don't have to adjust the price. Also, you can reward him for his loyalty with extra time on bookings. I mean is BT going to lower their rates because you are a loyal long time customer? I think not. I know this is a harder line that most, but the bloody minute you start to lower your prices, it is the beginning of the end.

It's odd, I think 'social only' escorting would be lots of fun and the lower fees would be totally right for that, but I find it quite hard to combine a lot of social time with bedroom time so I'm not too keen on offering things like dinner dates and overnights. I guess if you're seeing a show or something it's easy because you can sit back and watch but at a dinner date, I feel like it's harder to stay 100% Tempting Seductress without reverting back to my normal state (i.e. putting my pajamas on and eating pasta in front of the computer ). I do feel that getting too friendly with clients makes me feel weirder about eventually dragging them into the bedroom! Either I start to like them and think of them as my jolly pals, lol, or we never manage to click and I'm not sure which is more awkward.

I dunno, I'm just blabbing. It isn't really that much of an issue in the big scheme of things!

I mean is BT going to lower their rates because you are a loyal long time customer?

Actually yes they do, when asked. I'm with Virgin Media and I do the same. Every so often, when I see on telly all the new offers to reel in new customers, I call Virgin Media and ask them what are they going to do for us loyal customers that have been with them for years. That way I get the cost of my package reduced or have something added.

Latest case in point this week: Tesco's have doubled their clubcard points from this Monday; two points for every ? spent, as a way of thank you for their continued patronage.

So yeah, some big companies do do what they can to keep their loyal customers happy. Hardly unheard of.