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ladyjennaj

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Is it wise?
« on: 14 January 2012, 11:34:23 pm »
Is it wise to become friends with clients? As in, meet them outside of bookings for coffee and such?

I avoid it, because I did it once, and the guy turned out to be a fantasist who thought I'd fall for him  :-\ I get countless offers to go for lunchs or have coffees, and I was wondering what you ladies think of it.

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Re: Is it wise?
« Reply #1 on: 14 January 2012, 11:45:11 pm »
I have done it many times but once that happens I simply can't give them a service. Then I find I dont have time to meet them for coffee because I am busy seeing paying clients.
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Re: Is it wise?
« Reply #2 on: 15 January 2012, 12:00:44 am »
Is it wise to become friends with clients? As in, meet them outside of bookings for coffee and such?

I avoid it, because I did it once, and the guy turned out to be a fantasist who thought I'd fall for him  :-\ I get countless offers to go for lunchs or have coffees, and I was wondering what you ladies think of it.

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NO! It's not wise. The only thing in common you both have is the escorting. (he pays, you play, etc)


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Re: Is it wise?
« Reply #3 on: 15 January 2012, 12:01:13 am »
I have done it many times but once that happens I simply can't give them a service. Then I find I dont have time to meet them for coffee because I am busy seeing paying clients.

Good post.

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Re: Is it wise?
« Reply #4 on: 15 January 2012, 12:03:59 am »
I'm a service provider that charges for my time.  I would never meet on a social basis.  Men become deluded quickly if you start to blur the line between business and personal, so it's never wise to meet them outside of the professional parameters set, unless he's paying for the social meet of course.

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« Reply #5 on: 15 January 2012, 01:38:47 am »
Oh god I just can't, what is the point?

They only want a freebie and I'd prefer money to be honest.

I did become a friend with a client a long long time ago, but that was very very different.  He took me out for lunch, bought me things etc etc.  More like a sugar daddy than a client.
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Re: Is it wise?
« Reply #6 on: 15 January 2012, 02:30:47 am »
Is it wise to become friends with clients? As in, meet them outside of bookings for coffee and such?


No...I have better things to do with my time!

I have clients that I'd maybe be friends with in real life, but I'd rather have them as a client than a friend.  I wouldn't see a client for free for social time, because if they can see you for free, why would they still pay to see you? (ok, for sex, but they would book 30mins/1hr rather than the 2+hrs they might have booked...)

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Re: Is it wise?
« Reply #7 on: 15 January 2012, 07:26:21 am »
I have never and would never see a client outside of a booking,no chance.

Have better things to do with my time,simple as that x x x

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« Reply #8 on: 15 January 2012, 08:31:13 am »
No...I have better things to do with my time!

I have clients that I'd maybe be friends with in real life, but I'd rather have them as a client than a friend.  I wouldn't see a client for free for social time, because if they can see you for free, why would they still pay to see you? (ok, for sex, but they would book 30mins/1hr rather than the 2+hrs they might have booked...)

I would concurr with this; slightly different but one guy I stupidly saw for free after seeing him a few times (back when I was pretty new to the game) then never paid to see me again!  doh!

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« Reply #9 on: 15 January 2012, 08:32:50 am »
very good topic,certainly learnt from my mistakes.... some guys just want a freebee in the end! i do not work as a sex volunteer !

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« Reply #10 on: 15 January 2012, 08:36:33 am »
i do not work as a sex volunteer !

That made me chuckle!

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« Reply #11 on: 15 January 2012, 11:06:23 am »
Thanks for the input girls!  :-*

I often find myself tempted, but only because of the solitary nature of the job, you know? I find it hard to meet people outside of work, because I'm always working.  ::) Is this stupid? x

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Re: Is it wise?
« Reply #12 on: 15 January 2012, 11:31:46 am »
Is it wise to become friends with clients? As in, meet them outside of bookings for coffee and such?

Its a definite NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO from me too.

Guys will flatter you by asking you to be a friend but really they are just massaging your ego so that they can get in your knickers FOC .................... or ..................................... they have no friends themselves and you have to ask yourself why.  :(
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Re: Is it wise?
« Reply #13 on: 15 January 2012, 11:33:02 am »
Thanks for the input girls!  :-*

I often find myself tempted, but only because of the solitary nature of the job, you know? I find it hard to meet people outside of work, because I'm always working.  ::) Is this stupid? x

You need to make time for a social life, I fall into the trap of not going out enough, not seeing friends because of the odd hours. The solution is to give yourself time off, or stop offering evening appointments for a while, if that's too much just give yourself 2 nights off each week and join a club or take part in an activity.

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Re: Is it wise?
« Reply #14 on: 15 January 2012, 11:34:10 am »
I often find myself tempted, but only because of the solitary nature of the job, you know? I find it hard to meet people outside of work, because I'm always working.  ::) Is this stupid? x

It's not stupid - everyone needs friends!

My experiences are the same as the others posted above - if I feel like I like a client as a friend (and it's happened once or twice, back when I was a newbie) then I find it impossible to give them a service so things just disintegrate in awkwardness, cos he feels bad that I don't fancy him enough to shag him for free and then he can't even pay for a booking because I don't want to accept his money because I would find servicing him sooo weird! It's not a good situation.

I'm kinda friends with a long-term reg who is more like a sugar-daddy, but that relationship has very clearly-defined boundaries and now that I'm no longer new to escorting, I know how important those boundaries are for making things work between escort and client. I would never treat him like one of my female friends because that would just be sooo inappropriate. He doesn't want to know about period pains or a blister I got from my running shoes!

I specifically avoid blurring any lines between 'friend' and 'client' because once a client becomes a friend, I become my real self around him and my real self probably doesn't fancy him so my real self isn't going to be his free slutty whore. And he'll probably be really disappointed about that! So a friendship can never actually occur, if you see what I mean? It's literally impossible.

Making friends with other prossies though? It's really essential. It's not easy to find women you really get along with and who you can trust but it's worth persisting because at the end of the day, if I didn't meet up with my friends at least twice a week to drink wine and eat food and laugh about the ridiculousness of everything, I'd go completely insane. I'd probably start trying to lock clients in my flat to force them to talk to me! There'd be all these terrified men locked in my living room trying to climb out the window while I brandish drinking glasses at them and yell, "SHARE SOME WINE WITH ME, LADIES!" ;D

You need to make time for a social life, I fall into the trap of not going out enough, not seeing friends because of the odd hours. The solution is to give yourself time off, or stop offering evening appointments for a while, if that's too much just give yourself 2 nights off each week and join a club or take part in an activity.

Yes, exactly!
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