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The Bachelor

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I want to quit. What can I do? I hate this
« on: 19 August 2012, 06:42:02 am »
Just here almost in tears. Thought Saturday was going to be making money. Instead I'm here alone in a hotel on a SATURDAY NIGHT with no clients. I'm very lonley and very upset. resentful. remorseful. regretful. That I even went on tour right around the weekend. Normally I'd be out having a good damn time. Makes me so angry that a client would stand me up for all this time and not follow thru. It's PSYCHOTIC! I don't want to work in a job that deals with psychotic, horny men all day long.

Anyhow, I haven't anything to put on my resume for 4 years now. What would be a starting point? What can I even put I used to do on an application? That's mainly what's stopping me from getting out, is just not knowing what to say I did and then be able to actually back it up with references other than clients.

I'm tired of this though. I have no desire for it anymore.

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Re: I want to quit. What can I do? I hate this
« Reply #1 on: 19 August 2012, 11:24:37 am »
You can out that you were self employed you dont have to tell them exactly what.

As long as you have been declaring your income that is?

It's never good to leave a blank if in doubt you can put "Career break". Though 4 years might seem rather long and put an employer off.

Put self employed and think of various odd jobs you could have been doing. (I would put more than one job as again it would seem odd to an employer that you were self employed for 4 years and are now stopping)

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Re: I want to quit. What can I do? I hate this
« Reply #2 on: 19 August 2012, 11:46:05 am »
Just say that you've been travelling and that you were self-employed like friday said before that.

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Re: I want to quit. What can I do? I hate this
« Reply #3 on: 19 August 2012, 11:53:22 am »
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I don't want to work in a job that deals with psychotic, horny men all day long.

blaine: I don't think the job is full of "psychotic horny men". Of course we all know there are a few and should be avoided at all costs. In my case most of my clients are pretty decent chaps, there's a few "unpolite ones" of course but any job working with the public you're ALWAYS going to deal with a lot of crap, rude behaviour, horrible people etc... Any customer service person will tell you this: Working with the public is a challenge and NOT for everybody. Being a WG is not different. When you work 9 to 5 job in sales you can mentally switch off at the end of the shift, go home "end off" and whatever you do you'll always  get that same paycheck at the end of the month. But when you're self employed the amount of bullshit rises to a "whole new level", meaning: you go to sleep with the job and you wake up with the job. You need to be much more self disciplined, professional, tough and assertive than a "9 to fiver" ( a "zen atttitude"  doesn't hurt either :-). By your posts it sounds like this is not for you. And there's nothing wrong with that! Your personality sounds like it's not cut for this and deep down you're hurting because of it. And you know it.

So find something that will make you happier (something that doesn't involve working with the public or giving blowjobs to strangers). You can always write on your resume that you were a personal assistant to someone (find a friend willing to back you up), or you were a nannie, or you were self employed filling computer data at home. Just use your imagination and back up your story properly in case your new boss calls asking for references (which will very possibly happen). You can also ask your government for a small loan, go to school for a couple years and learn some specific craft.

And good luck with whatever venture you choose. Look at it as an exciting "new part of your life". And never look back. Take your WG self-employed days as a good learning experience.

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« Last Edit: 19 August 2012, 12:57:24 pm by Ana30 »
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Re: I want to quit. What can I do? I hate this
« Reply #4 on: 19 August 2012, 01:47:56 pm »
Why not start doing some voluntary work so that at least you have something to put on your CV.  For the last four years you can say you left work to look after a family member who was/is disabled etc or you can say you travelled although 4 years is not really believable for travelling.
At least by doing some voluntary work whilst escorting you can gain some experience in the work field and it always looks good ona CV that you were willing to work for free to gain experience.

I though you already had it worked out as you said before you were ready to quit and was only working one more month to get some cash and then were leaving. 
Either that or do a job anyone can get for a while. ie in a burger bar as I know they do not exactly care much who they employ as it is hard to get staff.  The money is crap n=but again it is yet another thing to have on your CV when you finally find the job you want.
I do think you need to quit escorting right now as you really are not in the right place emotionally.  This is easily seen by the way you talk about your clients.  No matter how bad my day/week/month has been I do not think I have ever thought of my clients that way.  Yes we get the odd bad one but that should be very rare if we do our checks properly ( and remember over here we cant check as well as you can over there as guys here would rather poke their eyes out than give us there real details). Therefor you should mainly be seeing decent guys that just want a service and you talk about them as if they are monsters.  For your own sake get out now, today. 
I do nto know you and am not judging you but you seem to be suffering from an awful burn out, one of the worst I have ever heard and therefor should not being doing this job right now.  Obviously I may be wrong as I can only go from what you post but that is enough to see this job is not for you and if you keep doing it whilst in burnout you may make yourself ill both mentally and physically.
Take a break, do something else even if it is flipping burgers for a while. 
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Re: I want to quit. What can I do? I hate this
« Reply #5 on: 19 August 2012, 04:00:44 pm »
Just here almost in tears. Thought Saturday was going to be making money. Instead I'm here alone in a hotel on a SATURDAY NIGHT with no clients. I'm very lonley and very upset. resentful. remorseful. regretful. That I even went on tour right around the weekend. Normally I'd be out having a good damn time. Makes me so angry that a client would stand me up for all this time and not follow thru. It's PSYCHOTIC! I don't want to work in a job that deals with psychotic, horny men all day long.

Anyhow, I haven't anything to put on my resume for 4 years now. What would be a starting point? What can I even put I used to do on an application? That's mainly what's stopping me from getting out, is just not knowing what to say I did and then be able to actually back it up with references other than clients.

I'm tired of this though. I have no desire for it anymore.


I totally sympathize with you hun, as was feeling similar to you. That is the risk with touring as can't take others words because unfortunately they lie wasting valuable time. What about taking a two week holiday?. The way I deal with them now is not to take seriously when they book. It's like yes ok see you soon kinda thing, even some I don't bother writing down lol. Things will get better if you want them to. This is the reason why I don't tour now much.

It starts with being content with ourselves then once that is established every thing else will fall in to place.
« Last Edit: 19 August 2012, 04:06:12 pm by meetingdiversity »

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Re: I want to quit. What can I do? I hate this
« Reply #6 on: 19 August 2012, 04:15:04 pm »
Blaine i had a day/evening like that in oxford,   not one client called, all i had were enquires and twasters  i started to really get upset, I dont tour there again, but the next place i was rushed off my feet. relax if you can by switching youre phone off  and watch tv and have something to eat  forget today and focus on cheering yourself up, thats what i ended up doing. soak in the bath if you havnt already.
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Re: I want to quit. What can I do? I hate this
« Reply #7 on: 21 August 2012, 08:15:30 pm »
to be honest I would just say you did cleaning cash in hand then get a few friends/relatives to lie for you and act as references,if that's possible-My mum actually has been doing cash in hand cleaning for about 15 years and has nothing to prove she's ever worked apart from references from her old cleaning people and she just got a job as a carer,they're short of people wanting to do caring I think,there are loads of companies advertising at the moment-my mum only had to do a couple of weeks of training and a criminal record check and she started work!she says it's not worth the money,there is a lot of driving involved and you only get paid for the time you spend with clients but it's a good responsible job to do for 6 months and then put on your cv to help get something else

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Re: I want to quit. What can I do? I hate this
« Reply #8 on: 21 August 2012, 09:45:22 pm »
to be honest I would just say you did cleaning cash in hand then get a few friends/relatives to lie for you and act as references,if that's possible-My mum actually has been doing cash in hand cleaning for about 15 years and has nothing to prove she's ever worked apart from references from her old cleaning people and she just got a job as a carer,they're short of people wanting to do caring I think,there are loads of companies advertising at the moment-my mum only had to do a couple of weeks of training and a criminal record check and she started work!she says it's not worth the money,there is a lot of driving involved and you only get paid for the time you spend with clients but it's a good responsible job to do for 6 months and then put on your cv to help get something else

TT for future reference the OP is in the USA, so obviously it's a little different over there  :)

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