Hello everyone,

I know this topic is often in the forum, but I was really curious about your point of view.
So I never date clients outside work, due to covid I really am struggling tho as I couldn’t see friends and family. So tonight I decided to accept going out with a client (for free) the guy was lovely: invited me to the restaurant, he is smart, good looking. During our date he lied about his age, I found out that he is 12 years older than what he previously told me. This made the date take a different turn, as I was looking for a guy my age I heard he was divorced etc (may be with kids). He also told me that when he was younger he tried being an escort boy. It gave me the impression of someone not very looking for something serious, but more for free sex basically. We didn’t have sex, he did push a little but gave up.
And now what? He probably wants to see me again but I think I understand the guy is interested by free sex only: actually quite cocky to think I want to see him like that but nevermind.
How could I get out from this situation?
Thanks 

That should be relatively simple. He now knows he won’t get sex if he doesn’t pay. If he rings again, simply say something like: “I’d love to see you again, but on a strictly professional basis. I’m sure you understand.” He can then say yes or no. I don’t see a problem.

Treat him just like any civvie date, tell him he's a nice guy but.. "you'd rather be friends for the time being (and that includes no sex)". Tell him you would love to meet him as friends for now. If he's interested in you he'll meet you, if he's only looking for free booty he'll vanish.

Oh and someone who "shaves" off 12 years is is a huge red flag.

If he contacts you, I'd say something like 'Dinner was nice, thank you. How long did you want to book for...?' i.e. make it clear shagging will be for cash only.

If he contacts you, I'd say something like 'Dinner was nice, thank you. How long did you want to book for...?' i.e. make it clear shagging will be for cash only.

Definitely put the boundaries back.

I am wondering if for the future a good idea to agree at the start that ok we will go out, however if either of us doesn't want to go forward it's back to business as usual?

Had a similar scenario recently but despite this progressing to something more I never let him off the hook with paying. In the end didn’t work out so wasn’t at a financial loss but had to cut it off as it was too awkward and he was too invested in it.

Well I had no news so far, so the guy might have moved on since he didn’t get free sex 

Tell him your services are not for free and time is money you don't owe him anything so don't waste your energy on him baby girl.