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How do you handle clients calling you names during sex?
« on: 28 July 2012, 09:11:55 am »
This has been an unusually busy week (as in, opposite of slow) for me. Been seeing clients about every day in some cases twice a day all week long. It's like I'm on tour but I'm home! However, seems to have bought out some weirdos.

Anyhow, had a couple clients call me names during sex. I brushed it off rather quickly, but I was still a bit irked about it. One happened to be in the middle of a strap on session called me a 'bastard' sort of in a exasperation of pain/pleasure and then today a client asked, "so how long have you been a hooker". That almost got me riled up.

However, both clients were generally polite and mindful otherwise...except the one who called me a bastard did kind of mess me about booking the appointment and then he told me he'd book again the next day (he was visiting) and then texted me, tried to get me to talk dirty and I said I was in public. Then he never re-booked.

Would you end the appointment immediately without refund? I'm like for fuck's sake...these guys are utterly disgusting and I wouldn't touch their nasty ass, how dare they call me a name!

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Re: How do you handle clients calling you names during sex?
« Reply #1 on: 28 July 2012, 12:00:40 pm »
Well, unless it's something you are comfortable with a client calling you, then I'd say - give them ONE firm warning "Do Not speak to me like that again" , and if they do it again then terminate the appointment without refund.

I cringe at being called "babe" or "darling" etc during an appointment but I'll put up with it and not say anything as it's not derogatory and I'm getting paid to spend time with someone who would call someone they hardly know "babe" !!  ;D ..... but if anyone called me "bastard" they'd be out the door within the minute!!

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Re: How do you handle clients calling you names during sex?
« Reply #2 on: 28 July 2012, 04:25:13 pm »
 A guy called me "sexy babe" whilst ontop of me  then asked me did i have kids?  to which i replied,  "do you need to be asking that now in the middle of sex"? he said" oh youre pussy is tight thats all im suprised", I ended the session quick and told him he put me off...
it wasnt the name that bothered me !! ::)

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Re: How do you handle clients calling you names during sex?
« Reply #3 on: 28 July 2012, 04:39:54 pm »
I agree with Lou Lou, if you arent happy with something, you need to be firm and request politely they stop doing it.

I had an incall a while back where, when I was sucking the guy off, he started calling me a "cheap little whore" and "you dirty fucking bitch". I told him immediately to stop or I would bite his cock off.... lol only joking... seriously, I just asked him to stop with that, thankfully he did.

If they continue to do it, end the booking and dont see them again.

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Re: How do you handle clients calling you names during sex?
« Reply #4 on: 28 July 2012, 04:45:23 pm »
I had "dirty white slag suck my black cock like the whore you are".  I stopped immediately and told him to get out my house. 

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Re: How do you handle clients calling you names during sex?
« Reply #5 on: 28 July 2012, 04:47:11 pm »
Sticks and stones.......................................

Has never bothered me one iota, I in turn call them names too, many guys are turned on by this and if this is all it takes to turn them on then I could give a monkeys.

Mind you,on saying that, I've just read little peanuts post and I wouldnt be as disrespectful  as that.

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Re: How do you handle clients calling you names during sex?
« Reply #6 on: 28 July 2012, 04:53:53 pm »
I think it's just a bit disrespectful though Lady Lust. I mean, sure, if you're doing the whole sub/dom thing, then that's fine, but I think it's quite rude of clients to come out with that... you are providing them with a service, I mean, would you start yelling "You dirty bitch" at a shop assistant"? LOL! :)

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Re: How do you handle clients calling you names during sex?
« Reply #7 on: 28 July 2012, 04:56:03 pm »
 Yeah Lady Lust, I don't normally mind a little bit.  Many of my clients get off on calling me a little slut etc.  I think it depends on the context its used in. 

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Re: How do you handle clients calling you names during sex?
« Reply #8 on: 28 July 2012, 05:18:36 pm »
[...] would you start yelling "You dirty bitch" at a shop assistant"? LOL! :)

Surely that depends on whether you're shagging the shop assistant?

Seriously, I doubt many of the clients saying this stuff would speak to us this way on the phone or when waiting for the bus but it's not really the same thing, is it? I think the problem is that whilst they're very turned on and get carried away doing all the stuff that is far more acceptable when one is, they forget that most of the time we're trying to remember whether or not there's any mango chutney left for later on and the effect isn't quite the same. Some of the stuff I must have said to Mr Amy over the years (and vice versa) would make a police horse faint ;D.

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Re: How do you handle clients calling you names during sex?
« Reply #9 on: 28 July 2012, 05:32:57 pm »
I dont know if other femmes are the same but when I orgasm I sound as though I have Tourette's as my language starts to go blue. :-[ ;D
In most just see it as an 'add on' to the service,  I never take it personally.  Now if they were being racially abusive then I would have a problem and it does work both ways.
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Re: How do you handle clients calling you names during sex?
« Reply #10 on: 28 July 2012, 07:37:52 pm »
Different stokes....I love it!  ;D

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Re: How do you handle clients calling you names during sex?
« Reply #11 on: 28 July 2012, 08:11:47 pm »
I dont know if other femmes are the same but when I orgasm I sound as though I have Tourette's as my language starts to go blue. :-[ ;D
In most just see it as an 'add on' to the service,  I never take it personally.  Now if they were being racially abusive then I would have a problem and it does work both ways.

I am exactly the same! F***ing hell! for f***s sake, f*** off you f***er!!! is quite normal for me ;D

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Re: How do you handle clients calling you names during sex?
« Reply #12 on: 28 July 2012, 08:13:06 pm »
I dont know if other femmes are the same but when I orgasm I sound as though I have Tourette's as my language starts to go blue. :-[ ;D
In most just see it as an 'add on' to the service,  I never take it personally.  Now if they were being racially abusive then I would have a problem and it does work both ways.

I am exactly the same! F***ing hell! for f***s sake, f*** off you f***er!!! is quite normal for me ;D

Yep that sounds about right.  ;D
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Re: How do you handle clients calling you names during sex?
« Reply #13 on: 28 July 2012, 08:34:13 pm »
I have been asked in the past, at the end of a meet, how long i've been in prostitution? to which I replied "that is such an ugly word, I much prefer escorting, it's sounds so much more polite and respectful, don't you think?" he went away with his little cock between his legs

Yesterday I was told to "ride my cock like a slut" so I said "i'll ride it like a slut you dirty little boy" he pulled out and said "i've gone soft" aaaah karma is a bitch lol   ;D

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Re: How do you handle clients calling you names during sex?
« Reply #14 on: 28 July 2012, 08:42:44 pm »
I have been asked in the past, at the end of a meet, how long i've been in prostitution? to which I replied "that is such an ugly word, I much prefer escorting, it's sounds so much more polite and respectful, don't you think?" he went away with his little cock between his legs

The label 'prostitute' is much more accurate to our job role than 'escort'. I wouldn't have been offended if a client had used the term. It wouldn't have even registered on my radar. It's what I am, I have no illusions to the contrary.

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