Hi hon

Unless you know other escorts on Jersey, no one is going to be able to put themselves in your position. You are rather unique.

As it is such a small place, and I am sure that everyone seems to know everyone, and the risk of running into someone who knows someone who know you is high. So, how I would vet a client in London, would be totally different to how you would, as I vet mainly from a safety point of view. You however have to vet the clients to make sure you don't know them!

Is it possible you could perhaps look at marketing yourself towards the business traveller rather than the local market? It would perhaps make it easier for you...

Also, I doubt your potential clients mind your questions... as they are probably wondering the same thing about you.

Carissa
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Living in (what I imagine to be) a small place I always ask the client where they are coming from when they ask what area I am in - with regard to directions. I will go in with something like 'I am easy to find, there are a few ways to get here, where are you coming from?'
I ask because if they say my area I will rethink seeing them.
Phonecalls are always a must, even though I hate talking on the phone really, I do so even if I have had an email ask, I will ask they call me. I want to know if I recognise their voice!

It's perhaps easier to ask questions such as this as I have the M4 and most are coming down that way - To date (touch wood) nobody I have seen has come from my actual area, that I am aware of anyhow.
I think when you first start out at this, your slightly paranoid that your Uncle will knock at your door! Or the neighbours will suss you out. They do not know what your up to - indeed, unless you have a neighbourhood watch freak sat in his/her window directly across from your place, nobody really pays any attention - we are all too busy getting on with our lives I guess, to take much notice of what goes on over the road unless it's totally in your face
Good luck. Try not to worry so much, it's early days for you, you will find your feet and find your own way of asking questions.
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thanks girls... My first client was pretty repulsive, but i managed fine, i wouldn't ever see him again as i felt because i couldn't get into it myself i couldn't give a great service?  I just wonder how others cope with the repulsion factor?

Jezebel, if you're getting a 'repulsion factor' at all, you're going to really struggle. It would be incredibly naive to assume that you will be physically attracted to the majority of your customers, and whilst first bookings are always going to be a bit of a learning curve, if you really can't find anything nice about your client to concentrate on (and the number of people I have met in my entire life with absolutely no redeeming features at all I can count on one hand) then you need to seriously think about whether you are cut out for this or not.

I know the money all seems great, but it is a very tough job, and you will risk seriously damaging your mental health if you continue (which is probably a big factor in why some ladies end up turning to alcohol and drugs). Don't be too hard on yourself  - even if you think you're just muddling along, if you're getting repeat custom you're clearly doing something right! But please do consider if this is the right thing for you - the fact that you even think it is acceptable to refer to a client as 'repulsive' suggest to me that may not be.

As far as 'vetting' goes - I live in a small town (population slightly higher than Jersey, I think) and I agree with Cassie; if the worst happened and you did come face to face with someone you know, how likely is it they are going to tell everyone that they have been to visit a prostitute? They would probably have more to lose than y0u if word got out. It hasn't happened to me yet, although I was convinced I recognised a voice on the phone once (an ex-boyfriend's mate, so not outside the realms of possiblity) and turned the booking down. I rely mainly on having a good view of the approach to my building, and I wouldn't hesitate to politely explain to someone on the phone if I had recognised them and they would have to leave. If I was in your part of the world, I'd be more worried about the law than anything else, tbh.

thanks for all your help girls! amd i think the term repulsive was in hindsight a little harsh.. mmmm.

I think the other ladies made some very sensible comments....  clients ,as a rule, do not like to give out personal information & you may be putting off potential regulars with your questions. 
it Is very difficult working in a small close knit community, but having done it myself on & off prior to moving to London recently I can say in all honesty that it Is possible.  Generally the guys in these towns/villages are just as freaked as you are about people finding out what they get up to!  (imagine the scandal!!!!!)    If you think you recognise someone's voice then just put them off by upping your price or saying you are unavailable  at that time, then log the number they called on in your phone so you can ignore any future calls from them. It helps if you have a good long view of the approach to your home/place of work...that way you can look out for them at time of booking & if you recognise them you can quickly call to cancel , explaining that you know eachother & can't see them for obvious reasons. Most likely he will hotfoot it back up the road grateful he didn't come face to face with you!   I did once have a difficult situation with a guy i knew....he turned up for booking wearing a bike helmet & didn't take it off til the front door was shut....turned out to be someone i knew very well & who knew All my friends!  I summoned all my dignity & put it to him that it was in His best interests not to mention this to anyone as his family would be mortified & he could ofcourse count on my discretion also....he went a rather deep shade of pink...put his helmet back on & sheepishly made a quick exit!    after that i was a lot more vigilant! & I found it easier & a lot safer to only see 'mature gents' .. far less likelihood of being found out!
Must say though...might be best to work away from your home ground...especially as your partner knows nothing of your little dalliances! could be messy if he found out...
 Hope it all works out for you though...keep us all posted...

                                      CharlotteVander

                                                      ~:o) x

If it makes you feel better (and no matter what I've said) I'm sure most ladies have had at least one unfortunate booking where a client has unexpectedly knocked them sideways.
The whole thing was really bizarre, but when I mentioned it to another lady I know she had had a similar experience with a very pleasant young man who had booked her and she had no way of explaining it either. Mr Amy however, helpfully speculated that I must possess the valuable instinct to sniff out a wrong 'un. 'You know. Like dogs.' 

There have been two guys where the end of the hour couldn't come quick enough, but like you Amy I am pretty sure they didn't notice a thing. Both were perfect gentlemen and neither was an ogre, one was actually a real hottie, but something felt wrong and I actually refused a repeat booking from one of them.

Shame on Mr Amy, lol, I can't think of you as a dog Amy, it's a woman's intuition.

Well, a friend of mine who lives over 50 miles away from me on the other side of Manchester  freaked me out not so long ago, when she was showing us a picture of her bf, whom she was going to introduce to us at a party the next week - and , yep, he was a client of mine. I posted on here to see what the other ladies thought I should do.

I took the advice to not say anything and not let on I knew him.

The party went well and we both were pleased to meet each other for the firsat time in our lives and the only hitch was when he groped my bum when we all hugged goodbye.

The little sleazebag called me the next day and tried to book me, when I refused he threatend to tell my friends what I do, I counter threatened him to tell my friend that he had been my client while he was seeing her.

He told me she wouldn't believe me and to be honest I think he would have been right, but I stood my ground and haven't heard from him since and my friends are all behaving normally, so I don't think he has said anything.

The reason I'm telling this story is that I think bumping into clients will happed or it won't whether it be a large or small area, but as a number of ladies have said before most clients are going to be as paranoid about people finding out as we are if not more.