But I forgot we are girls and therefore must be nice and please.
And please this not by any means a critique to the mods (i think they do an amazing job here), but I just wanted to point out what it seems like a cultural & gender double standard. iT'S ok if the guys do it but it's not ok when the girls do it.
It's nothing to do with us being 'nice' or even 'girls' (and I'm nearly forty and haven't been a girl for 20+ years) and having to be all sweetness and light. This is a support and advice forum, and we do not want or need racist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic or otherwise prejudiced and offensive posting here.
What other forums permit on their pages is nothing whatsoever to do with us and is completely irrelevant; I doubt that anybody in their right mind thinks it's OK 'when the guys do it' anyway and I know I've reported plenty of offensive posts myself over the years - I continue to do so now. As ever, if somebody has a problem with the content on other boards, take it up with them. They have a Report button just like we do.
EDIT: And rereading, this has run it's course and is not going to go round in circles - there is ample material here to read both here and in the linked thread, and since the OP has had plenty of opinions to think about there will be no need for any more of the same.
Locked.