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Guys who ask for bareback, to make sure you say no
« on: 04 November 2013, 02:17:10 pm »
I've seen this mentioned a few times in the forum and on other sites as well... That some of the men who request bareback services, aren't really interested them. Like, certain guys are just trying to check and see if you ever have unprotected sex with other punters, before they decide to book an appointment. Which seems smart, in my mind. Although I suspect this has happened to me, I really can't say for certain.

I hate the men who ask for bareback. I worry about them manipulating new girls, and suspect some are intentionally spreading disease. I think they're the most ignorant, entitled and self centered jerks alive, because unless they're maliciously spreading STDs, then they foolishly believe that 1) she uses condoms with EVERYONE ELSE, 2) they're the first punter that ISN'T going to use one, and 3) she must get tested like, once a week, because an escort would never agree unless she knew she was clean...so, obviously there's nothing to worry about! Idiots! I like to mess with these guys, and try to fuck with their heads. Like I'll agree and play along at first, and then I'll progressively talk more sarcastically: "Of course I got tested recently, I'd admit if I might not be clean! A prostitute wouldn't lie to you, especially not to get your business. We're always honest about everything: our names, how old we are, our orgasms!" Other times, I just lash out and tell them how stupid they are.

I'm afraid I may have turned off some potentially safe clients who were just doing their homework. So I was wondering, do any of you have clients who have actually told you they were that guy asking about bareback, and later contacted you from their real number/email to book the appointment? Or have you ever responded to the request with "No, I only provide covered services" only to have him say something like, "OK good, just wanted to make sure. Can I see you today?"

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Re: Guys who ask for bareback, to make sure you say no
« Reply #1 on: 04 November 2013, 04:10:17 pm »
i had one client who asked if i do bareback said hell no and gave him a lecture, he said he only asked as his friend saw a lady and she jumped on top of him with out putting a condom on his mate/the client. i found that story odd & refused to see him.
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Re: Guys who ask for bareback, to make sure you say no
« Reply #2 on: 04 November 2013, 04:14:27 pm »
I have a strict rule - any guy that asks for bareback is immediately added to my banned list.

Don't want to take the risk of condom splitting or guy trying to remove the condom.

It also worries me that people doing bareback ( no offence to any escorts who do this service, that's there choice) aren't worried about catching anything, as they already have it! They are also some malicious clients that have caught an std from a working girl and the decided to spread it to all working girls as revenge.

I think clients do sometimes ask if you do bareback as a test as they only want to see a "safe" girl. So if you offer them bareback, they won't see you.

Of course there are some punters who just think with their d**k and want  natural feeling sex and are in denial about the risks of catching an STD.


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Re: Guys who ask for bareback, to make sure you say no
« Reply #3 on: 04 November 2013, 04:19:47 pm »
this is a killer for them yes let clients go BB LOL with the full use of a femidom :) so technically its not :) use them for the older clients

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Re: Guys who ask for bareback, to make sure you say no
« Reply #4 on: 04 November 2013, 05:41:51 pm »
I have had some guys ask this and when I say no and sorry but I cant see you they then use the excuse I was just checking as I was worried you might.  To me that is bullshit because if I said yes I know damn well they would have booked me.  A guy who was worried would ask something more along the lines of 'I am a little nervous and just wanted to check youd o always use condoms' NOT 'do you do bareback'
I may risk losing a good client or I may well have turned away a barebacker but either way I always refuse to see them and save their number under BB NO.
I gave the benefit of the doubt once when I was quite new and he gave me the excuse he was just checking and during the booking he tried three times to BB me so I had to throw him out.  Never will I even risk that happening.  It makes the whole booking totally uncomfortable as I spend the whole time trying to ensure he doesn't get too close to my bits just incase
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Re: Guys who ask for bareback, to make sure you say no
« Reply #5 on: 04 November 2013, 05:47:48 pm »
I think I have had two that asked if I do BB and I immediately said never, before I could say more he said great thats good to hear and he booked. I am confident some are only enquiring for their own peace of mind. Those that want it normally send texts or mail which don, t get an answered.

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Re: Guys who ask for bareback, to make sure you say no
« Reply #6 on: 04 November 2013, 05:57:45 pm »
I think the smart ones would use two numbers anyway

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Re: Guys who ask for bareback, to make sure you say no
« Reply #7 on: 04 November 2013, 06:36:38 pm »
I don't think I've had anyone who's asked me this go through with a booking, I have been asked within bookings and the answer is always the same. "No". Sometimes they'll rebook, sometimes I never hear anything from them again. Unsure if it's linked.

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Re: Guys who ask for bareback, to make sure you say no
« Reply #8 on: 05 November 2013, 12:10:46 am »
I can confirm there is a website on the internet, that part of their turn on is infecting people with H.I.V. ( a small group, minority of weirdo's, thank god) The act I think is called 'stealth pozzing'. I read a discussion, it involved guys giving tips on how to damage condoms with Vaseline,  holes, taking condoms off during sex e.t.c. It is important to REFUSE AND BLOCK anyone asking for bareback. Always use your own condoms, Mates skyns are the best, as the aren't latex, feel like it and are quite thin. Always be vigilant. These individuals don't care about s.t.d's and a small minority as said above deliberately try and infect  people.

p.s Not trying to scare anyone and stigma and prejudice to people with H.I.V / Aids is wrong.

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Re: Guys who ask for bareback, to make sure you say no
« Reply #9 on: 05 November 2013, 12:19:37 am »
I doubt there's many people who haven't seen links to that site before, not that we will be posting them here. As for condoms I also use Skyns, but everybody's different and there's no such thing as the 'best' for all. I'd much rather use Pasante Sensiva, but I'm waiting for the prices to come down a bit before I switch :).

And whilst I appreciate you were really talking about your own feelings rather than meaning to sound like you were telling others what to do, I'll decide who I refuse and block, thank you.

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Re: Guys who ask for bareback, to make sure you say no
« Reply #10 on: 05 November 2013, 07:58:43 am »
I can confirm there is a website on the internet, that part of their turn on is infecting people with H.I.V. ( a small group, minority of weirdo's, thank god) The act I think is called 'stealth pozzing'. I read a discussion, it involved guys giving tips on how to damage condoms with Vaseline,  holes, taking condoms off during sex e.t.c. It is important to REFUSE AND BLOCK anyone asking for bareback. Always use your own condoms, Mates skyns are the best, as the aren't latex, feel like it and are quite thin. Always be vigilant. These individuals don't care about s.t.d's and a small minority as said above deliberately try and infect  people.

p.s Not trying to scare anyone and stigma and prejudice to people with H.I.V / Aids is wrong.

I read something like that on another escort site. It sure made be more observant but I don't operate in fear how you write reads.

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Re: Guys who ask for bareback, to make sure you say no
« Reply #11 on: 05 November 2013, 08:04:30 am »
Any barebacker questions are given an educational lecture.  That they won't be wanting when they catch aids. And also it will be their own fault for being carless. I don't see these at all, many like the bare feeling and can get with others who offer. So it just makes them ask more. I explain playing with fire it's a time bomb.