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neutralC

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Getting an assistant
« on: 21 March 2019, 07:01:15 am »
Hello. Is anyone from here working mainly with their own site and not showing phone number anywhere has experience with assistants?

I am only part time escort and I get way too many enquiries, can't deal with all that admin anymore therefore next year I am thinking of getting assistant.

How does it work for you? I don't even know what the costs would be for that in UK. I am talking about 1-2h of time the assistant would spend a week. That would include mainly answering emails and some screening.
What's your experience?
I know it will be very little of escorts who could afford of that but I am interested in your experiences. Thank you.

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Re: Getting an assistant
« Reply #1 on: 21 March 2019, 07:21:45 am »
Can't give you any help yet, other than saying that this is an area of work I would like to get into. X

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Re: Getting an assistant
« Reply #2 on: 21 March 2019, 08:54:53 am »
Try seeking/offering. I saw an ad ages ago for a lady offering those services. In terms of price, basic office admin doesn't pay a lot (speaking from experience) around £10 an hour. You'd have to be careful making sure the person has experience, knows the tone you use with clients, your services and schedule really well etc.

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Re: Getting an assistant
« Reply #3 on: 21 March 2019, 10:53:06 am »
Tried and binned. She was on commission and accepting all the cockroaches going. Auto reply is your friend. These assistants are known to turn nasty when you decide you no longer want them x
I'm glad I got all the Cynthia Payne books before the prices rocked to sky high.

Ruby Redhead

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Re: Getting an assistant
« Reply #4 on: 21 March 2019, 12:26:13 pm »
Nope, I’d never trust anyone else to vet my clients!

I’d suggest putting as much info on your site/profile to stop as many enquires. I keep my availability listed which helps a lot. I got fed up as answering stupid messages like “are you available next Tuesday”

Put in place strict enquiry process. Then if people don’t follow they’re probably not worth your time anyway so you can ignore.

If you’re still getting loads after that, put your prices up!  ;D ;D

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Re: Getting an assistant
« Reply #5 on: 21 March 2019, 02:39:44 pm »
Nope, I’d never trust anyone else to vet my clients!

I’d suggest putting as much info on your site/profile to stop as many enquires. I keep my availability listed which helps a lot. I got fed up as answering stupid messages like “are you available next Tuesday”

Put in place strict enquiry process. Then if people don’t follow they’re probably not worth your time anyway so you can ignore.

If you’re still getting loads after that, put your prices up!  ;D ;D

This is exactly what I do, and it helps a lot. I am still getting a huge amount of enquiries mainly all leading to bookings because there is no messing about with time wasters. I'm considering putting my prices up now too.

neutralC

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Re: Getting an assistant
« Reply #6 on: 22 March 2019, 08:12:03 am »
That's the thing. I just increased my rates and I am going to increase it again in autumn.

My site doesn't have my email or number, it only has contact form with many tabs to put info on.

I have very many advertisements everywhere therefore basically 90% of enquiries I get are valid and not 'you available'.

I would only need assistant to be quicker with replies because honestly I lost fee bookings recently as I didn't replied in 5 days time to initial message, which meant my client thought I am not interested :/

I want to live my life a bit and I have other commitments besides this job therefore want to minimise admin without loosing clients.
P.s. I still get booked up week in advance. So everything it's just perfect!

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Re: Getting an assistant
« Reply #7 on: 22 March 2019, 12:30:22 pm »
My experience with this type of people is that they will schedule 50 reservations per day if they can and will not take care of your business.

or simply she will go partying with her friends or have other commitments and will not answer your questions and you will stay like an idiot waiting for reservations because she has not warned you in advance about this.

This has happened to me many times, maybe you have more luck.
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Wailing Banshee

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Re: Getting an assistant
« Reply #8 on: 22 March 2019, 01:18:46 pm »
If you only need an assistant 1-2 hours a week surely you could find the time to deal with yourself? It must be worth it then risk all the pitfalls with getting someone else involved in your business. I also can't believe you are so busy that you don't reply to clients for 5 days! I'm afraid a lot of clients will want a booking within that timescale and certainly a response. It only takes a minute to read emails and respond, when I am busy sometimes it's a matter of doing on the loo, in the bath and on the bus. The joy of mobile phones is that we can deal with admin almost anywhere!

Also if you only have an assistant 1 -2 hours a week then emails still may well be unopened for a few days?

If you only have emails to deal with rather than calls could you not have an auto reply and state that you will get back to them within 24 hours and that you need X amount of notice for a booking so potential clients know the case up front.

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Re: Getting an assistant
« Reply #9 on: 22 March 2019, 01:24:28 pm »
+1 on what Banshee says, plus as others have commented no way would I want anyone else to screen my clients for me.

Why not just put aside 30 minutes every other day to go through and reply to messages?
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Ruby Redhead

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Re: Getting an assistant
« Reply #10 on: 23 March 2019, 08:23:35 am »
I also wonder if you don’t have time to deal with enquires surely you wouldn’t have time for an actual booking. Which tells me you probably don’t enjoy replying to enquires and just see it as a burden, which it can be! But if you are just feeling under pressure and like you can’t do everything, maybe you just need to have a little reorganise. Perhaps plan your days better. Set aside 30 mins in the morning and afternoon to deal with replies. (I usually do 30 mins in the morning while I have my coffee and then 30 mins in the evening if needed).

It can seem overwhelming sometimes but I would really recommend trying to manage it yourself as it’s your safety at the end of the day. If someone else books an asshole in, you will feel angry towards them for letting them through the net.

If you are busy with overall life maybe you could get an assistant for other areas such as housework.. but that’s going completely off topic... you get my gist

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« Reply #11 on: 23 March 2019, 11:06:01 am »
I said I would never get one again, but with kids, needy family, limited working hours and days and other appointments, I literally have NO time whatsoever to spend answering phones and replying to texts and emails.

The lady who does my admin has been working in the industry for years (ex escort) and puts ads all over reputable sites and I write all my own info.
Keeps all bookings on a spreadsheet so she can keep track and let me know if and when I have seen clients before, and blacklists anyone I feel needs to be.
Always logs into aw and updates pictures and info accordingly and screens clients to my preference. I.e over 35, has read profile, respects my likes list etc.

I am pretty much always fully booked in advance for my working days now.

She takes a very small percentage of each booking eg 15 pound from my hourly fee, 10 from half hour. Suits me fine and less headache from time wasters.

I've been lucky finding her. Some experiences with assistants have been horrific.
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neutralC

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Re: Getting an assistant
« Reply #12 on: 23 March 2019, 01:32:47 pm »
I also wonder if you don’t have time to deal with enquires surely you wouldn’t have time for an actual booking. Which tells me you probably don’t enjoy replying to enquires and just see it as a burden, which it can be! But if you are just feeling under pressure and like you can’t do everything, maybe you just need to have a little reorganise. Perhaps plan your days better. Set aside 30 mins in the morning and afternoon to deal with replies. (I usually do 30 mins in the morning while I have my coffee and then 30 mins in the evening if needed).

It can seem overwhelming sometimes but I would really recommend trying to manage it yourself as it’s your safety at the end of the day. If someone else books an asshole in, you will feel angry towards them for letting them through the net.

If you are busy with overall life maybe you could get an assistant for other areas such as housework.. but that’s going completely off topic... you get my gist

sorry what? My clients book me for 1-3h at the time usually and I work 3 full days a week, basically I do not have a day where I wouldn't be fully booked when I do work. Also I take occasional outcalls a week (1-2 max) and when I do incall days I do not really answer emails because it's too much.

Also as I said I want to just spend more time for myself, believe I'm saying it now after 2-3 years of working this job when doing 10h a week admin work (putting ads, working on my site, working on seo, answering emails, etc.) each week for the past 2-3 years. Having serious fatigue problems because of that.

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Re: Getting an assistant
« Reply #13 on: 23 March 2019, 02:26:04 pm »
What I was trying to say is how can you feel as though you don’t have enough time each day to answer enquires but do have time for bookings, if enquires take 30 minutes here and there each day.

believe I'm saying it now after 2-3 years of working this job when doing 10h a week admin work (putting ads, working on my site, working on seo, answering emails, etc.) each week for the past 2-3 years. Having serious fatigue problems because of that.

If you’re really spending 10h a week on admin, are booked a week in advance, seem busy enough, do you really need to be spending so much time on ads, website, seo etc? Maybe you’re doing too much and in turn you are receiving too many enquires that you cant cope with or even need.

I’m just looking from the outside in, in a business management sense. It seems as though you don’t have the balance quite right.

I’m very busy. I hoe 6 days a week, have an office job 3 days a week, assist my OH on the running of his business, have a life to live outside of all of that, etc etc. We are all very busy and sometimes we just need to organise effectively. I would be using the incall days, in between clients, to get admin done. Seems a waste of time to be sat in a room doing nothing productive.
But I do understand where you’re coming from. Sometimes it is all too much and seems like there is 100 things on the to do list that never ends. I’ve felt like this too and I’ve realised that I need to restructure how I do things.

I just wouldn’t want you gettin an assistant to deal with your enquires or book clients in for you to then up in a sticky situation due to someone else not vetting your client correctly. It’s your safety. You can’t put a price on that!
Maybe see  if you can re-jiggle a few things in order for you to have enough time for admin

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« Reply #14 on: 23 March 2019, 06:18:07 pm »
What I was trying to say is how can you feel as though you don’t have enough time each day to answer enquires but do have time for bookings, if enquires take 30 minutes here and there each day.

If you’re really spending 10h a week on admin, are booked a week in advance, seem busy enough, do you really need to be spending so much time on ads, website, seo etc? Maybe you’re doing too much and in turn you are receiving too many enquires that you cant cope with or even need.

I’m just looking from the outside in, in a business management sense. It seems as though you don’t have the balance quite right.

I’m very busy. I hoe 6 days a week, have an office job 3 days a week, assist my OH on the running of his business, have a life to live outside of all of that, etc etc. We are all very busy and sometimes we just need to organise effectively. I would be using the incall days, in between clients, to get admin done. Seems a waste of time to be sat in a room doing nothing productive.
But I do understand where you’re coming from. Sometimes it is all too much and seems like there is 100 things on the to do list that never ends. I’ve felt like this too and I’ve realised that I need to restructure how I do things.

I just wouldn’t want you gettin an assistant to deal with your enquires or book clients in for you to then up in a sticky situation due to someone else not vetting your client correctly. It’s your safety. You can’t put a price on that!
Maybe see  if you can re-jiggle a few things in order for you to have enough time for admin

 I can completely understand how she has time for bookings and less time for admin. Although if she spent less time on admin, she would lose bookings therefore, would make sense getting some help.
Unfortunately not all of us are superwomen! With my fatigue, mental health and general anxiety, juggling all that would cause me to have a mental breakdown.

I drop my kids at school for 8.40, commute to accommodation(via 2 buses) to get ready and start work at 9.30/9.50, do bookings with a gap in between to freshen up and eat, then finish at 2.30 to commute back to kids for 3.10, then an evening full of cooking cleaning and doing bed time. Then by the time its 9pm, im in bed and the last thing I want to do is answer emails and update profiles.

We all have different thresholds and commitments.

Like you said, safety is key, but if you can find someone trustworthy and reliable, it can work.
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