Yep I'll answer with 'You will see when you get here'.Any more silly text tennis and I'll say 'Sorry I'm busy and I don't text back and forth,if you have any more enquiries please ring'.After that if they persist with daft questions I tell them booking cancelled as you seem more interested in chatting than actually getting here and meeting.

He sounds like a fantasist. I bet he had no intention of turning up for an actual booking. Even if he was busy it wouldn't have taken more than a minute to send a quick text to say "can't talk now, will call as soon as I can". He obviously just remembered he'd dangled the carrot of a booking and thought he'd get his kicks for the evening via some sexy text tennis. I have a zero tolerance policy for them playing silly buggers. I find the same goes for ones who have confirmed the booking, then start texting rubbish like "is your apartment nice/safe/discrete". As if you'd reply "no, it's proper dodgy and all the neighbours know what's going on here" 

I have cancelled on someone I'd seen before though as about the time he was due he asked me to wear a particular outfit and then said underneath he wanted me to insert a strap on when I answered the door, then take the clothes off and walk up the stairs with him behind me. I said it's a bit late to change outfit and also I'm not a sub so didn't want to wear the strap on. He went on a bit so I cancelled. He didn't reply when I cancelled so I don't know that he was there even though I'd seen him before although he doesn't live that far from me so could've just turned back.

I don't know if anyone's done that sort of thing but I'd feel a wally doing that and although I use condoms on it, the strap on is just for the clients not for me. But even if I'd used a vibe, I'd still feel a prat with it inside me and I think it's them being controlling.

I do really feel for you FL, and no of course you shouldn't have to see someone you don't want to see.

But without trying to be mean, I think you should have been straight with him from the start though as if he's paid for even part of a journey in a taxi (plus the return from wherever he was when you cancelled) that's a bit shitty for him. If I am actually on my way to a client and they cancel during the journey I would expect some reimbursement for my travel expenses, so I do see that it's kind of hard on him if he just had to suck it up and go home. When although the booking wasn't to your taste (it wouldn't have been to mine either!) you did make an agreement to see him xx

Not trying to be mean, and I do completely agree that you are absolutely 100% within your rights to cancel at any time, just that it might have been better to follow your gut instinct at the start and turn it down, rather than waiting til he was in the cab and then cancelling.

I appreciate it's not always that easy though.

xxx