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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: Fabulassie on 29 June 2015, 07:55:27 pm
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Guy calls me this morning but the phone connection was terrible. I could barely understand what he was saying - but he said he wanted 90 mins of PSE. I don't really do PSE - I do a pretty lame one, and that only for shorter bookings. I mean, it's not like there's a different list of things I will do, it's just a matter of attitude. I'm not going to do 90 minutes of my "Ooh yeah I am sooooo horny fuck me harder wooooo!" So I told him that I didn't think I'd be able to do that. Hard to communicate due to poor phone connection.
He calls again with a better signal and says that PSE isn't really that big a deal... he just loves older women. I'm still like, "I dunno - I hate to ask a guy to compromise when it's that amount of money." Truth is, he sounded a bit young and dumb.
Then I got another call and took a different booking (which was awesome!) Then the first guy calls again and asks if he could book me for a gfe and I told him that I had taken another booking. So he asks if he could see me at 8pm. I'm like, "OK... text to confirm at 5pm" I guess I sort of let him talk me into it. I was hoping that he'd never confirm.
And he didn't.
Then he called just after 7 and very sweetly apologised, saying that he hadn't had a break all afternoon but was just off work and if I still had any time, could he come? He did sound very polite and sweet but A) he called me darling and B) I have these hoops like confirmation for a reason. Still, having had three cancellations obliterate my evening plans I said OK. He said he'd be getting a taxi.
So I run around and get ready. Or try to... the phone keeps pinging with texts of the "what will you be wearing" variety. After three of them, I said that I was sorry but I had to cancel. Cue much whinging, cajoling, begging and "But I'm already in the taxi!"
I did feel sort of bad, truly, but I just felt like he'd done way too many little things - just small ones - for me to look forward to meeting him with anything other than apprehension. It's hard to explain to him why: calling me "hun" and "darling"; being too keen for a booking even when I wasn't being very amenable; failing to confirm at 5pm; and then sending dumb texts to keep himself amused in the taxi.
I just apologised, told him to turn the cab around, and turned off my phone.
I feel like a bit of an ass.
I've done this a couple of times - once a guy was walking to my place sending increasingly stupid texts about what I should wear, what sort of lighting and music he wanted, and shit like that. I think he was nearly at mine when I called it off.
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The only time I canceled on a relatively short notice (one hour prior to the meeting) was on a guy who started faffing around with what time he'd be available (hotel outcall). While at the same time trying to haggle down my price... ::) I had stuff to do early the following morning, and I can't stand hagglers, so I bailed.
Other than that, no, I generally don't cancel due to (what I'd consider) minor annoyances. I either decline upfront, or grin and bear it if the person proves to be tiresome.
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You're right Fabs...guts do the talking.
Too many 'little black marks'.
If I count 3 LBM I cancell.
Did it last week he was on my intercom...
didn't like the look of him and switched phone off.
Too many flats for him to know which one is mine.
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It was just all these little things and I HATE when I let myself get talked into a booking. It never goes well when that happens. I feel bad about bailing on him but my real error was in taking the booking in the first place.
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It was just all these little things and I HATE when I let myself get talked into a booking. It never goes well when that happens. I feel bad about bailing on him but my real error was in taking the booking in the first place.
Pretty much ever single booking I've agreed to, after initially declining, has been terrible. So yeah, best to just give those a pass (unless you have nerves of steel and are low on cash ;D).
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Yes Fabs...I know sometimes we're tired, overexcited,
happy, or he's just an ace social manipulator...
We had a 'too good day' or 'too bad day' and we overlook those warnings.
But we're not The United Nations.
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I Have canceled a few times when guys don't confirm at the time I have requested, for an advanced booking.
I canceled an outcall because he was nearly an hour late sending the room number and he left me no time to drop off my child at childminders etc.
He was genuinely apologetic and didn't sound horrible or anything, but it was late for me around 7pm he wanted me there.
He didn't text room number until 6pm, but expected me to be ready to leave home even though no confirmation.
I'm not going to get myself ready without a 100% firm booking.
Last week I had a guy call and confirm a half hour booking.
Then he starts bombarding me with questions.
I told him to send the questions in one text, so to stop it going back wards and forwards.
He didn't listen so I canceled.
Then he started sending me random messages just saying "hi"
Bit odd! Think I was right to cancel him.
I think it's ok to cancel if they turn into text pests after booking has been arranged.
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If a client starts getting annoyed as I direct
him to the my place on the phone I generally don't
want him to arrive and I sometimes turn off the
phone 'accidentally'...poor mobile signal!
He can sort out his annoyance, irritation,
festering mood with some other mug.
Not me.
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I've been there. Sometimes, like you say, the initial call is OK, but then the inane texts begin, and after a while it's just like GET INTO THE FUCKING SEA.
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When I used to accept texts I would just respond to texts like that saying I'm getting ready and can't respond and get ready at the same time. Usually worked :)
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Last week i ended up doing my back in and passing out in the gym resulting in going to hospital in an ambulance,
i didnt have my phone on me and i had a 5pm booking , my other half got my phone to me at 4,45 by which time my client had txted to say was in car on road,
I replied straight away with what had happened and as he was a regular he was fine about it but i felt totally awful !
:'(
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Last week i ended up doing my back in and passing out in the gym resulting in going to hospital in an ambulance,
i didnt have my phone on me and i had a 5pm booking , my other half got my phone to me at 4,45 by which time my client had txted to say was in car on road,
I replied straight away with what had happened and as he was a regular he was fine about it but i felt totally awful !
:'(
I've had to cancel a few times last minute on clients through no fault of their own, usually find offering a small discount for if they rebook keeps everything sweet - otherwise I risk them thinking 'she's unreliable' and finding another girl. More regs = less time spent on phone trying to suss out who's a TW and who's genuine ;D
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I've cancelled when it seems to me they are not genuine.I.E suddenly texting repeatedly after they have booked asking silly questions.The big sign usually is when they start asking loads of what will you wear what will you do type questions.Not had to happen often mind and I give them a polite warning to reign it in before I get to the not happening now stage.
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I think we all have done that at some point. In my case because they started to negotiate the rate after they have booked or requested services I don't even offer. I don't feel bad about that because my services and rates are clearly stated on my profile.
Sometimes I have to cancel at short notice because my stupid period is messing around with me, usually arriving earlier than expected. In this case, I always let the clients know why I have to cancel and some of them still come around for a massage + HE.
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When they start to text with the 'what wud u be wearing' type of questions, I just say 'oops just getting on the tube, see you at 6 x'. Works well in London.
And not very often but I definitely have cancelled last minute, but I only do outcalls these days so I do 't feel as guilty
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Yep I'll answer with 'You will see when you get here'.Any more silly text tennis and I'll say 'Sorry I'm busy and I don't text back and forth,if you have any more enquiries please ring'.After that if they persist with daft questions I tell them booking cancelled as you seem more interested in chatting than actually getting here and meeting.
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When I seen the title of the thread I was gonna say, "No, never, unless I had a very, very, VERY good reason, like my
period's started or someone's died or something".
But when I read your post Fab, I think I would've done the same. I hate guys that keep texting when they KNOW you're
trying to get ready, I hate it when they say they're gonna book all day, keep changing their mind etc., as if we don't have
other appointments etc just like they do.
So I think you were well within your rights to cancel, and I would probably have done the same.
And you never know, he might not even have been on his way, he might have been on his way home and never turned up
anyway!
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He sounds like a fantasist. I bet he had no intention of turning up for an actual booking. Even if he was busy it wouldn't have taken more than a minute to send a quick text to say "can't talk now, will call as soon as I can". He obviously just remembered he'd dangled the carrot of a booking and thought he'd get his kicks for the evening via some sexy text tennis. I have a zero tolerance policy for them playing silly buggers. I find the same goes for ones who have confirmed the booking, then start texting rubbish like "is your apartment nice/safe/discrete". As if you'd reply "no, it's proper dodgy and all the neighbours know what's going on here" ::)
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I agree pussycat. I don't think he would've shown as I haven't had genuine ones keep texting crap after confirming. Maybe one text asking me to wear a particular outfit then no more. Although a text asking me to wear something ridiculous which I'd probably not have is likely to be tw. I can remember on two occasions last year where they've pretended to be in a taxi and they weren't, one even milking it further by saying he'll be 20 mins late. I knew then he wouldn't show. Darling babe convos tend to be tw I've found.
If they ask about discretion I say no, there's a red light on the rooftop which revolves 24 hours a day.
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I have cancelled on someone I'd seen before though as about the time he was due he asked me to wear a particular outfit and then said underneath he wanted me to insert a strap on when I answered the door, then take the clothes off and walk up the stairs with him behind me. I said it's a bit late to change outfit and also I'm not a sub so didn't want to wear the strap on. He went on a bit so I cancelled. He didn't reply when I cancelled so I don't know that he was there even though I'd seen him before although he doesn't live that far from me so could've just turned back.
I don't know if anyone's done that sort of thing but I'd feel a wally doing that and although I use condoms on it, the strap on is just for the clients not for me. But even if I'd used a vibe, I'd still feel a prat with it inside me and I think it's them being controlling.
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Cancelled last minute when My period started unexpectedly
And another time when the client sent me a series of disgusting texts about humiliating women. Strange he started being polite and the texts became progressively more threatening.
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I do really feel for you FL, and no of course you shouldn't have to see someone you don't want to see.
But without trying to be mean, I think you should have been straight with him from the start though as if he's paid for even part of a journey in a taxi (plus the return from wherever he was when you cancelled) that's a bit shitty for him. If I am actually on my way to a client and they cancel during the journey I would expect some reimbursement for my travel expenses, so I do see that it's kind of hard on him if he just had to suck it up and go home. When although the booking wasn't to your taste (it wouldn't have been to mine either!) you did make an agreement to see him xx
Not trying to be mean, and I do completely agree that you are absolutely 100% within your rights to cancel at any time, just that it might have been better to follow your gut instinct at the start and turn it down, rather than waiting til he was in the cab and then cancelling.
I appreciate it's not always that easy though.
xxx