Oh seriously?? I'll have to consider that for the future if I'm not as busy as I'd like then!

On a different note, just had my 4th client last night and I felt absolutely TERRIBLE afterwards. It felt like the longest booking ever even though he was only there for 45 minutes. Very demanding physically,  respect out the window, didn't talk to me at all beforehand and constant extremely degrading dirty talk (b-i-t-c, s-l-u-, w-h-o-r-) and a lot of forced face fking with forceful deep throat (i'm only just learning to do that and was almost sick) and made me cry out in pain for a long time forcing 4 fingers down me for over ten minutes, (perhaps he was trying to fist me?) and possibly the worst kisser I've ever experienced. Definitely a client that feels he can do whatever the hell he wants with you as he's paid. I expected some men to be like this but actually experiencing it made me feel so sad and depressed and made me question whether I could do this job if 80% of clients were going to be like this and treat you like absolute crap, and two holes just because they've paid.

I should have made him sit down at the beginning of the booking and go through what I do and don't do. I was too scared to tell him to stop as I didn't want to cause any conflict during the booking or get a bad review. I mentioned to the agency afterwards that I felt this client was too rough and they said they'll bare that in mind the next time he calls. I don't really want to see this client again. I think that's fair of me? Should I let the agency know I don't want to see him again?

What I'm now scared of is if most of the clients are going to be like this. The first clients I had seem like a dream away now if this is the reality of escorting.

Miss_Ari, I'll be blunt with you. Escorting is the worst jobs to get into if you have no self boundaries. Please work on your self esteem as you are working, because it's heartbreaking to read this kind of thing. This is how clients, agency bosses, boundary pushers get away with what they do.

You're working for yourself, there are smart ways to see the clients you want and on your terms. One of them is to get your own private clients through indie advertising.  Don't you think it should be on your terms? You sound young and unfortunately clients can be pr**ks towards young inexperienced escorts. You have to be careful.

I am tempted to start AW too but I wasn't sure you could be independent AND belong to an agency at the same time?

My pricing is ?300 agency and it seems like most girls are pricing at ?100-?180 on AW. I can't be cheaper in one place and more expensive in another

Yes you can. Why do you need to confine yourself to one agency and even one set of price? You're now working for yourself, take different sets of photos, set up new profile and be an escort on your own terms.

Quote from: Miss_Ari on 02 October 2015, 01:09:51 pm

Oh seriously?? I'll have to consider that for the future if I'm not as busy as I'd like then!

On a different note, just had my 4th client last night and I felt absolutely TERRIBLE afterwards. It felt like the longest booking ever even though he was only there for 45 minutes. Very demanding physically,  respect out the window, didn't talk to me at all beforehand and constant extremely degrading dirty talk (b-i-t-c, s-l-u-, w-h-o-r-) and a lot of forced face fking with forceful deep throat (i'm only just learning to do that and was almost sick) and made me cry out in pain for a long time forcing 4 fingers down me for over ten minutes, (perhaps he was trying to fist me?) and possibly the worst kisser I've ever experienced. Definitely a client that feels he can do whatever the hell he wants with you as he's paid. I expected some men to be like this but actually experiencing it made me feel so sad and depressed and made me question whether I could do this job if 80% of clients were going to be like this and treat you like absolute crap, and two holes just because they've paid.

I should have made him sit down at the beginning of the booking and go through what I do and don't do. I was too scared to tell him to stop as I didn't want to cause any conflict during the booking or get a bad review. I mentioned to the agency afterwards that I felt this client was too rough and they said they'll bare that in mind the next time he calls. I don't really want to see this client again. I think that's fair of me? Should I let the agency know I don't want to see him again?

What I'm now scared of is if most of the clients are going to be like this. The first clients I had seem like a dream away now if this is the reality of escorting.

Miss_Ari, I'll be blunt with you. Escorting is the worst jobs to get into if you have no self boundaries. Please work on your self esteem as you are working, because it's heartbreaking to read this kind of thing. This is how clients, agency bosses, boundary pushers get away with what they do.

You're working for yourself, there are smart ways to see the clients you want and on your terms. One of them is to get your own private clients through indie advertising.  Don't you think it should be on your terms? You sound young and unfortunately clients can be pr**ks towards young inexperienced escorts. You have to be careful.

Quote from: Miss_Ari on 01 October 2015, 12:31:08 pm

I am tempted to start AW too but I wasn't sure you could be independent AND belong to an agency at the same time?

My pricing is ?300 agency and it seems like most girls are pricing at ?100-?180 on AW. I can't be cheaper in one place and more expensive in another

Yes you can. Why do you need to confine yourself to one agency and even one set of price? You're now working for yourself, take different sets of photos, set up new profile and be an escort on your own terms.

Thanks so much for the advice. You're absolutely right. I'm making vital adjustments to my self boundaries thanks to this unfortunate idiot of a client. He definitely did decide to take advantage as I'm new and a bit timid on how the whole score of things works and thinking about it no experienced escort would ever tolerate that type of behaviour unless these activities are listed in her services.

I'm learning that some agencies aren't picky with which clients they send to which girls, we discussed I'm more girl next door GFE, I guess no one knew he was going to shove 4 huge fingers up me and force his dick down my throat the whole appointment but I had a word with my boss that I DON'T want to see this client again and that I don't want deep throat or PSE discussed in services I provide. I guess thats a huge disadvantage of being in an agency you just don't know who you'll get and can't discuss what you offer before he comes so no one gets disappointed.

It's not been a week yet, I'm going to see what other clients I can do business with in this agency and if that was a one off bad experience I'll stay on for a while before seeing what other agencies are like. I don't feel I'm quite ready yet to go independent as I don't trust my screening skills until I can get more of a feel of what different clients are like. Some really friendly, down to earth guys seem to be total demons once they get you in bed!

Sorry to hear this Ari..might find it handy to pick up some
control techniques to prevent this kind of sexual assault.
It's a distressing learning curve...I think many of us have been there.

One of the pressures can be 'reviews'.
Especially if an agency or escort is 'review hungry'.
So do you endure  an abusive, violent experience for a good review?
or do you maintain control so you're in good mental and physical
nick to enjoy the nice clients?

There's no guarantee clients will leave positive reviews no
matter how much you 'please them'.

That's so true. I need to watch out for my mental health and now have come to the 100% realisation that "customers always come first" doesn't necessarily apply with escort services. ESPECIALLY non consensual sexual acts. It really is easier said than done to always say "no", sometimes you're so mind f**cked that no words can come out. I was so confused and in pain, it felt like his fingers were ruining and tearing my insides - all I could do was groan in pain and worry if I was doing the right thing by speaking up or not. This experience has taught me to speak up and protect my body NO MATTER WHAT now.

Nice when that happens! lol

Nothing stops us giving the general impression that
'the client comes first'....as long as we stick to our boundaries.

That's so true. I need to watch out for my mental health and now have come to the 100% realisation that "customers always come first" doesn't necessarily apply with escort services. ESPECIALLY non consensual sexual acts.

Amongst the ways that 'antis' do harm is spreading the idea that anyone doing sex work has to do what the client wants. No, they don't.