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MissVix

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Re: Etiquette and other things
« Reply #15 on: 16 September 2018, 01:15:37 am »
Thanks to all.

I bloody hate doing OW - the thingy on the condom catches in my tonsils (especially since I do DT.) It's all about personal preference and your own risk assessment. Personally I'd rather enjoy my bookings and accept the minor risk of contracting contracting gonorrhea or chlamydia orally.
Herpes is the one I'm worried about - that and hepatitis C. I was shocked to discover that herpes is infectious even when there are no symptoms, meaning visual inspections of a dick don't mean, well, dick!  ;D


In response to the first part of your post; just do whatever you feel comfortable and happy doing, and stop worrying about what everyone else is doing. That's up to them, and really not your business or concern.
It's my concern if they're getting bookings, from guys who'd otherwise be interested in me, because they look so crazily good. Ditto for those lying about their services just to get clients through the door whilst I'm losing clients by honestly telling them I don't do the thing they're ringing for.


Sure you can get herpes, but 70% of the population has oral herpes (had a cold sore? You've got herpes), most of us get it by 5 years old orally. Then you can't ever get it again.
From what I know, people with oral and genital herpes can have repeated flare ups. I've never had a cold sore and don't want to start.

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Re: Etiquette and other things
« Reply #16 on: 16 September 2018, 09:20:58 am »
It's my concern if they're getting bookings, from guys who'd otherwise be interested in me, because they look so crazily good. Ditto for those lying about their services just to get clients through the door whilst I'm losing clients by honestly telling them I don't do the thing they're ringing for.

There's still nothing you can do about it and it's still not worth worrying about. Other people will always get business from punters who may or may not have booked you and that's the same for all of us including them.

What they won't get is repeat business - sooner or later the new punters will run out and whilst they can change all their ads and try starting again, having a pool of reliable regulars and beefing it out with new punters is a far easier way to go and will.earn you more in the long term even if it's just because you'll waste less of your time and money switching things aroumd trying to cover your tracks. And do you really want to be in a room with a pissed off punter who's been lied to about services?

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Re: Etiquette and other things
« Reply #17 on: 16 September 2018, 10:10:55 am »
Thanks to all.
Herpes is the one I'm worried about - that and hepatitis C. I was shocked to discover that herpes is infectious even when there are no symptoms, meaning visual inspections of a dick don't mean, well, dick!  ;D

From what I know, people with oral and genital herpes can have repeated flare ups. I've never had a cold sore and don't want to start.
There is a massive stigma around herpes, but most people will have it lying dormant (the estimates are that 90% of people have it). It was a scare tactic that started decades ago to whip people into a frenzy and to benefit the pharmaceutical company. If you google 'herpes stigma' you'll find a bunch of articles about it.

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Re: Etiquette and other things
« Reply #18 on: 16 September 2018, 09:00:19 pm »
1. I've experienced a range of different time wasting behaviour, but the result is always the same.

2. It depends how you're doing your screening and what feels comfortable to you. Most things in this industry are a risk, but it's up to you how much you think it's worth it. People have been attacked in hotels and unfortunately, not all nutters are deterred by cameras.

3. Again, it's what works for you and what you're comfortable with. What works for me and 10 other escorts may not work for you. There is an option to only offer OWO at your discretion.

4. I wouldn't answer the phone whilst I'm with a client, I personally would find it quite rude if I was paying for someone's time.

By the way, I would like to point out that the clients going for the photoshopped girls may not have chosen you anyway. You won't be everyone's choice and that's ok. Other escorts will do their thing and you do yours.
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Re: Etiquette and other things
« Reply #19 on: 16 September 2018, 09:47:03 pm »
Hi MV

I offer OW and don’t offer DT. Clients don’t seem at all arsed.

I always mention it on the phone during bookings to ensure it’s well understood. I have repeat clients who say it’s why they picked me. So far, these clients aren’t fussed about oral anyway (don’t know if that’s because it’s covered) unless it’s RO. RO is valued significantly greater than oral on them. Because of my ads I don’t attract clients who require DT as they’ve plenty DT specialists. So it’s all good and there are plenty of clients who want different services.


 In my experience (very limited) offering OW doesn’t impact negatively on business.
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Re: Etiquette and other things
« Reply #20 on: 16 September 2018, 11:29:43 pm »
Hi MV

I offer OW and don’t offer DT. Clients don’t seem at all arsed.

I always mention it on the phone during bookings to ensure it’s well understood. I have repeat clients who say it’s why they picked me. So far, these clients aren’t fussed about oral anyway (don’t know if that’s because it’s covered) unless it’s RO. RO is valued significantly greater than oral on them. Because of my ads I don’t attract clients who require DT as they’ve plenty DT specialists. So it’s all good and there are plenty of clients who want different services.

In my experience (very limited) offering OW doesn’t impact negatively on business.

+ 1 Georgie. I market as a soft vanilla experience with kinks catered for but everything protected and I have had clients say they come to me because of the 'cleanliness ' aspect. It's horses for courses. I know a lot of people will not want to see me because I don't do OWO but I pick up the guys who wouldn't see me otherwise.


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« Reply #21 on: 17 September 2018, 08:14:32 am »
Thread tidied. As has been hinted throughout the thread and posted many times before, criticising other sex workers because of the way they choose to work is not what we do here whether they're on the forum taking part or not.

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« Reply #22 on: 17 September 2018, 12:41:59 pm »
Thanks for fixing the quote Amy :)