Hi,

It's now been six months since I was escorting and I am still living in the same town as before. It's not as big as some of the main cities in Scotland such as Edinburgh and Glasgow, where I always had more work. I miss seeing guys in that regard and earning that wage.

I am working full time for ?10 an hour in my regular job, sometimes doing overtime. I have grown to HATE my work with a passion, and on my days off, they are still ringing me and hassling me to go in. Still living with my Mum, which I bloody hate.

The good news is, I nearly have enough for a new car which surely could get me places as a escort. However, since splitting from my ex in February, this new guy has taken an interest and wants to see me all the time. I keep thinking, fucks sake, I could be earning more doing escorting!

With work hounding me more than ever, taking away a measly wage and still living with my Mum (groan), I have had escorting withdrawal symptoms really, really bad. I am now more committed to going indie and establishing myself more than ever.

I have just a few 'what would you do' questions though, I regularly look at the boards and try to take on any advice similar to what I have posted etc.

-Would it be better to wait to get the new car before going indie? I live slightly out of town
-Regards to my work; always hassling me to go in, but I have built up a good reputation (as much as I hate my regular job), so how would I juggle this and escorting
-The big question; escorting where I live. People have had a mixed view on this, there is always that risk of being outed, and I work in quite a professional job with vulnerable people.. IF a client turned out to be someone I knew, could I just say I would have them done for slander or such, or does that not work? There is nowhere big enough to work from an hour from where i live, and the big cities like Edinburgh, that I did work from, are over 3 hours drive

Thanks... urgh, I want to get started again asap, it's killing me not doing this work! 

Hi LL,

It's not an easy situation.  I don't know the ins and outs of your everyday job but it is something you have taken a long time in qualifying in if my memory serves me right so don't jeopardise things now.

Perhaps it's the location or branch of your business that is not for you, I don't know, I'm just throwing it in there for you to consider.

We do miss the company of the clients when we stop .... For at least five minutes, then it goes away and our own lives take over.  That is the reason we must keep up outside interests even when we are prossying.

With regards to your mum, do you hate living with her because it stops you doing Incalls from home or is there another reason. 

There seems to be a lot of underlying issues with you just now (I'm taking that from what I've read in your post) and perhaps there is a lot of rubbish you need to get out of your head.

If you have gone into another relationship very quickly and you would rather spend the time prossying then it doesn't really say much for the relationship.  I know some guys can be very demanding but if this is the case, do you really want to be in it or are you accepting the unacceptable until "something better or something different" comes along?

Do you see where I'm coming from saying there is a lot if underlying issues?

Do you want to get back to prossying cos you are missing the money or for any other reason.

I've not answered any of your questions really for I think you know you are the only one who can do that.

I hope some of these points will help you think other things through and leave space in your brain for some more positive thinking.

Good luck with the thinking.

I would just do the occasional outcall and screen them really throughly, where they live etc, and reject any that don't meet your requirements 100%. You can gradually build up the business and get your car sooner and be able to go further afield. If you have a respectable career, don't reject it out of hand though, especially if you have built up a good reputation.

I know what you mean by withdrawal symptoms. I'm sure I'd find six months without seeing any clients horrific. BF or not.

It's very hard trying to equate going back to a 'normal' working life (is anything normal!) after one has been escorting........... I mean we know the earnings potential in this and we know what most jobs pay nowadays. Unless you are at the top then it's highly unlikely you can get the same money but what you have to do, I think, is sit down and think of what you want to do, maybe not long term but short term. 

I don't know your living arrangements but could you do outcalls in the interim, perhaps now and then at least to supplement your income?  Perhaps if you have enough to buy the car now then the outcalls will be easy for you at least with no taxi fares or having to worry about transport if there is a distance to travel. 

I don't wish to pry but if you really want to finish uni, can you put it back to a later date or if you really want to go sooner then pull out all guns to do it sooner then later, if at all possible?  Sometimes the longer we stay in this then the harder it is to go back to anything else, if in fact that is what we ultimately want to do as it's not everyone who sees this job as a temporary measure, it's an indivdual choice. 

As to the chap you are seeing, please don't take this the wrong way but if you think he is dull, why be with him?  Also sometimes, we see these clients of ours through rose tinted glasses...........whilst they come and spend money on us, ultimately we don't live with them and maybe the dull Mr Average who doesn't earn nowhere near what we do, is actually a kinder decent bloke then half the punters we see (sorry girls no offence to punters who are bf's, etc..). 

It sounds like you feel trapped.  You know what you could potentially earn and it must be frustrating when you are only earning a fraction of that for probably a lot harder work!

Also, can you speak to your employer/work at all and explain to them that you are not willing to be - hounded/hassled?  Don't want to pry again but if you are not at work then they have no right to contact you unless of course your job is more involved. 

Sadly, in these economic times, from what I gather it's dog eat dog out there and the days of 9 to 5 are gone with people having to put in all sorts of ridiculous extra hours (unpaid) just to keep their jobs and not to mention what I think is a real pisstake - internships = unpaid jobs! 

So perhaps what you should do is

1. Speak to work - sort out some ground rules ?
2. Buy the car - if you can afford it now.
3. Do outcalls - if that is an option, perhaps travel out a bit more
4. Accept you have to live at home now (no fun but think of the money you are saving!).
5. Dump the bf - if he's not making you happy no point staying with him.

Hope that helps!  Typing it sometimes comes across differently and I don't mean to sound know it all, just trying to help!
Love
Jenny x

Thanks Jenny The outcalls do seem like an option, with extensive vetting in the area!

Uni side of things; attended a meeting last week, they are saying the decision for me to return has been upheld. I am not happy. But appealing it, so maybe with the appeal, I can at a push get it overturned. Then hopefully return and work as an escort whilst at uni.

I am in work tomorrow so will be speaking to them about the hounding things.. the bf? (I don't even see him as that to be honest), I held on to him because he was a (dull) nice guy, it was getting me out the house and he paid for everything and has quite lavish tastes.

Touring seems like a real possibility here from having thought thoroughly; I guess the only problem is, I can't tour all the time and I don't want to let any potential clients down. I need a set location, but it would seem a bit odd say if I set up an AW profile where I currently am, get a booking, then say 'Oh no, sorry I can't see you as you live near my friend/cousin/work colleague'.

Sometimes wish I didn't have a regular job and did this all the time!