I've been an independent escort on AW for 3 months now and am really enjoying the experience.  This is probably really daft, but does anyone else ever feel a little tinge of envy when a great client of theirs that you really like sees another girl?  Its so silly isn't it...

I suppose I have to learn to switch off if a client says how much he likes me, etc and just enjoy the experience at the time.

Does anyone ever worry about getting a little "de-sensitised" to men and what they say to you...

I apologise for going on a bit, but I don't have anyone else to talk to about this as I have kept my new "hobby" secret from everyone I know (not that I am ashamed, but I think they wouldn't understand what an amazing experience it really is!)

Thanks ladies....

Lili xxx

Hi Lili and welcome!

Yes, it's silly but I'm sure others have too although I can't say I have (most of my work comes directly from my site, so I suppose I'm so used to having no idea where they've been I don't really think about it  ). And just because a client says he likes you and books somebody else another day doesn't mean he was making it up - he might like her as well! I like Snickers, but I also like Maltesers, and it's perfectly possible to do both.

I'm not trying to pick your post to pieces, but if your brain is thinking of prostitution as a 'hobby' rather than a job, that probably isn't helping - we're offering a paid service to our customers and the mutual responsibility ends when the appointment does and we get to go back to the laundry, accounts, answering more emails and so on. lf you enjoy it that's great but always remember that it's work first and foremost.

Hi lili,
In my relatively short lived experience as an independent wg, (2yrs-ish) clients are likely to see other escorts. Don't take it personally! Many of them do return, they just enjoy a little variety... it's what men 'think' they are all about... Bloody Neanderthals the lot of 'em! 
Take care,
W.x

I suppose I have to learn to switch off if a client says how much he likes me, etc and just enjoy the experience at the time.

Does anyone ever worry about getting a little "de-sensitised" to men and what they say to you...

Yeah, like Amy said, it's all just part of the booking. And what happens in the booking is, inherently, stuff that can never and will never happen outside a booking. So I include all the things that are said then, too.

It's funny, really. I think for many clients they are participating in a fantasy scenario rather than just passively watching an escort perform for him, so for those clients they will also make the effort to get really into things and say that you're the most beautiful girl in the world and that you're amazing and you make him feel incredible etc etc. It's not that they don't mean it, exactly - it's more that it's just part of the fantasy/scenario for him. So I'm always happy to hear that they're happy but I don't take their precise words to heart.

For example, the number of times I'm sure we've all heard, "You're the best! I'm going to come back and book you for 2/5/100 hours next time!" Well, we'd all be pretty skint if we cleared our schedule every time we heard that. Along with, "I've never met anyone like you! I'm having such a special time!" when later you hear an off-hand mention by one of your also-WG friends in the area that she also met a Mr. X who said *exactly* the same line to her.

I don't mean to be picking at or mocking the things that get said during bookings - obviously I'd rather hear a whole host of exaggerated niceties than just, "Put my penis in your mouth now" or whatever. But I wanted to say that even though you do certainly get used to hearing all sorts of extravagant compliments, you will probably learn not to listen to them *too* closely as it's often just the client's fantasy to be the dashing, charming stranger while you're the hot, sexy woman who just can't resist his silvery words - but also you don't become desensitised because you can still enjoy the positive feedback in a general way. It's just all about developing those strong, healthy mental boundaries.

And Amy's right about it being a job and therefore it being important to learn to detach yourself emotionally in order to be your best at your work. Clients look for prossies to give them an amazing experience within the boundaries of the booking, not to be moping around wanting to know why he hasn't called again. It's also smart re. sexual health to remember that a client is inherently 99% likely to be shagging all sorts of people all the time so never be listening to, "You're the only woman I see, please let's do it without a condom" etc etc, either. I mean, you will probably accumulate a handful of quite dedicated regulars over a career of a couple of years or more but although I really appreciate these lovely guys, I would never start making assumptions about what they do when they're not with me. So yes - just always remember, "Right after he's seen me he could be popping down the road to see his other favourite girl!"

Luckily I'm very bisexual, so when my clients find another girl they usually endeavour to see us together

It sucks if she's not into girls though

Thank you all so much ladies, so many wise words! 

I remember reading Secret Diary of a Call Girl many many years ago (too long to really remember the finer details of the book) a long time before I started doing this.  I am definitely going to have to read it again!

I think I really just needed to "talk" to some other girls about what we do, its a lot to keep secret to yourself and you can't really talk to clients about it.

Reading all the replies has definitely reminded me to be that fantasy girl for the client during bookings and leave reality at the door step!

Thanks ladies! xxxx

The only reason I ever feel envious is that someone else is getting the money and not me! LOL

I've never ever felt jealous of a client seeing another escort. And like Jodie I've sometimes suggested other ladies for them.
A lot of the time I think...thank god they've gone somewhere else too! ;-)