Hey,

Just want to say 'hi' 1st of all, so pleased I found this website, has some great and helpful information.

I have been an escort for over a year now, not doing it often, here and there when I need some money basically!

It is only recently I have been requesting a deposit, I suppose this is because most people have been ok in the past, then now it seems I'm getting all the timewasters, eughs!

I'm on AW, still haven't figured how to get a deposit through that so request it to be sent paypal, a few guys have said they don't have it, should I just turn them down straightaway? Is it easy to set up a paypal to send money and they're just being reluctant to give the deposit? Should I even require one?

The reason I do, is because I travel by train, if the guy does cancel when I'm on my way, I've lost the train fare!

Do you think it would be wise to ask if he maybe pays for an e-ticket on nationalrail or something for my train fare?

Sorry, all these questions. What are your stands on deposits anyways!?

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hi there
 you say your on AW? Me too !! Ive had exactly the same probs as you with timewasters etc , i used to go by train but i now have a driver , is there no good male friend to drive you ? ( handy to have someone waiting for you in case theres ever any trouble ,  i dont want to sound like your mum but its not ideal travelling alone on trains at night - i used to take the train but only with my bf in tow who would wait for me in a nearby bar or cafe!) I find that most men are reluctant on having anything show up on there credit card bills or bank statements that may incriminate them too the missus!! I think the best option is setting up a "for sale" page via your adultwork profile ( as i dont know whether you already have one for dvds or whatever !) You can then set a sale item as follows "

Deposit for outcalls /overnight bookings

This is a deposit for any outcall bookings with me , please purchase after you've agreed a booking with me. Its payable in aw credits and aw wont show up on your bill , see aw sales terms n conds to verify this if your worried !! ect ......................

If you look in aws sales terms n conds it says that the only thing that shows up on the bill is some non descript sounding company name ( i cant remember it offhand!!) . I find that the genuine clients will not mind at all giving you a deposit , so this should wheedle out the dickheads !! I know been paid in aw credits wont pay your ticket on the day , but its better than a wasted journey as the timewasters wont bother in the first place , if they do you will be able to get yourself something out of the aw marketplace !!!!!hope this is of some use to you , Cleo XXX

Hey, thanks for your replies!

Ahh, I didn't know that about paypal, thanks!

No, I don't have a driver, I wouldn't be able to afford one either and I have no friends who drive, so for now, it's the train, until I learn to drive myself! I'll look into that, putting a sale up for 'deposit' , doesn't AW take so much % though?

Yeah, I do that anyways, get them to confirm in the morning or enough time before the booking, I have done that though and the guy was like, yeah all going ahead, then cancelled when I was on the train - he was such a timewaster!

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Paypal will close your account (and take at least some of the money) if they know you're using it for sex work. There are electronic payment systems that are less squeamish about this, but they are very much minority players.

Anika Mae has done a very good post recently on other ways of getting them: http://www.saafe.info/main/index.php?topic=182.0

Anika Mae had also given some good advice re: mobile top-up vouchers. This morning I asked at my local Orange shop and they still do them, as well as the top-up card. That might be another avenue.

Yeah, I do that anyways, get them to confirm in the morning or enough time before the booking, I have done that though and the guy was like, yeah all going ahead, then cancelled when I was on the train - he was such a timewaster!

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Then I would've informed him that I'm going to carry on to his house and that I expect recompense for my train ticket and time wasted. And if he goes out, or pretends to be out, I'd bang on the door shouting through the letter box so all and sundry can hear "....that your prostitute was here for the evening..."

If you didn't call the room, I think it's very unlikely that he was in it. He never had any intention of seeing you, he was fucking you around.

I used to feel nervous calling hotels so I didn't do it, but one wasted trip to London was enough to make me adopt better habits. I haven't suffered from a single timewaster in the three years since (touch wood). I don't think deposits are necessary to sort out your timewaster problem, just do the standard checks.

Yeah, that's what I meant. When I had no answer from knocking on the door and calling, I asked at reception and there was no-one registered with his name. I've had loads of others try it since then (they usually say they're staying at the Hilton or the Grand), but since I call the hotel and find out they're not there, the whole thing only takes up a few minutes of my time. I've never had a guy who I'd confirmed as being at the hotel let me down.

Hi Ladies,

has anyone else considered using Barclays Pingit or the similar Natwest payment system where the money gets sent through to your mobile phone?

I've been reading the Terms and Conditions to see if it might be a suitable way to accept payment of deposits etc. It seems that the sender can either be a Barclays customer and send from their current account, or can transfer funds to a Barclays wallet account and send via an ATM or (probably the favourite punter option) take cash to a Barclays branch. To receive you just need a mobile phone registered to a UK Bank Account.

Downsides I can see straight away are that the sender gets to see the name the recipient account is registered to but that might not be a deal breaker if its as easy to use as it sounds, and its free.

The major unresolved question I have is regarding the Client changing his mind and claiming that he sent the payment in error. I've ploughed through the legalese in the Terms and Conditions but I'm not really any the wiser.

Has anyone else looked at this as a way of receiving funds? I'd welcome your input - and even more so if you understand the Ts & Cs!

Thanks in advance
R xx