My Motto....

'Catch buses, not feelings' 

Them things make it awkward, and that was before I even thought about telling him about the job   The last 'relationship' ended because he was adamant Id gone back with someone after a night out, so while hes going on one all i could do was hold my mouth shut from shouting 'Like **** Id do free, you having a laugh'

But I kept my halo straight and my work quiet 

After years of "do not cross that bridge" I have and we have been together 3 years and married for one of them.   Lot of thorny horny frogs out there but some of them do turn out to be your prince.

I'm way too analytical, have trust issues, can't stand BS...I better stay alone, have fun and stick him back to his wife / gf.. I had LTR .  It wasn't for me. I dislike getting attached and lose a chunk of my focus and time over "the normal life" .. In fact, I was kinda going out with a punter but geese, romantic period would not last.  I got irritated and I have no patience needed for any relationship lasting longer than 3 hours unpaid.

I think with the right person, it could work! It has for me, so far. Happily attached to a former client (XX) and he's my first serious bf ever. It's long distance which helps but he doesn't have any hang ups about how we met. I have to credit another former client (YY) for helping me open myself up to the possibilities of love. Without YY, I wouldn't be who I am and understanding men the way I do. I could have seen myself with YY at one point in time but he never overcame his fear of dissolving his unhappy marriage.

I know this is a very divisive issue amongst escorts but I belong in the camp that would date client if the right one came along 

I'm happily married. My hubby doesn't cheat and wouldn't. I know that for a fact. I don't cheat either and never would.
I wasn't escorting when I met my hubby but I am now.
My ex boyfriend of almost 3 years I met whilst working as an escort but I gave the job up when me and him became serious. He treated me fine.

Been a while since I logged into SAAFE but I ran to the forum this morning...

Have been dating an ex client for exactly a year. I was his first WG and we hit it off straight away. He was in a miserable marriage, on antidepressants and in desperate need of love. I stepped up to the plate. Despite being a staunch bachelor for the previous 6 years and WG for the last 8.

At first, things were gorgeous and romantic and he seemed to not mind my work at all. He eventually left his wife (and 2 kids!!) to live with me. I continued to work and everything was mostly hunky dory. He came off his antiDs and was starting to become a fully formed confident, lovely bloke, despite the occasional anxious blip.

We have now moved into a proper flat together and things are getting real tense. I think he thought that the new flat would mean I'd stop working and get a 'normal' job. I am self employed and have various projects on the go so I need the flexibility. A normal day job would ultimately put my dreams to bed - and I would resent him for that.

On a side note: I have recently been invited to Vietnam for a week with a regular and the boyf went ape shit about this. I said I wouldn't go and to forget about it, but I'm quite devastated that I've had to turn it down. But, a decent relationship is worth more than an exotic jaunt...right?

He has started having reoccurring dreams about me barebacking punters and being violent towards him. Every day he mentions how he feels jealous and insecure about work - either I will get hurt or I will fall in love with another punter.

I feel like I need to submit to 'civvie street' just to quell his anxieties - do I wanna lose a loving relationship just so I can be a hooker for another decade? Not really...but this lifestyle is all I have ever known. The jobs market at best bores me, at worst terrifies me.

This guy wants to marry me as soon as I stop working. But it feels like it's all on his terms - that he wants to 'tame the shrew'. But I am not one to be domesticated!

What can I do to get him to see my work as WORK? He only sees it from his perspective when we first met and hit it off. I promise him that my bookings are much more clinical and mechanical but he can't believe it.

Ho hum...what's a WG to do? 

Been a while since I logged into SAAFE but I ran to the forum this morning...

Have been dating an ex client for exactly a year. I was his first WG and we hit it off straight away. He was in a miserable marriage, on antidepressants and in desperate need of love. I stepped up to the plate. Despite being a staunch bachelor for the previous 6 years and WG for the last 8.

At first, things were gorgeous and romantic and he seemed to not mind my work at all. He eventually left his wife (and 2 kids!!) to live with me. I continued to work and everything was mostly hunky dory. He came off his antiDs and was starting to become a fully formed confident, lovely bloke, despite the occasional anxious blip.

We have now moved into a proper flat together and things are getting real tense. I think he thought that the new flat would mean I'd stop working and get a 'normal' job. I am self employed and have various projects on the go so I need the flexibility. A normal day job would ultimately put my dreams to bed - and I would resent him for that.

On a side note: I have recently been invited to Vietnam for a week with a regular and the boyf went ape shit about this. I said I wouldn't go and to forget about it, but I'm quite devastated that I've had to turn it down. But, a decent relationship is worth more than an exotic jaunt...right?

He has started having reoccurring dreams about me barebacking punters and being violent towards him. Every day he mentions how he feels jealous and insecure about work - either I will get hurt or I will fall in love with another punter.

I feel like I need to submit to 'civvie street' just to quell his anxieties - do I wanna lose a loving relationship just so I can be a hooker for another decade? Not really...but this lifestyle is all I have ever known. The jobs market at best bores me, at worst terrifies me.

This guy wants to marry me as soon as I stop working. But it feels like it's all on his terms - that he wants to 'tame the shrew'. But I am not one to be domesticated!

What can I do to get him to see my work as WORK? He only sees it from his perspective when we first met and hit it off. I promise him that my bookings are much more clinical and mechanical but he can't believe it.

Ho hum...what's a WG to do? 

You are exciting to him until he gets bored of you it is obvious the honey moon period is over. In an relationship sharing the trust is important. He probably sees it like you choose them over him knocking his male ego.

All on his terms.?.

This is toxic it screams out to me he doesn't want you to be independent.It is not a job like we see it they see it different like we are having sex with other men. Some men cannot deal with it.

You are missing long bookings already because he says so. He sounds controlling sorry to say usually things get even more complicated and when it starts affecting you feeling trapped.


We are all strong independent woman.


Just to add you can't get him to see it his way like when we make our minds up no one is going to change it. Just being realistic here.

All of what VC and MD said.