it just seems like a barista saying they would never date a man who paid for coffee.

Sex paying for sex this is what it is all about not poxy coffee.

Sex paying for sex this is what it is all about not poxy coffee.

Isn't it though? I spend a lot of my takings in Costa
I think this view is just part of the fucked up societal view we have of sex.

Isn't it though? I spend a lot of my takings in Costa
I think this view is just part of the fucked up societal view we have of sex.

Sex or clients ? Sorry I don't understand what this means ?  Did I miss something !? Can you please explain this to me ? I think we just need accept the fact that some escorts see clients as nothing more that that ! Clients ! Same way some of them see us as nothing more than just sexual outlets ! 

Sex or clients ? Sorry I don't understand what this means ?  Did I miss something !? Can you please explain this to me ? I think we just need accept the fact that some escorts see clients as nothing more that that ! Clients ! Same way some of them see us as nothing more than just sexual outlets !

You're right, some see clients as just clients and can't fathom ever being in a relationship with one. I totally agree. But to say that they are all man sluts is ridiculous. I hate when people generalise and tar everyone with the same brush.

I find it rather laughable that because someone has paid for sex they are referred to as 'man sluts'.So in some peoples views if a bloke goes and sows his oats with a different women every week they meet on tinder while single then they make a better partner because they haven't paid for it?
Nobody is asking other escorts to date clients.I wasn't arsed to meet anyone client or otherwise but I accept anyone I meet will have had sexual partners before me and it doesn't really bother me if they have paid for it before.After all I sell it and to be disgusted with a client means I would have to be disgusted with myself!
My partner paid for a shag around once every 3 months over a 7 year period hardly hardcore sluttany given as I said some people go pull a different partner every week!

You're right, some see clients as just clients and can't fathom ever being in a relationship with one. I totally agree. But to say that they are all man sluts is ridiculous. I hate when people generalise and tar everyone with the same brush.

Absolutely agree. Not all clients are man sluts and trust me there are man sluts who aren't clients, I know a few! To say your standards are "high" because you choose to date a non client is laughable, he could still cheat on you or treat you like shit just as another other guy could, he's not better or any worse than a man who pays for sex.

How do those of you who believe your man is better than clients know 100% that he has never visited an escort? He may have, he may not have... Who cares? He nah have visited escorts way before he met you, and if you found out would your view and perception change of him all of a sudden? I kinda find that hypocritical.

Just because a man chooses to pay for sex doesn't make him lower than those who don't and it certainly doesn't make him a man slut there are various reasons a man may see escorts instead of civvies, loneliness, shyness, losing their virginity, not wanting to chase and thousands more.

To tar every single client with the same brush is ridiculous.

I have met some of the loveliest clients in my escorting time and I've also come across some real nasty civvy guys. Choosing to pay for sex doesn't define you as a person.

One thing that seems to come up regularly when we talk about dating customers is the question of 'does he want free sex?' My thought is, don't all men in a relationship want free sex? Sure they pay for it with dinners, cinema etc, but basically the girls are giving it away because they like the guy they are with..................What's the difference with us?

I guess the main concern might be if that's all they want really, I mean if you are looking for something more than just a casual relationship.

I agree with what others have said that some clients only use escorts when they are single, or because they are widowed or divorced and feeling lonely. I would not necessarily assume that a client will cheat on me with another escort at some point if I were to get involved. However I would never date a client (again) for many reasons. I have tried it and failed, although my heart really wasn't in it the first time. I would find it difficult to develop feelings for someone who has paid me for sex in the past. If I found out they had paid someone else for in the past that would not be a reason to break up.
 I now have very strict boundaries with clients and would never think of crossing the line, even with clients whose company I really enjoy and who I find attractive. One of the main reasons for this is I would be very concerned about them knowing my escort name and real name and one day outing me if we ever broke up.

So if you have a relationship with a client and it doesn't work, you never date a client again. If you go out with a civvie and it doesn't work do you never go out with a civvie again?

The fear of a client turned partner outing you when the relationship ends I can understand, but is it not the same fear as a non client finding out and then outing you when the relationship ends? Or him finding out and then ending the relationship because the entire relationship is built on a lie and you are not the person he thought you were?

I just think that the issues are exactly the same regardless of the client/civvie status of your man.