But at what point do you have that convo "BTW I'm a sex worker"? I wouldn't want to invest the time into a guy who then couldn't handle the idea ...

Usually at the point of genuinely liking and feeling comfortable with that person enough to think its worth telling them? What makes you think that a client is more likely to accept escorting as a career choice rather than someone who you meet outside of this work?

At least with a client, they have experience of sex workers and aren't likely to hold the same prejudices about us: that we're all drug users, work on the streets, have pimps, and/or are too stupid or unqualified to get a "real job".

Not that some punters don't have those preconceptions too, but if you've got to the point of considering a relationship, then I'd hope you've dispelled those myths already!

We're all different.
Some of the clients I've had I'd happily have a relationship with them. I've always loved random sex with strangers so I'm all for the swinger lifestyle, however most swingers are not even slightly attractive so I don't really bother with the scene.

I'd rather "see how it goes" with a client - who may potentially be turned on having a girlfriend/wife who has a secret escort job, than having to admit or lie forever about whoring myself to thousands of men.

I think the secret is is to 'date' any potential client boyfriends for a while without sex. If they go along with that then they are into *you* not just after freebies.

Beware of charming men / charming punters.  They are not what they seem.  My ex wasn't a punter, he charmed his way into the hearts of a catalogue of females of all types who fell for him. Katrina, it sounds like your ex dropped hints here and there 6 months into the relationship but you didn't think he had such a strong negative opinion about whoring?  This does happen to me.  When we are romantically involved and things seem to be fine, we tend to believe all is well when there were hidden cracks underneath.  I had to learn to pay attention and decipher when a man says something. 

Generally, no more men problems in my life, either.  Going out for daytime coffee / meet up to network with male friends but no more dating or falling into LTR  it will kill me!  Escorting is far more rewarding compared to LTR.  Clearly, if you succeeded in escorting and LTR, you have my congrats.  Xx

Beware of charming men / charming punters.  They are not what they seem.  My ex wasn't a punter, he charmed his way into the hearts of a catalogue of females of all types who fell for him. Katrina, it sounds like your ex dropped hints here and there 6 months into the relationship but you didn't think he had such a strong negative opinion about whoring?  This does happen to me.  When we are romantically involved and things seem to be fine, we tend to believe all is well when there were hidden cracks underneath.  I had to learn to pay attention and decipher when a man says something. 

Generally, no more men problems in my life, either.  Going out for daytime coffee / meet up to network with male friends but no more dating or falling into LTR  it will kill me!  Escorting is far more rewarding compared to LTR.  Clearly, if you succeeded in escorting and LTR, you have my congrats.  Xx

I would love the clients charming me up belongs they pay my fee. And they come back.

I know there are exceptions to this rule (as some on this thread have proven...being married etc to ex clients). However, I read a quote once that said a relationship will end where it begins and I think there is truth in that in the escort/client relationship. In other words, generally, if you meet your man in a context by which he is in control of what occurs to a greater extent, then what's the likelihood he will be the type of man who is willing to engage in an equal relationship? In my experience, the client I fell for wanted it to remain on his terms.

Omg you are so right!

I started a relationship with a client over 6 years ago. Much older than me but we really hit it off - in and out of the bedroom!

Everything was going fine for the first few months - we were smitten however then something went badly wrong and on 2 occasions which were a couple of weeks apart, because he was uncomfortable with a situation and didn't make me aware of this he dealt with it himself and his way of dealing with it was to see an escort! I was absolutely devastated when I found out and things were never the same after. Brought on a ton of trust issues that have never left.

After that he decided a proper LTR was never going to be for him, not with me or anyone....well he likes the company, regular sex etc... but doesn't want things to move on. He's quite happy with us both living separately and it never being anything more. We see each other every week and for him that's enough. I came to the conclusion that I would rather have this than nothing and that I was happy with us staying in the "dating" stage of a relationship whilst it's also enabling me to continue in this line of work. However one big thing is that eventually I want more and I know he wont/can't give this to me!

I have become too involved and comfortable and the thought of stating afresh with someone new fills me with dread but I don't want to be a spinster all my life! I'm in my mid 30's with no kids and if it's not to late I would like the chance of "settling down" with someone and having a family....BUT it's easier said than done. It's all too easy with ex-client guy - we have a great time together, go on holidays, meals out and rarely argue. It's like a normal relationship but it isn't!

So yeah it's on his terms and when it ends he'll happily go back to punting to fulfil his needs! 

I think Shewolf is referring to clients booking us exactly when they want to - when they feel the urge. The pick up and put it down whenever they feel like it approach with no strings which they could then carry through to a relationship. So in that respect they are in control and may find it difficult to relinquish that when it comes to being in a LTR where compromises have to be made and someone else to consider